Hot Mama

This is exactly how I feel.

You have hit the nail on the head with this poem, Cheryl. There are still husbands out there who are like this and expect their wives to do the"woman's work". You have expressed well. ( Some of us men/husbands/partners, share the house chores since day one of our marriages.) mind you, my late father-in-law, bless him, thought in terms of "man's" work & "woman's" work. A generartion thing guess. Anyway enough of my old talk. This is a good poem.

Too true, Cheryl! Great job.

wow, this was excellent... well done...

I don't know quite how to respond to this other than I think it perpetuates an animosity towards all men. I think you needed to add a caveat or an exception to the rule because I get tired of being lumped in with these type of men.

Everybody don't start shooting at once. All I am saying is there are those of us men that do clean the house, cook dinner, and equally if not more, share the responsibilities in a relationship.

When I was married I didn't want my wife to work so our children could be raised by a stay at home parent instead of being latch key kids. I worked all day and still cleaned when I got home because frankly, I think raising children is a full time job. It was me who worked on the car, mowed the yard, pulled the splinters out of fingers, and those other "manly" jobs but I did not hesitate to do the laundry, clean up the spew from an ill child in the middle of the night, sit with them after a bad dream until they fell asleep, take them trick or treating, etc..

Oh, and In the two main relationships in my life, I was the one who taught them to cook. Scowl if you must but there are bragging rights to be found in that fact. Okay, maybe not, but they do like my cooking.

So all I ask is please remember before you pass judgement on all men that some of us are appreciative of you and want you to be happy also.

Okay, fire away!

Last entry~Yes, I do agree that the men mentioned above are abysmal examples of manhood.

WIlliam has never been like that but oh boy was my father !!

Wade...I by no means think all men are this way. That is why I added the little disclaimer at the beginning of the poem..."to those husbands out there who think it is the wife's job to do everything in the house" and "to those wives who think they must be superwoman." There are many husbands who help out equally around the house, and many wives who would have it no other way. I think it is ever just one person's fault if the wife finds herself doing the majority of housework. If she finds herself in this position, it is because she is allowing it for whatever reason. So she is just as guilty as her husband. (I speak from experience too...lol.) For years I was the wife I described above...until I made up my mind that I just was not going to do it alone anymore. Now my husband helps out and is a much happier fellow as a result....:)

That makes sense Cheryl. What you are referring to is an "enabling" of sorts. I knew you didn't hold all men responsible but I kind of cringe everytime this subject comes up and I wanted to voice my side before sides were taken and the man bashing began. (Just humor people, put the axes and pitch forks down!)
Thanks

Wade...yes...enabling. That's the word!...:) Thank you. And to be quite honest, I have known some women who have enabled their husbands this way just so they could take on a martyr complex and then complain they are too tired to have sex. A vicious circle in which nobody wins.

Time for the big D, I'd say. Of course, it's never that simple, especially with children involved, but it's sad if this is the relationship, and it needs lots of help, probably from a marriage counselor. I've always held the view, however, that life is tough and the relationship you have should be a respite from all the tension and not a contributor to it. If and when it does become a contributor, it's time to move on.

Excellent piece, Cheryl. I hate it when men behave like that. My wife and I always shared every chore when our girls were young, and now I do most of it (and don't mind). When I got home from work, we just split up all the jobs until we fell (exhausted) into bed. It was only fair - she had been taking care of them all day long!

Well done, Cheryl. Thank goodness not ALL men are that way!

Well done!

Hilarious! A sweet and funny poem, stimulating good commentary. Families are hard work, for sure, and romance indeed falls by the wayside sometimes!

You spoke that very well :)

Loved this one!

Z'

This was written so well and expressed just so. There are still many Men who are so into their machismo that they wouldn't dream of picking up a glass and washing it. Let alone do other things around the house, yet we would be looked down upon for not lifting those legs when desired. I have also had relationships with Men who were more anal about household chores than I am. Yes there are both types out there alright, I'm just bitter because I happen to be in a relationship with one who doesn't know what goes where if it would save his life.

Great write Cheryl!

Good job Cheryl.