It shouldn't be "save my marriage", but "save our marriage." This is because saving a marriage needs the collective efforts of both the partners. Your efforts alone won't work. You can't expect to see a happy ending when it's only you who are doing everything to understand your partner whereas you partner is least concerned about the relationship.
Ways to save a marriage are plenty. But, what is the willingness quotient? Many divorces take place not because love had faded from both the sides, but because one partner was too lax in handling the crumbling marriage.
So, the next time you say, "save my marriage", think again! Is it only you who wants to save the marriage? What about your partner?
Tips On Saving Your Marriage
- Start doing things the way you did them when you were dating each other. This includes writing love notes, giving flowers, hugging each other and such other little things that you have almost forgotten after marriage!
- Plan a weekend holiday. You needn't go to any exotic location. Simply remaining at home, fixing meals together, and spending quality time with each other works wonders in kindling the romance. And do remember to switch off your cell phone!
- In case you are finding it difficult to communicate, involve a third person. He or she can be someone whom you both trust and feel comfortable with, or may be even a marriage counselor.
Try to dig the underlying problem out. What is it that makes you fume at your partner? Is it a trivial matter or something serious? Again, here, it shouldn't be with the aim of "save my marriage," but, "save our marriage." Sit together and sort out the problematic things between you two.
One of the major reasons for the breaking of marriages is the lack of communication. When leaders of big countries can negotiate and resolve complicated matters between themselves, why can't you two? There's nothing in the world that can't be negotiated or settled. Dangerous wars have been averted through effective negotiations.
It's just a matter of a little adjustment. And mind you, adjustment has to be from both sides. It's a collective effort, remember? No matter what the issue is, if both the parties are ready to sit and discuss, there are bright chances of settling the dispute. It can either be a big issue such as infidelity or a small one like not keeping the toothpaste in place!
You're mature adults. Stop saying, "save my marriage" and start saying, "save our marriage." Once you develop the feeling of oneness, you've already won half the battle!