Looking back at my marriage,
my parent's marriages,
my sisters' marriages,
other family and friends' marriages . . .
I can see it is not so bad to not be married,
to have no one to be accountable to or for,
to be able to make all decisions of your own accord,
listening to no one's heart or mind but your own,
to come and go as you please,
stay out all night or sleep all day,
no need to check in or check out.
And if you want, you can just hang out, alone -
popcorn and a movie
snuggled in bed with the dog softly snoring
her song of unconditional love.
Looking back at my marriage,
my parent's marriages,
my sisters' marriages,
other family and friends' marriages . . .
I can see it is not so bad to be married,
to have someone who wants to know where you are,
someone who will help make life's tough decisions,
someone who will come along for the ride
with a laugh and a smiling tease.
A comforter who eases the pain of life
and stands with you to fight the fight.
And if you want, you can just hang out alone -
together, with popcorn and a movie
snuggled in bed with the dog softly snoring
her song of unconditional love.
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1) the single person who totally agrees with the first section and says the second section ain't all it is cracked up to be
2) the married person who can relate to the first stanza but has to totally agree with the second stanza
3) the single person who agrees with stanza one, but then melts into tears at reading stanza two
4) the married person who growls in wistful thoughts of stanza one and melts into tears for the lacking reality of stanza two
and I am sure there are several more too . . . A bit confused myself as to where I stand on the matter. There does seem to be a wistful glimmer of hope for the second stanza, yet that first stanza really hits home a lot too.
Oh, I guess I see both sides. Married fairly young, then divorced.... went 10+ years single again... then remarried, ha ha. (23+ yrs and counting)
I miss my husband since he has bone to Heaven, and have such warm and loving memories of so many good things. If I ever thought it possible to find such a good man again (and men as good s he are very rare indeed) I'd gladly try again.
She told me," Always remember this when it comes to a successful marriage - there are 4 priorities.
4th priority - your career. A job is just business, and while it might give you satisfaction and pay the rent, it won't miss you when you're dead one day.
3rd priority - your children. As much as you love them, one day they will grow up and leave you to lead lives of their own.
2nd priority - your spouse. This is the person you hope to grow old with, but that doesn't always work out.
1st priority - happiness with yourself. You're stuck with yourself until you take your last breath, so you might as well be in good company.