Verbal abuse is the use of language to manipulate, control, ridicule, insult, humiliate, belittle, vilify, and show disrespect and disdain to another, and is often a component of other types of abuse. Verbal Abuse is not recognized and is poorly understood by the therapeutic community. Verbal Abuse is comprised of any of the following:This form of abuse is just as illegal and just as hurtful to a child as any other abuse, leaving scars for life. I was physically, sexually, and emotionally abused and I feel this has been the most damaging to me. I catch myself saying things I later say wait I am repeating the actions of my abusers. If this isn't enough to make you stop in your tracts I found the following information at http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
- Accusing / Blaming
Accusing and blaming another for ones own outbursts, expressions of anger, bad moods, mistakes, and failures. Example: "If you were'nt so lazy, forgetful, sloppy, and inattentive, I wouldn't get so mad!"
- Covert / Subtle
Seemingly sincere, expressed in a loving and concerned manner, but placing all blame and fault on the other person in an excusive or condesceding manner. Example: "It's OK, we have problems talking to each other because you really aren't capable of understanding the whole picture. I'll just compensate for that."
The inability to admit and take responsibility for ones actions and words concurrent with accusations and blame directed at the one abused. Examples: "I never said that, you can't get anything straight", "You're lying, making that all up to make me look bad", "Where did you get that crazy idea?"
- Discounting / Dismissiveness
Denigration and/or denial of the experience, skills, maturity, and abilities of another; often marked by distortion and/or fabrication. Examples: "You call that art? Even a chimpanzee could do better than that!", "You so dumb you couldn't even add up two and two and get four!"
- Judgemental Criticism
Criticism that goes beyond neutral and/or constructive verbal correction of erroneous actions; comprised in part of ridicule, name calling, denigration, and/or humilation. Examples: "What are you, stupid? Can't you ever do anything right?", "You didn't even finish college, you're just a quitter and a failure"
Public or private intentional shaming and embarassment of any kind. Example: "oh, you need to be tolerant of him, he doesn't know any better"
Appealing to and/or using another's sense of responsibility or obligation to achieve a personal goal. Example: "If you really loved me, you would..."
- Name Calling / Epithets
All name calling, and epithets directed at another are abusive.
Making fun of and otherwise "putting down" another person or group based on their appearance, gender, competency, beliefs, ethnicity, culture, or religion. Example: "He will never amount to anything because he is just a <fill in the blank>"
- Teasing / Joking
Humor at the expense of another, comprised of humilation, dismissiveness, exaggeration and/or fabrication.
Sneeringly, slyly, jest or mock a person, situation or thinng.
Examples of emotional child abuse include:
These are actions that are meant to isolate and terrorize a child, such as tying the child to a fixture or piece of furniture or locking a child in a closet or dark room.
This involves causing a child to witness or participate in inappropriate behavior, such as criminal activities, drug or alcohol abuse, or acts of violence.
I want to close this by saying if you have a child who is constantly making fun of another child, now is the time to stop this action. Don't pass it off as they are only being a child, that child grows up to be an adult. Those adults grow up to have children, children who could be the next victim of emotional or verbal abuse. That child will be your grandchild.