What Kind of Teacher Does This?
by Marilyn Mackenzie
Miost of us don't need Dr. Phil to remind us that what we say to people - especially to children - stays with them.Â How we act towards people can affect their entire lives.Â All if takes is one brief moment of yelling and screaming at a child to make him/her think he is unworthy of being loved.Â
Abusers use this to their advantage.Â Ask me; I know.Â My first husband spent 5 years telling me that I was fat, dumb and ugly.Â Deep within me, I knew that I weighed only 108 poungs (at 5'4"), that my IQ tested as 142 as a child, and that most people found me pleasingly attractive, even if I wasn't beautiful.Â But hearing those words for 5 years made me question myself.Â Thankfully, I got out of that marriage.Â (That's another story for another time.Â Sadly, I didn't leave until the behavior turned from verbal and mental abuse to physical.Â And, yes, many verbal/emotional abusers do finally turn physically abusive!).
But I digress.
ABC/Good Morning America aired a story today about a teacher who was caught on a tape recorder telling a kindergarten child that he was ignorant, pathetic, and self-absorbed.Â It wasn't the first time this child had trouble with this teacher.Â That's the reason the parents planted a digital tape recorder on him.Â They wanted to find out for themselves what was happening in the classroom.Â And find out they did!
Here's the write up at ABC:Â Teacher Caught on Tape: Kindergartner 'Ignorant, Pathetic, Self-Absorbed'
And here's an article about the teacher's union defending her from MSNBC's site:Â Teacher suspended over boy's recording
The teacher's union seems to think that she just lost it that day andÂ "she was unfairly disciplined by administrators."
What do you think?Â Should a teacher be allowed to talk with a kindergarten child this way?Â Should she retain her job?Â Without discipline?Â Without counseling?
What would you require before this teacher could be reinstated?