I've been on Gather everyday, But I just can't think of anything to write aboout. Since I lost my twin boys, my life has felt so empty. I should still be pregnant, damn it. Never in my life had I ever thought that I'd loose a pregnancy, especially so far into it. They were real babies that I had to bring into this world and let die. Well, technically I felt one die before hand, but baby B was alive. I just am taking it one day at a time, but it's so hard with the questions from my older kids, and having to explain to everyone what happened. And every one and thier mamas wants to know what happened with fierce detail. And I've been keeping a brave face, but nights like tonight, I just fall apart after keeping it together all day.
I just want my babies back. I'm a good mom, and I deserved to have them. I joked that 6 kids was going to drive me crazy, but I didn't mean it. And I think to myself that I shouldn't have done so much. I should've protected them better. Theres nothing I can do to bring them back.


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But now I know that it was just something horrible that happened, and nobody's fault. I don't know if you've tried this. But when I lost my baby, my husband and I got 2 journals...one for him and one for me. Everyday we wrote a letter to each other in our journal...and talked about our feelings in regard to losing our baby. This was a good outlet for all of those feelings inside. You don't even have to share it with each other if you don't want to. For some reason, making it a letter to someone made it easier to start writing. And once I started to write, all of those feelings and tears would just come pouring out. We ended up with 2 filled journals filled with heartache, anger, and ultimately peace. Just an idea in case you want to give it a try....HUGS. I will keep you in my prayers.
It has left a huge hole in our hearts. I do not know what advice to give you, but others here have provided well.
I do beadwork and made all the immediate family 'memorial' bracelets with Regan's name on them.
A hug for you!
there is nothing i can do but pray for you...
God bless you always...
I think that's what happened with your boys too. They were so special and God needed them in Heaven. I know that nothing anyone says can make you feel better, but I hope you know you are in our thoughts and prayers.