Please give me your opinion of this???? Girl and girl at prom???

it has been years since my sons went and they took their dates home and slept in there own beds so ????????

My daughter has a male date to the prom, but many of the females who don't have dates go together. As for the room after the prom, my daughter is coming home.

they're probably dating and just don't want to tell thier mom

This a sound of the times.

As you know my son has been out of school for a long time, so I am really out of touch with such things.

I can understand the girls going together if they don't have dates, but not renting a hotel room! If I was the parent, there's no way I'd let them do that!

I graduated in 1993. My senior year a group of us got together and went to prom as a group! there were 8 girls and 5 guys!

I went with my friend who happened to be a girl to Junior prom...both of our boyfriends couldnt make it so we went together and had a great time.

I graduated in 95. Mostly it was boy/girl couples (and they all ended up in hotel rooms afterwards) but some groups of friends did go to prom (and then home).

Prom is over-rated

Thank you for sharing your views and experiences with me. I must really be antiquated.

As long as they keep their clothes on until they get to their room.

I never went to prom .. but a lot of my friends did and the girls who didn't have dates went with other girls. Even now me and my friend will go to clubs together .. whats the difference? (other then age!) We have even got hotel rooms together on trips and what not and we aren't gay! LOL .. I would wonder though if the girls weren't telling the parents there going to the room together and then maybe bringing some boys though. I know as a teen I snuck boys... places they were not supposed to be!

Girls going together has always been done.

And we always got hotel rooms after prom, so none of us would drink and drive.

I see two possibilities here: that they are going as a couple or that they are going as friends without dates. I don't have a problem with either. I do have a problem with the hotel room, whether it is used as a party room or a "together" room. I don't think teenagers should be allowed to have unsupervised hotel rooms. I don't see this as a need for afterprom, and I see the "party" room as a recipe for disaster. And, while I know some teens are sexually active, I cannot give my teen the parental approval to head in that direction. I won't close my eyes to the likelihood that they are experimenting, and I WILL make sure they know all they need to protect themselves and their partner, but I will NOT sign off on the behavior, and I WILL make sure they know those are not the values I expect of them.

hmmmm, im on the fence w/ this one.

Wow, that is odd. I could see two best friends shopping for dresses together, double dating, etc. But not doing it this way! And no way would my kid be getting a hotel room afterwards with my knowledge. At my prom, I went with a guy I barely knew, an acquaintance of a friend. Turned out we couldn't stand each other and he danced with his buddies and I danced with mine, just a big group of kids having fun. I wasn't going to let a dork ruin my big evening. LOL.

Just saw Shannon's comment. Drinking would be another of my stricter areas. Drinking and driving would NEVER be condoned...my kids knew if they screwed up and drank they were to call US to come drive. My son is now 22, has never been a problem, and actually did call me once at 2am to come get him after a friend's 21st birthday celebration. I don't know why I have been so lucky, but I still would not have implied that getting drinks for underage minors would be condoned because there was a hotel room to crash in. I think that the lowered level of personal control that accompanies drinking would make a hotel room even more of a danger to my child and his or her date.

Well, I think that it might bother me..but, also, WHO am I to judge? I think, that our society is just to "strict" with rules...as in "the inside" rules...I think that if I could have found a friend, and a female friend at that, who would have danced with me, then heck, I would have gone...I almost asked a male friend of mine who I had a crush on..but, I thought that he was already taken or going..so I didn't ask, and didn't go!
I think that I have somehow regretted that decision!! Oh well!!

But, this is the modern times...and I think that all of us human beings just need to get off of our butts and DEAL with the facts that people do not love or like people of the different sex...they can like or love the same sex! Also, if it is only a dance...it is ONLY a dance...and if you want to take a friend...as in maybe you do NOT have a male companion...and you just wanna dance...and go and have a great time in your lifetime..then by all means, go for the gusto!!

I think that in Europe, and other countries girls dance with other girls...it's the "norm" there! They are NOT hindered by sex, race, or other issues! THey are much more "open-minded" from what I have heard, seen and read about!! I have also danced with women...I am NOT bi or gay or in the closet! I have danced with girls because I enjoy my life...and they enjoy theirs...and heck, "YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE, SO MAKE THE BEST OF IT!!!!"

I think that you can get used to this...but, for a LOT of people, they are NOT used to it...because maybe it isn't the way that their town is..and they have only seen a small part of things...they have NOT been out in the world...or they don't agree with this behavior..there are a TON of reasons why....but, what about the "WHY NOT'S?!!!?"

Don't worry...just take your time..and open up more...go slowly...and maybe you will even dance a few with a great female friend..and no,, you are NOT gay or bi, if you do this!! Just ENJOY your life and make it the BEST!!!!

Julie K.


P.S. There is this story that always floats around about this old woman or old man that says "If I were to live life over again...I would...ride more merry-go-rounds, etc...."
I think alot about this list....and I think, I have to do MORE of this...so I can really enjoy myself on Earth, while I am here!! This is IMPORTANT for/to me!!
Thinks about that....what is IMPORTANT for or to you? and WHY?!?

Thanks again for all these great view points. I appreciate it. My friend is so upset.

I think it is great that these girls don't miss going to their prom. I got to go in 1972 and I had a wonderful time. My sister was going to go in 1970 but her date cancelled and she was disappointed.

If two same sex couples go, I don't see a reason why not... Yes, it has been a boy girl deal for decades, but why should gay teens be unable to participate? Why should they be banned or punished? Since people have come out of the closet society has changed and I think lawyers would be hired if schools didn't allow it. From what I hear the attitudes of the other students are not what they were decades ago.

The hotel room is not one I would go, being girls wouldn't they be able to sleep over at one of their homes?

This made me recall what my 15 y/o nephew was talking about a few weeks ago. He thinks it crazy that in his school, the kids all think its cool to be gay and it seems it has become the new in thing in his school. I personally dont believe in it, but I do not judge someone by there choices. I think its time alot of the parents sit down and have a long talk with some of these kids. Its really a scary thought, for me anyways.

Im not sure this is a good idea, the parents might want to have a true heart to heart with her. Also with the other parents. I do not think the hotel room is a good idea. My parents would have said home by 1-2am. No hotel room for me.

I know a lot of girls that went to prom together because they didn't have dates or didn't want to go with a date.

As far as the room, if the hotel manager knows that the kids are under 18 they're not allowed to stay in a room by themselves even if the parents pay for it.

i got stood up by my prom date, a guy, so i went by myself and had a great time without him. afterwards i went to the afterparty just like everyone else. just because i didn't have the "normal date" didn't mean that i shouldn't have a good time.

if i was into dating girls at the time of my prom, i would have brought my girlfriend if i had one.

if i was a mom, i'd rather my daughter go to the prom with one of her girlfriends than her boyfriend who could potentially "knock her up" since prom is when most girls lose their virginity. and if she happens to be dating her girlfriend, again, don't have to worry about the pregnancy thing their either.

thing is, by the time most kids get to go to a prom, they are almost adults and you can only trust that you've taught them well enough not to make bad decisions, like drinking and driving (which happens often on prom nights) so the hotel room is probably the smartest decision they will make that night.

I know many girls that go with each other as well just to go and not be alone because they did not get asked or whatever but still wanted to go.. Ok thing!!

The hotel room afterward... Not so much.. Im sure there will be wild things going on at a hotel room!

when you say shes going with her best girlfriend I am not thinking shes"into" girls that way.. but ya never know these days.. are days it was "just friends"

yeah gays and lesbian kids these days are VERY VERY common.. seems like the girls are more Bi then staright lesbian though.. its crazy..

Prom date shouldn't be gender-specific. But I wouldn't trust any teens unsupervised in a hotel room.

Girls can totally go together whether they are dating or going as friends.

I'm not sure about the hotel room though...as a parent, I wouldn't let any of my underage children get a hotel room alone.

These are modern times. Things are so much different. They may be going as friends simply because of no dates, or they prefer to go with a friend. Certainly bettter than stag, not that is really so bad anymore either. They may even be secretly gay, who knows. In either case, I personally, don't see it as a big issue. Its really not that uncommon anymore.
But as for the motel room, that I would have an issue with, unless, they could truly be trusted, or they are close to the legal age. (you didn't state weather it was a Senior prom or junior prom). Either way, I'm sure your friend will find a way to deal with it.

Boy, you sparked a discussion, and a good one at that. I too think that it's probably OK that the two [girl] friends go to the prom together. But the hotel room?? That's a whole other issue and the parents should really step in here and ask some questions.

I agree with most of the above comments. A girl going to prom with her best friend, well, no big deal. They're best friends, so why not?
Could you fill in some of the blanks about the hotel room? Why do they want one? Frankly, if they are lovers and wanted alone time, I would be a lot less worried than if they were getting a room as "party central" for all their friends. You know that a party would most likely involve drinking. Come on, we were all 18 once, and you know that would happen.

Sounds pretty scarey to me!

I think it's just fine. If I didn't have a date for the prom, rather then not go, I would go with my best friend. And why not a hotel room....? I don't understand any ones concern. If they are gay, that's fine; if not, maybe they want to share some quality time on a special night where they can laugh and gab about all that happened at the prom.

For many years, with my youngest son, I traveled with my girlfriend Wendy who had a daughter Zach's age. It didn't mean we were gay. We just enjoyed each other's company.

As the parent of a 20 year old male, no problem with the girls going together to the prom. When my son went with his G/F of the yr, there was a guy who went solo with the group. No hotel room. Not a good idea even if you do trust the young women. Why put them in a situation they will not have control over and if there is an issue, they may need an adult.

I think it sounds like lots of fun, and it wouldn't bother me at all. Do any of the males go together?

I never went to a prom or any kind of a school dance. It wasn't my thing. I don't have a problem with girls going with girls. They would probably get in less trouble. Hotel room? Do they rent to minors? If they had the money, what the heck. I wouldn't pay for it for them if I already they aleady had a room at my house they can use it.

We don't have proms in the UK.