To say I'm annoyed is a total understatement.
I have a friend who has a compulsive habit of cancelling plans. I am attempting to get a bunch of people together to go out to this fabulous Italian restaurant in Manhattan on May 17th.
"Why are you planning two weeks ahead?" some of you may ask.
Because the restaraurant is extremely tiny and extremely excellent and if reservations aren't made, especially for large groups, in advance, it's impossible to get a table. Even with a party of 2 it's impossible without a reservation.
Anyway...when I went out with this friend of mine the other night I asked her when she'd be available to go out. I know her schedule books up quickly. She said she'd check her calander and get back to me. She checked and said May 17th is the way to go.
So I emailed all of my friends to let them know of the fun night out. Responses are pouring in. Some people can't go but the majority of people can. YAY!
So yesterday I get an e-mail from my friend that she probably has to miss the night because her friends is having a party that night. I told my friend, "I thought the point of you checking your calendar was so you could choose a night that you are available."
"I did check my calendar but things come up," was her only response.
She said that maybe she'd meet us for drinks before the party. I said to her that would make no sense considering we are all going for drinks AFTER dinner and dessert and the reservation is for 8PM. She is more likely to be able to make the dinner than drinks. I also made a snide sarcastic comments, "it's not like I planned this particular date around you or anything like that."
Anyway...I'm annoyed to say the least because this ALWAYS happens with this particular friend. Something always comes up. It's ridiculous. I don't understand why it is so hard to make plans and keep them.
Bottom line is that the people who ARE going are going to have a fun night with or without her there but I just get so annoyed when people do things like this. It's aggrivating.
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Comments: 15
I would say let the ball lay in her court. Stop making plans with her and when she realizes what she's missing, she'll start making plans with you. But don't make it too easy. I am not a game player, but I've noticed that when you take a step back from a friend and don't make yourself readily available, then they don't see you as "at their beck-and-call." (I love "Pretty Woman.")
And I completely agree with Sue: your friend made plans with you 2 weeks in advance and something else came up that she is picking over you.
Your night sounds totally fun (can I come!?) and she is going to miss out. Go, have fun with the friends who stick to their plans and forget about her. :)
I had just bought a new house with a big living room 18 x 36 with a second floor over-looking inside balcony. I invited everyone at work to come over and have our facility Christmas party there, about two weeks away. Everyone agreed it was a great idea.
A few days later someone asked how big my Christmas tree was. I said that I never put up Christmas trees. No one said anything. Two days before the party (after I had decorated, purchase snacks, drinks, etc., ) one of the people told me everyone had voted and unanamously decided to go to someone elses house who had a tree. I was insulted but agreed to go that party without making a fuss.
I was delighted, however, when the party turned into a disaster as many of the 40+ people had no place to sit, the kids eventually knocked over the tree, and several people had plates of food spilled on them.
Am I sick or what?
I feel your pain.