by Danielle P.
Member since:
March 26, 2007

Negativity update

April 19, 2008 11:08 PM UTC
views: 0 | comments: 19

This is a revised article that I posted back in Aug 2007.

How do you get rid of negativity in your life?  One of my close friends, who is very negative himself told me people will only treat you as you will allow.  So why do I allow it?  Is it better to have no friends than friends that are negative? 

Obviously I have chosen that it is better to have negative friends rather than no friends.  I have recently been limiting my exposure to them or their exposure to me.  If I don't want to talk to them I am not answering the phone or the door or whatever the case may be.  It sounds simple, but I always felt they needed me if they were calling and I should respond.  I am now taking care of me and protecting my feelings and the like.  We can only do better if we try

Since the original post of this article I have successfully ejected the negativity from my life.  Trust me it wasn't easy, but it was done.  I am free and light and ready to fly....now if I break a wing and fall from flight it wasn't because of the naysayers holding me back.  It'll be failure all on my own.

Happy trails!!

Comments: 19

Trish A. Apr 19, 2008, 11:54pm UTC
I'm in the same spot. I've begun to feel how it is to release negative friends. I'm trying to remember how it feels to have positive friends, how they treat me and remember that those are the people I chose to be around.
M M. Apr 19, 2008, 11:55pm UTC
We all go through negativity in our lives. However, if we hang out with people like that, it will pull us down more. Better to be alone, in my opinion. Bring it all to God, he is the best friend we can ever have, and is always faithful.
Sue * Apr 20, 2008, 12:18am UTC
Good for you...some people are simply toxic, and if you aren't related to them...you just have to dump them!
Vicky Duggins Apr 20, 2008, 12:22am UTC
My close friends are much more positive than negative. Usually if I'm feeling down, all I have to do is make a phone call and I'm lifted up out of my mood. I know what you are talking about, though, because I've had negative people in my life in the past. Good for you that you're putting yourself first in this.
Andrea "slackermom" R. Apr 20, 2008, 12:41am UTC
I guess it depends on how you define negative. My friends and I blow off steam to each other a lot. Anyone eavesdropping might think we're pretty negative. Not really, though. We see the humor in the most screwed up situations and vent to each other instead of taking it out on loved ones or crawling in the closet to cry.
Paidra Delayno Apr 20, 2008, 3:13am UTC
I guess that I'm lucky in the sense that I travel a lot in my work. A negative person can only affect me for a short period of time before I skip off to the next job site. I do try to not pay much attention to negative people other than what is necessary.
Rob Appell Apr 20, 2008, 3:26am UTC
I was my own worst enemy in regards to negativity. My best friend is very positive and I learned from him. Due to events that have happened to me recently, I had to follow his lead and clan up my own backyard and follow his positivity in order to get ahead and make progress in my life so I can get to a better place. I'm happy to say, I'm well on mu way. It was definitely up to me to simply make up my own mind and change things myself.
Cori Anders Apr 20, 2008, 4:19am UTC
Since I read your article the first time, I have also cleaned up negativity around me. I try to be upbeat as much as I can. With depression, it's sometimes hard. But I feel so much better.
donna h. Apr 20, 2008, 5:42am UTC
I did some cleanup, but not all
Bert Van Essen Apr 20, 2008, 8:44am UTC
On a psychology test all students take in seminary I asked the psychologist what this score meant. Basically it was my stubborn scale. He asked me to take my belt off. When I did he said hold on to this now. He proceeded to pull and shake that belt but I hung on! Finally! he stopped and looked at me and said, "Your face is red and you do not look comfortable. Are you?" I said "No!" He then said, "Why were you hanging on so hard then?" That was my stubborn scale. Sometimes we as people hang on to negative people or negative places or even negative thoughts so stubborn and we hate it! I am still learning to let go!
t b. Apr 20, 2008, 12:40pm UTC
Good for you Danielle!
I am trying to get the negativity out of my life. But it is kinda hard when they are in laws and live across the street.
Stephanie B. Apr 20, 2008, 6:37pm UTC
Yay! What could be healthier?
Mary Ann Slavcheff Apr 20, 2008, 8:09pm UTC
Negativity rubs off on us. It is like cold germs. But sick people need to be ministered to. I try not to let the negativitiy infect me. If it starts to, I distance myself for awhile, get healthy and then I can go back to helping the negative people.

I also beleive it takes all kinds. Sometimnes we need to be warned that the rain is coming.
Denise B. Apr 20, 2008, 9:00pm UTC
good for you :)
necee t. Apr 22, 2008, 6:28pm UTC
i'm glad for you Danielle... i'm sure it was not easy...
God be with you...




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mark d. Apr 23, 2008, 11:27pm UTC
Can I get an AMEN!

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