Abstinence, Birth control or ?

NO brainer....the bible says abstience

Birth control - that's always been my choice. :)

Birth Control

Birth control is one option. Sterilization is the other, but then you can't have children at all afterward. I believe that young couples should practice birth control or abstain from relations during times of ovulation. If young couples can wait for a few years before having their children it gives them time to adjust to living with one another and gives them time to kick up their heels, so to speak, before becoming responsible parents. I don't think jumping into parenthood right after marrying is the way to go for any couple. Even though you think you may know your spouse, there are many things to learn after marriage. Many children caught in a divorce may have been spared the agony if the couple had adjusted to marriage and learned more about their partners.

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Thank you Barbara B for seeing the true 'light' in this post and how practicing 'waiting' in the long run, provides for a better if not more solid, relationship. Thank you !

You're welcome, Erica. Sorry this took so long to respond, but I was out of town for a couple of days and away from my computer.

This is funny and sad. It is so completely out of touch with reality that it is hard to respond to. We, in the US, live in a country where 12 year olds are sexually active, like they were in the middle ages.

Abstinence is a fantasy that is terribly damaging to our society because some people, including those who run our current Federal government, avoid teaching birth control to our children because they believe in this meaningless concept. This approach is also foisted on foreign countries as a condition of much foreign aid. That is an evil crime in my opinion.

I say "meaningless" because 800 gazillion teenage pregnancies prove it is meaningless to the real people who need help and advice the most. There may be nothing wrong with mentioning abstinence in passing, but it is probably a waste of breath. We need to be teaching kids about birth control and safe sex. End of story. Anything else is just plain wrong.

If kids are raised in an environment where they learn that abstinence by children is wise, then they may be lucky and represent a minority that needs no help (on this issue, anyway). However, abstinence has never been significant as a social practice anywhere in the world, at any time in history, in my opinion.

I was married for 10 years before we had kids. I agree with your concept of having kids at a mature age or state of mind. However, abstinence by a married couple is a bizarre concept, to say the least.

Well, I say both abstinence and good ol' natural methods of birth control. It has worked for me and I have been married for over 8 years. Will not give any more detail than the fact that at least for my husband and I, abstinence is not "bizarre", there are other ways to show love and please your man without sex.