This is the follow up I promised telling how I took my son to the doctor for an official autism diagnosis.. And, this is basically how the visit went..
Let me start off by saying that my son has problems sitting still in school. He's very bright but, lacks the necessary discipline to carry tasks through to their completion. It began with him having bowel movement issues. At seven years old my son refuses to go poo in the potty. Poo, the only word that describes what I call his accidents but, I do digress.
He had began going number two in his pants in school for a month straight, they were calling me everyday to bring him home for the nurse can't do anything. I had to stop what I was doing, take him out of class, clean him up and bring him back. Then, after I took care of this problem by taking him to the doctor and getting laxatives.. Then, he begins behaving badly by throwing fits, hitting his classmates and stuff of this nature.
Well, I take him to the doctor hoping that the diagnosis of autism can finally help him somehow. Namely by getting help from the health department. When I get to the appointment the doctor has no clue why I am there. They have told him nothing. So, I proceed to explain his problems and everything that has been happening over the course of his life..
Let me tell you that I happened to be sick that day and I did not want to postpone the appointment because I had just waited too long as it was for lack of insurance. (Our family had recently got new insurance after not having any for a year and a half) Well, by the end of our conversation when I tell himt that my son has austism, He looks at me and asks, "Who told you that?"
And, that is when he suggested that my son exhibits the symptoms of autism and ADHD. So, he has both these things according to him and that the ADHD is supposedly his main problem and asks if I want to put my son on medication. And, I think about it and say I will try it to see if it works...
Well, needless to say that the medication did nothing for him. It made him angry, made him cry at nothing and he threw fits and screamed more. In essence, the medication did not make him pay attention. And, yet again I knew.
I knew the medication would not work. I knew that my son was autistic and that's it. No amount of drugs is going to change him, nor make him mind. The doctor was wrong from my own opinion and from the recent appointment just today, he finally told me that he is just at a loss as to what can be done for my boy. He referred me to a psychologist. I will let you know how it goes. Come by again for the next installment.




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He may not show it, but it's got to be tough for him to to go back to class after an accident.
My grandson is autistic. It is a slow road but worth the rewards. My best wishes to you and your son, Angela.
I am going to read your other articles because I don't have a clear idea of what issues your son has had - or how long. However, if you ever need to vent, feel free to contact me. I can certainly share experiences with ADD. One son with it just made the Dean's list but we were told by a so-called expert that he would probably "never learn to read" and that he'd be hopelessly dyslexic. That diagnosis came after a whole day of testing and I was a young, gullible mother willing to trust experts. I am a different person now.
I wish you the best and I know you'll advocate for your child. Stay strong, stay tough and trust your instincts. My heart goes out to you.
I like your wriiting style - it is easy to read, kinda like having a simple conversation with you.
As far as your son and his issues - (and yours, because you are living through them as much as he is) anything that can't be physically diagnosed (and again I have not a clue what I 'm talking about, just rambling) - it may take time to number one find the right doctor, which is of the utmost importance, and number two get the diagnosis that really fits him.
I wish you luck and love ~J
I have been sick for the past day and a half.. And, I am very weak right now..
But, to comment on the medication.. I have to say that I have always been leery of medicating anyone..I don't like taking any myself. They have too many side affects to my mind. That being said..
Nothing ever works with medication alone. Everything in life takes dedication. And, not all ADD medications work at first, you have to adjust the dosage and such..
Well, I forgot to add that at the last doctor's visit, he recommended that I keep him off the medication because of how flat out aggressive the meds made him. He was getting into too much trouble at school and he was not gaining any focus like he should. In essence the medication gave him all the nasty side effects and none of the benefits.
Thank all of you that commented, I appreciate it.
Carlie I have heard of many different meds for ADD and I am not sure they are for my son. He seems to be at an even keel right now without medication.. He has these spurts. One month he's behaved and the next..
Well, he gets these tantrums. Thanks for your suggestion, my pediatrician already suggested getting the school psychologist involved, I will look into this next year since it's too late this year.
To Sarah, thanks for sympathisizing. Some doctors only think they know everything..
When my peditrician finally admitting he did not know what to do for my son I was frankly shocked thinking he would still think he knew what was best. But, thank goodness he finally realized there was nothing he could do.
Well, thanks again to everyone who commented I am truly grateful.
When I have time I will comment on all your work!
Thanks bunches.
It can be difficult to diagnose anyone especially a child that has no words to truly express how they feel inside.
Anywho, thanks for coming back and commenting Jo, I appreciate it.
My son appeared to be a classic case of ADHD to everybody; he couldn't sit still for a second, and he was also very late before he was toilet trained. The story of what we went through with him is neither short nor pretty, and I wrote about it on Gather up until the point that I brought the family back to the United States to get help for him, so I feel for you. Finding the necessary support network isn't easy; I had to travel halfway around the world to find it. I wish for you and your child success in finding the assistance that you need.
Maurice thank you for enlightening me on your story. It might just be something I can look into. I can ask the psychologist when I make the appointment for him which might not be until next year.
You maybe just brought a very important aspect I haven't looked up before.
Thanks for coming by and taking the time to comment and wish me well.
I feel for you too.
But, thanks for coming by and offering advice, Alison.
Maybe I will look into this in the future though.
The schools really can't do anything for kids with special needs anymore. They just lump them in a class with other kids and expect them to do well. I can't teach my son at home, so I commend you for doing so. To be honest, I look forward to the time by myself.
I have no one else to take him off my hands. And, the teacher didn't do too badly, if I do say myself.
I'm glad to see that we have something in common Terry, and you stopped by to share your life with me.
But, I have no funds and my insurance is not paying for anything these days.
But, when I find a way, and the force of will, I will get my son the best care he needs.
Thanks Donna, for helping me with my points and caring.
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