Do you believe it is easier for a married couple to have a happy successful marriage if they are opposites or if they are very much alike?
This is something I've pondered a lot over the past 29 years of marriage to my husband. We are sooo different. He's an extrovert. I'm an introvert. He's spontaneous. I'm a planner. He's messy. I'm organized. He's a health nut. I'm a junk food junkie. He doesn't care what anyone thinks about him. I often care too much what people think about me. He rarely holds his tongue. I always think before I speak. He's into action movies and meanlingless chit chat. I enjoy anything artsy and deep meaningful conversations. He likes to go.. go.. go. I'm rather a homebody. He hates to read. I love to read. Well....you get the picture.
I suppose after reading that, it seems to be a miracle we have made it for 29 years. But maybe our differences have helped us in someway. Perhaps we balance one another out.
Don't get me wrong...our differences have caused problems in the past. For instance, the time he called me up and informed me he was bringing the minister, his wife, and 2 kids home for dinner in about 20 minutes. I was freaking out, but he had already invited them and they were on the way. Fortunately I had a nice dinner already in the oven. But my house was a wreck. I gathered up all of the mess and threw it all into my bedroom and shut the door.
The evening went surprisingly well. The food was good, and the conversation was interesting. When it was time for them to leave, they thanked us...and then noticed their 5 year old son wasn't in the room. So they called him. No answer. They headed down the hall. No answer. I was following...panicking...and sure enough, my bedroom door was open. He was in there, and his entire family ended up seeing all of the junk I had thrown into my room last minute. I was mortified, but just smiled and played it off. Needless to say, after they left...I had a little conversation with my husband.
So, what do you think? Is it better to be opposites or alike when married? And if married...are you married to someone like you or someone very different?
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Comments: 18
If life and war has not taught us anything it is that we must strive to adapt or be left by the wayside.
I think there are many combinations which can make people right for one another, but what keeps ppl together can be an independent element, like value of the commitment. ?
Not really. As long as the core values are the similiar, the rest isn't such a big deal.
I think opposites are not a good idea as they just before polarizing as the years go by.
hon I don't hear from you at all anymore are you okay?
divorced after 28 years...
I think it can work for you and against you. There is also nothing saying that the person that you marry will stay that way, everyone changes, its just a matter of changing together and constantly renewing what you both like to do(and making sacrifices when necessary).
He taught me how to stand up for myself, to see myself in a better light, to stop apologizing when an apology wasn't in order, and he taught me to be a stronger person than I really was!
To change, I knew I had to want it and I'm the person now, that I always wanted to be. George and I are pretty much alike now with the same morals, beliefs, and ideas.