I get so frustrated with the whole set up of child support. I know men who pay twice what my ex pays and they only have one child AND make less money. So when my ex husband doesn't pay his child support for the three kids it is rather upsetting. He doesn't pay his child support but then come to find out he bought his girlfriends kid a brand new 'crotch rocket' those are not cheap by any means. Seems like HIS OWN kids .. his own flesh and blood would come first. He doesn't do anything for his kids. He doesn't talk to them on the phone .. visit them .. buy them toys.. gifts.. or school supplies or clothes. Seems like before he took care of a girlfriend and her two kids he would make sure his own were taken care of. Why is it some men get with someone new and forget the kids they have with the first wife? The court system doesn't make it easy for us single mothers to collect the 'owed' support either. They set the support so low too that there is no way you could support one child with it let alone three. The new thing ... ex hubby hasn't paid because he was playing around on his girlfriends .. kids crotch rocket and he fell and broke a rib and did some other damage to himself. So now he had to take time off of work. I may sound heartless but all this man has put me thru I would not spit on him if he was on fire! It just never fails when we need the child support the most is when he doesn't send it. I have several shut off notices and I had worked out payment plans with the places which include paying them weekly .. without the child support I will not be able to make the weekly payment ... uggg.
Once you add the new higher gas prices onto the lack of child support and rising grocery prices ... were all really struggling now. I just wonder when we will get some relief from all this!
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BTW my sons refer to their "father" as the donor, William is who they refer to as dad. Not their step dad cause he isn't a step above or below he is the only dad they ever knew. All of my sons are responsable and loving fathers.
My ex would send me $30 a month and think he was doing something. He was only required to pay $50 a week for 2 kids. The CS people wouldn't put him in jail for non payment because according to them he was trying. I know that was a lie, he was sending just enough to say he was trying.
Now he has the kids and he gets to see how hard it is to raise them and pay for everything.
Good luck with getting the support. I hope things get better for you soon!!
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If nothing else they should give the kids an lawyer to fight for them. Try to get as much proof to the things he is buying for others and the things he is doing with his money to prove to the court he does not have a problem with money, but with what he spends it on. Then go after even more of his money.
Michigan has no problem taking money from fathers for kids, if you fight for it. My husbands best friend gives his ex wife $100 a month for 1 child. His ex-girlfriend gets over $800 for two kids. She gets over half his bring home a month and he cant even live on what hes got left. She had a job paying $12 a hour driving cars and quit because her parents (who she lives with) was going to lose there section 8 housing. Its sad and you need to keep fightting and fightting for what your kids have the right for. In the end most of the time the kids will get it, if you fight for them. If not he will spend time until he does.
The only bad thing is when we were married I always signed my name whenever I took the kids to the Dr's... because he wasn't really involved with them from the get go. Well now I have $10,000 in bills that it says in the divorce decree that he is HALF responsible for..... unfortunately the CREDITORS could CARE LESS! So I have to slowly pay it down until I pay ALL of it and then go after him for it.
I know it sucks when a "guy" can "make" a baby but won't take any responsibility for them.
I know a guy with one kid making less then my ex hubby and he pays almost $700 a month! Ex hubby took off to florida so its hard to enforce support.
My question to these assholes is what did those poor children ever do to you??
Think about this - his life will never be positive because of the way he treats his kids. He misses out on all the joy they bring by denying them the basics.