Many of you have had questions regarding Baby James. Since so many of you are trying to help I thought I would answer some of those questions. If I miss a question or you have another one please add it in a comment here and I will be happy to answer as long as it don't jeopordize James. If there is a reason I can't answer a question or feel it is best that I don't then I will politely let you know. I will update this article with the new answers to the questions as I get them. Before you ask any further questions can I ask you to read Baby James Story here and watch He's my son video here. Baby James Law can as well be signed here along with other information regarding Baby James Foundation.
Who is Baby James? Baby James is my stepson who was abused by his bio mother.
Where is James now? My husband (James' bio father) has custody of James. So he is with us.
What about legal aide? Legal aid will not help with termination of rights.
What about CPS? CPS or as we call it here DCFS has told us since James has switched custody to his father and since we got an order of protection against his mother James is no longer in DCFS so they can not help in this matter.
Why do you need to adopt James? The system is behind mothers seeing their children when she gets out and the OP is done yes we can go get it again. However, if they don't give it this time then she has rights to see James. Terminating her rights and me adopting my son is the only reason to keep him 100% safe. Second everyone deserves a mother, James deserves to be able to call his mommy legally.
So, in 9 months time. A baby is born. You leave your husband. They separate. All this stuff happens with THEIR baby. You get together with the guy and knowing him less then a year are married to him? Is it really appropriate to post stuff about the baby's mom? Her vitals, photos, etc? That stuff should be on the Megan's Website. If she is in jail what is the point of posting the photos of her on Gather. First she is not the babies mom she is his egg donor. Second, all of the vitals, photos, etc is right on IDOC (Illinois Department of Corrections) for public viewingl. Third this woman hasn't been charged for what she has done to James so my view on this matter she gets what she has coming to her. Yes I had an affair with Eric, yes I left my abusive husband of 7 years. None of us are perfect and the person that wrote this I am sure is not perfect either. Eric and I spent many many nights talking and crying on eachothers shoulders. My now ex husband was very abusive man and an alcholic as well as bipolar. Laura is bipolar and psychitzfrenic with all of this we turned to eachother and yes we fell in love. These two pushed us together , what I did may have been wrong but falling in love with a man that treats me good was not wrong. Taking care of a baby that his egg donor wanted to abuse was not wrong. What was wrong was the abuse that went on from my ex and James' so called mother.
Also, can't they just have supervised visitation for her to see her son? I think it if you stepped away from this it is rather soon/sudden for you to step in to adopt this child that isn't even a year old. YES, by all means, he should be kept safe. Please do not think I am think he should go with her BUT many court systems have parents that are abusive and they give them visitation that is supervised instead of taking away 100% of the custody and giving the child a new mom in the same instant. Well lets see she had her chance for supervised when she showed up. Really does a woman who tried drowing her child deserve to see her child and put him through more? So I should of stepped away? I think she was the one that dropped him off to me and told me to take him. Where do you get I jumped into this? A person who abuses shound never ever ever ever see their child again and if its the last thing I do she won't see James again.
Won't the courts appoint you an attorney? I just heard of guardian at litem Eric and I are going to check into this further to see if its a possiblity.
I can't believe she isn't in jail for that. I can't see how she would be able to see him after trying to drown him. Why isn't she in jail? Why she was never charged for abuse to James I don't know. I don't understand why others don't get charge. She is in prison for burgalry and do to get out May 14th however this is the best time for the adoption and termination as well.
can't you get a new order of protection? Yes every two years we can keep going and get one. However they could turn them down as well. As well is it really fair to us or James to have to keep going back to court for this?
Renee, is she trying to come & see him? She is in prison right now but she has broke the order of protection already and in fact has a warrant for her over that deal as well as breaking one with another guy. She doesn't want to see James she wants Eric back.
Are you and his Dad married now? Yes we are we will be celebrating our first anniversary March 17th, 2008
This wasn't a question but someone said they don't see the court allowing her to see him or have him again. Unfortunately kids are placed back in their abusers arms everyday. I have heard many of these cases poor soles are now angels.
Someone made a comment about her not having an attorney. This is where it is really messed up. Because she is in prison she has an attorney, because she is taken to court they will issue her an attorney, because she is being taken to have her rights terminated legal aid will help her however not us to take them. Now how messed up is that one?
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Comments: 47
God Bless baby James and all children that need His protection.
Eric should just get full custody, jointly with you an dlet the bio mum go to hell!
I have no questions. You are very forthcoming and putting it out to those who ask.
We both know abuse and abusive situations and do our best to handle them as the LORD directs.
You, my dear, are human like the rest of us. Don't let anyone beat you up over what is in the past. It is your past.
No judgement on my part, it's not my place.
Love,
Barbara S.
It is awful to keep having to go through this, but for him I know you will. Just keep a good thought. I do know how hard all of this is.
what was done to you both was breaking those vows...hitting someone is not lhc them, trying to drown a baby is not lhc the father
I wish you the best in protecting this child.
I wish you all the best of luck to keeping this nut job away from the baby. I agree if you harm a child you should not be able to have any child in your care ever! In this case, she tried to kill the child, so she should not only ever be able to be around a child under the age of 18 without someone else, but she should be locked away for a very long time.
Bless you all, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything works out for the best for everyone.
i pray this will be able to end with her and you will legally become James Mom.
I have to agree with you that the law doe sgive many abusers back their children. Their excuss they want to keep families together. There has been three children in less than a years time in Fort Myers that was abused and given back to their mothers. Guess what? All three are now dead. Thanks to their abusers.
So, I am all for keeping children safe and way we can.