by Priscilla (wishing I was in Costa Rica) ~.
Member since:
January 10, 2006

Why I won't be visiting your Mother's Day Articles~

May 02, 2008 11:26 AM EDT
views: 153 | comments: 60

I see that everyone (or so it seems) is writing Mother's Day articles.

I just wanted to let everyone know, that even if this is the only article you have written in a long time, or even if you send me a mass email to visit it - I won't be doing so.

Not to be mean of course, but I lost my Mom to lung-cancer the day after Christmas this past Christmas & Mother's Day is making me feel raw & emotional. So I am staying away from all the Mother's Day articles - I don't want to break into tears reading all of these wonderful articles. - So please understand!

Please - cherish your Mom - you never know how long you will have her with you~

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Comments: 60

Peter Joseph Swanson May 2, 2008, 11:34am EDT
Sorry for your loss.
Ashley B. May 2, 2008, 11:35am EDT
Perfectly understandable. If I was in your situation, I wouldn't visit them either. That being said, I don't write Mother's Day articles and have no intention of ever doing so. I just wish I could find articles worth reading on here anymore. It seems the real people are hard to find and all the new articles are spam of some sort trying to sell me something or go to another site. Where's all the quality work?
Bridget ♥ May 2, 2008, 11:40am EDT
I'm so sorry for your loss
Paula T. May 2, 2008, 11:43am EDT
I'm sorry for your loss as well. This must be a very hard time of year for you. I hope you manage through it ok.
Jodie P. May 2, 2008, 11:44am EDT
Oh so very sorry for your loss. and know one should be upset with you.
Michelle M. May 2, 2008, 11:46am EDT
I understand completely, sorry for your loss.
Kay M. May 2, 2008, 11:46am EDT
It will be a tough day for you. Take care.
Beth - Doing God's work Daily J. May 2, 2008, 11:46am EDT
I totally understand... I know that I may post something and I won't be upset.
Monica H. May 2, 2008, 12:01pm EDT
Priscilla---Sending you HUGS during this painful time for you!!
Lisa J May 2, 2008, 12:16pm EDT
Priscilla, I am very sorry for your loss. It is really hard the first few years. The only thing that made me certain I would come to terms with the loss of my father was the realization at his death that my mother had been dead nearly 25 years, and it was no longer the first thought at birthdays or Christmases.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
carolyn b. May 2, 2008, 12:31pm EDT
I truly understand and I'm so sorry for your loss, Be Blessed!
I remember well what that first Mother's Day was like after my Mom died, and wouldn't wish it on anyone. Make it a point to remember happy things, but give yourself permission to cry. You will.
Tabitha M. May 2, 2008, 12:50pm EDT
I am so happy and know how blessed I am to have my mom around. I'm sorry you are grieving, and your feelings are completely justified.
Marianne R. May 2, 2008, 12:58pm EDT
I totally understand. You know, it might be nice if YOU wrote an article to your mom. I'd be sure to read it. Hugs to ya, girl. I know it's gotta be tough.
DiAnA D. May 2, 2008, 12:59pm EDT
I understand Priscilla.. I lost my mom in 2001 to pancreatic cancer and while the pain has subsided.. there are days I am profoundly sad.. I always feel her presence especially in church.. may you be so blessed and thank you for your posting
Tina W. May 2, 2008, 1:06pm EDT
I understand
Kim A. May 2, 2008, 1:22pm EDT
I'm sorry,Priscilla.

Blessings&Love to you.
CyberGwen ! May 2, 2008, 1:45pm EDT
I totally understand and am sorry for your loss:(
Kellie S. May 2, 2008, 1:59pm EDT
Priscilla, I won't be writing any Mother's Day articles. Let's you and me go to Costa Rica instead! :)

Sorry you lost your mom.
Sandra T. May 2, 2008, 2:43pm EDT
Priscilla, feel completely blessed you had your mom this long. My mom passed when I was 2 years old. Mother's Day has always been hard for me. I'm hoping someday to have my own children, that will help Mother's Day mean something better for me.

I am truly sorry for your loss.
I totally understand. I am feeling the same way also. I am dreading Mothers day this year. This will be the first for me without my mother. I think though that I might get a bench for her grave so that us kids can sit when we visit her.
Amanda T. May 2, 2008, 3:49pm EDT
I totally understand & sorry for your loss.
Thank you everyone, for your understanding.
Marianne, that is a great idea - I just don't know if I can do it.
Mary M. May 2, 2008, 5:46pm EDT
Priscilla, you are not alone. My mom is still with me, thankfully. I'll be praying for you and others for whom Mother's Day is not a joyous day. I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be heartbreaking for you.
jessica s. May 2, 2008, 5:48pm EDT
sorry for your loss. i dont blame you, fathers day this year will be tough for me. my dad passed this past november =(
Jennifer N. May 2, 2008, 6:19pm EDT
I think I would have done the same thing. I'm sorry for your loss.
~*~Nina~*~ R. May 2, 2008, 6:25pm EDT
I truly understand your loss Priscilla. For a long time every holiday was upsetting for me. Sometimes they still are, and it has been 31 years since my mom died! Your advice about cherishing every moment is so true. My mother went to sleep and never woke up. She was 49 years old.
I am trying to write an article about her to honor her, but it is difficult even now. You learn to cope, but you never get over it! God Bless You.
Ang, wandering aimlessly, G. May 2, 2008, 7:04pm EDT
Priscila, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it can be on holidays. I still have a hard time on Valentines day (the day my dad passed away) and sometimes on fathers day. My dad passed away 6 yrs ago.

I understand what you are going through. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Jo C. May 2, 2008, 7:54pm EDT
I hope you take care of yourself and bring out the memories of your mother and cherish them when you feel ready, with your own timing.
Donald M. May 2, 2008, 9:31pm EDT
I understand completely. My daughter , sons and grandchildren are all I have besides the team of Donald and Norma . Yes we are a great team. We are ;best friends, sweethearts, lovers, and helpers to each other. Neither of us have had parents around for a long time. It does not get out of your mind, doesnt go away, just seems to get easier with time.
Donald M. May 2, 2008, 9:35pm EDT
Priscilla, I watched the news. Saw all the damage above me. Lynn in Tennessee said it was getting so bad she had to get offline. I saw that in Canton, Texas there was enough wind to do some damage. Are you okay in the town where you live.?????
Arkansas had many tornadoes, knocking down houses. This has nothing to do with subject but I need to know you are safe and okay.
Alainia~ Tha one n only~ a. May 2, 2008, 11:11pm EDT
I'm sorry for your loss! God bless you and your family.
Steph-in-NE ..... May 2, 2008, 11:40pm EDT
Sorry for your loss, I am doing the best for mine,, my plate has been full with her personal matter the past few weeks
Cathy N. May 3, 2008, 12:09am EDT
I understand, that is why I wrote an article last year for those of us without our mothers.
http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474976996954&nav=MyGather
Norma, we are safe & sound. The tornados missed us. Just had lots of rain coming down hard & fast!
JoAnn C. May 3, 2008, 6:29pm EDT
completely understandable Priscilla.
Mariana T. May 3, 2008, 6:34pm EDT
Awww Priscilla -bless your heart and I'm so sorry for your loss - I know the feeling as I lost mine two years ago - Take care of yourself. Salud.
Teresa W. May 3, 2008, 6:49pm EDT
I am so sorry, please take care of yourself
Karolyn Q. May 3, 2008, 10:07pm EDT
My mom's passing was two years in October and it is still hard. I totally understand.
Kim M. May 4, 2008, 10:46am EDT
I understand, Priscilla. I lost my mom back in '02 and still have a very hard time from Valentine's Day (their anniversary) through August (her birthday). Between those times are all our family member's bdays and she had passed away at the end of June.

We lost mom in law on the day after Christmas last year, on hubby's bday. It was some consolation to me that I still had my mom in law but now that she's gone, Mother's Day has been the worst holiday for me since I have neither of them with me anymore. I've been trying to avoid walking into the card sections in the stores and seeing all the Mother's Day cards.
Dagmara H. May 4, 2008, 7:16pm EDT
I am sorry to heat that. I am sure all the Gather will understand, so don't worry and please take care of yourself.
Kelly M. May 4, 2008, 9:14pm EDT
I am sorry for your loss - we are going through a similar situation - my MIL has Stage 4 Lung Cancer and my FIL has Stage 4 colon cancer
Aubrey :) May 5, 2008, 9:25am EDT
I lost my mom too Dec. 17 last year from breast cancer. It is hard. I'm not looking forward to Mother's Day either.

I totally understand.

Sorry for you loss. Many blessings to you this Mother's Day!!!
Mary S. May 5, 2008, 9:36am EDT
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mother passed (from a heart attack in her sleep) October of 2001. While "regular" days do get easier, Mother's Day, her "anniversary", and her birthday have never gotten easier. Which really sucks for my daughters, because they want me to be happy on Mother's Day.

Sending hugs your way...
Vera B. May 5, 2008, 11:51am EDT
I do understand, thank you for sharing such raw feelings
☀ Aunt Shanny May 5, 2008, 11:52am EDT
"Please - cherish your Mom - you never know how long you will have her with you~"

I do :)
juley g. May 5, 2008, 11:54am EDT
I am so sorry, Priscilla! I'm sure this holiday is very hard. Take care.
Amanda C. May 5, 2008, 11:58am EDT
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard that day will be for you.
{{{HUGS}}}
Jerri H. May 5, 2008, 1:48pm EDT
I understand completely....I am going to hug my mom a little tighter for you. I will not be writing a mother's day article....it used to make me cry for years because of wanting a baby and thinking I would never have one.
Holly G. May 5, 2008, 9:22pm EDT
Sorry Priscilla, that really stinks. I wouldn't be reading them either...
Tiffany G. May 5, 2008, 9:34pm EDT
Still here for you Priscilla.. Im wondering if my husband will take it okay or how he will.. rememebr his mom passed December 15th from cancer.. I read today that Bhawana lost her mother December 31st.. so your definitly not alone.. I think we all understand your feelings on this.. Just know I will be thinking about you... hugs!
Carol P. May 6, 2008, 9:29am EDT
Priscilla, I am so sorry for your loss. Mother's Day is one of my worst days of the year. Whan you lose your only child, you are still a Mother. But the pain is unbearable at times. I completely undertstand your pain. I lost my Mom when I was only 14..she was 39. Life is so unfair.

Hugs to you my friend.

Know that you are not alone in your pain.
Phil G. May 8, 2008, 7:39am EDT
Sorry for your loss. One virtual Hug just because you need it.
j - Frugal Mom - r. May 11, 2008, 2:40pm EDT
Priscilla this is my first mother's day without my mother as well, and like you I also have a bunch of mixed emotions about today. I am staying home with my kids, I have no special plans, and I just want to be "alone" with my thoughts. My kids have been good, they've been watching movies today, and they did bless me with a wonderful bouquet of wildflower this morning (which you've already seen).

I hope you are able to find peace with yourself today, and that your mom will feel as close to you, as my mom does to me.
Mrslisae Photography E. May 30, 2008, 2:25pm EDT
grief sucks....(((((((hugs))))))) I avoid Christmas - don't feel bad

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