It once took a whole community

As I was reading some of my comments at various forums both served by Britains finest hosting services and the United States hosting services for the world wibe web, I discovered much of the same concerns are affecting us globally. This particular concern on youths with weapons, guns mostly was given brief www airtime two years ago at a friend of mine's forum, Angel's Cafe  and approaching these stories with caution then, has made it worse for elementary, junior and senior highschool students across the countries, now to attend school without being afraid of getting shot.

No matter where youths are, hostile mismanaged anger leads to violence that may help them get noticed, but in an adverse way. I hear educators discussing that some of their students call from home and request if the class can be made up at a local library or some other place than where a shooting might occur.

These youths that have some kind of developmental disorder that allows then to overide rational thinking and non-violent behavior, have been made this way. Communities are so more responsible for it than just the immediate family, parents or single mother or father. Our youths today demonstrate their independence through an act, a word, a protest with just sitters, shooting through a dozen or so kids in a classroom ?  What is wrong with this picture ? It is terrible how the media attracts the attention of the masses knowing that youths making up at least 2/3rd of the viewing population are watching so glorify what youths get away with.

In my opinion this only makes it worse. Am I in this feeling alone ?  

But what do we expect our children to go and do when escalations of hostile behavior leading into possible violent outbursts at home don't stop at the threshold of the front door and the driveway, for example. What starts at home and in family get-togethers leaves with them every time they leave your 'protective surroundings'. I really wish it could go back to the days when communities raised the children in the neighborhood instead of just the parents.

It was every adult who believed in shaping the minds of our offspring who gave a plethora of benefitting values, morals, standards and concepts they could see for themself, worked, usually. But a normal regular nuclear or non-nuclear family does not interact consistently perfect 24-7 365 days of every year. The human is just not built that way; however, differentiating what makes a gender male or gender female react a certain way is only programmed if chosen to be accepted as programmable positive bridge-building material. It is unfortunate that a higher power gave us also the ability to destroy besides create. When everyone was involved in protecting our children but also teaching them how to earn respect by respecting themselves, parents cannot do this job alone--well they can but it is so much harder when the police or the govt or social services feels they should intervene.

Take this for example (a scenario with no facts legit, just made up but similar situations have been known to happen)--- A single mother robs a local foodmart but only takes 2 cans of baby formula, a pack of diapers, a package of frozen steak um thingies, and a loaf of sliced bread. She pulls an unloaded gun from her purse and asks for only $10.oo to hold her till next week. She claims she is sorry and turns away out the door. A policemen pulls over and yells from his front passenger window to drop the groceries, get on her knees and drop the weapon. She says no, my babies and lurches forward. He hits her with a bullet in the knee and cuffs her anyway. Her children two doors up, watch as their momma is taken away by a car with many lights and loud noises. Her children get thrown in foster care, her husband died at his job two years ago, she has had no work in three months and her eldest walked into school with a knife in his back jean pocket . . . She will never see them again and the law believes they did her a favor ???????????????? Her eldest is headed for high school with now, not a knife, he'll be packing a gun. He wants to find the s&N of a B*%T#*&g cop that slammed his mom in prison, thats right folks, prison not just jail for thirty days. This police department wants to make an example of her, for good future measure of single mothers seeing this is what happens . . . 

Her fault, no but society putting her where she was without any assistance, their fault, YES ! She was not very new to the local community, people knew her, she had friends but everyone was desperate and she went one step ahead for her family practising the statement I despise most, the 'whatever it takes concept' getting herself 'marked' in society as a thief not to be trusted. Now what ? Things will get misconstrued, tongues will go wagging, eyes will go roving and insecurities will flare into an atrocity we started in the first place. Okay, I could go on forever so I shall stop since I see I kind of veered off the topic I was solely concentrating on.

See what happens when I flustered with aggrivation !!!!!  

 Agree or not ? and see why are kids are led to use violent means, cause its a struggle we talk about but do little to see that it does not get worse ! okay, I feel better now and thank you for listening !

'till next time, sharing the light and happy June,
Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A.
Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer,
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