My best friend Eddie has a cousin named Raul who is 26 years old and is in the intensive care unit as of 2 days ago. He has PCP, pneumonia that is brought on by aids. In normal circumstances one can be medicated, given some breathing treatments and then they can go on their merry way. Unfortunately this is not going to be the case with Raul. You see Raul was feeling so well about a year ago so he decided that since he was feeling this way, he felt that he didn't need to take his meds any longer. The little money he was able to earn, when he was able to work was better spent on trying to survive since he didn't have health insurance.
That has been over a year ago, without any medicine, and still trying to party like there's no tomorrow and is now suffering the consequences of his bad decision. He has been in and out of the hospital over the last 8-9 months with trouble breathing and is now down to just a little under 100 pounds and this a young man of 5'6."
The doctors have already spoken to the family and let them know that he probably will not make it through this bout of pneumonia. He is too weak and too far gone. He looks like living death to me. I am heartbroken at why someone would choose to quit taking their medicine like this fully knowing what the consequences of his actions would be. Of course, I also know what meds cost with insurance muchless without it. Not an easy feat to achieve.
I am very, very sad. You hardly hear of Aids and the deaths that it causes anymore. Almost as if it is one's dirty little secret that shouldn't be spoken of. I say it needs to be spoken of because people are still dying left and right from this dreaded disease and until there is a cure this will continue.
What is so sad about this with Raul is that inspite of the fact that he has had aids for over 7 years, he has only had his current boyfriend for 3. That would mean the possibility is very high of other people having been infected. This too is a terrible thing. I don't know what more to say about this other than I feel that there needs to be more education in the schools for the kids that still don't know all of the risks involved in having unprotected sex.
I've known Raul since he was a beautiful little boy of six and soon he will be gone.
Any and all prayers will be welcomed.
Thanks.


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Don't know rightly what to say right now.
Thanks Sis.
Thanks for your prayers as they are needed.
YOur point of education is well taken. THe thing is that the young feel that they are invincible. Very sad.
I'm sorry, Reena.
I try to talk to my 13 year old daughter about aids but I worry that her and her friends really don't get it is a life time, or life ending problem. You think things will never happen to you, but take it from me, the unthinkable happens like having my 3 and 4 year old kidnapped by my ex. When people are young they really don't get the risks. We really risk our lives and many don't realize what a gamble it is.
Sorry Esther, it must break your heart. I'm here, Hugs Heather
He was such a beautiful and loving little boy and as I saw him grow into a man he was everything a Mother would want. So loving, and kind and so willing to do for others.
It goes without saying how the young feel invincible...I know, I was one of them.
With education, things like this would not have to happen at all. They would have learned the true benefit of taking care of themselves and taking appropriate actions.
My heart is bleeding right now.
I know about the political agenda regarding health care and medication in the midstream. I know how they have us roped in with all of these so called healing and miraculous drugs that do nothing bu to stupor you into not being able to think and ultimately turning one into addicts or a brain that is much. I know hon, I live it everyday with two parents who are senior citizens and the pain that they must endure on a daily basis. I know what it is that you speak of regarding the vitamins and natural nutrients. My Mom is very savvy regarding those as she has lupus and has done alot of studying regarding those.
Thanks for the information on the supplements and for the prayers.
Young people just don't understand. They need to read and educate themselves on the pitfalls of premarital sex and unprotected sex moreso. I think that along with the Parents the school should share in the responsibility of educating the young and vulnerable and the curious.
Thank you for all of your support Heather. I will probably call you later today.
I have already lost another friend to AIDS, and death is never easy but especially to the young who have so much life ahead of them is always a difficult thing for me to understand.
My heart breaks Rob, and this time around I don't know how long it will take me to get over this one.
Thanks for your thoughts.
My friend lived with the virus for over 20 years, as he found out he was HIV-Positive in 1986. What is most distressing is that it would appear his doctor killed him. He changed doctors, and the new doctor TOOK HIM OFF ALL OF HIS MEDS AND CHANGED THEM TO NEW ONES.
He died from fluid buildup in his tissues... which had been evident in the days prior to his passing and which the coroner apparently ruled was due to one or more of the meds he had been switched to.
When he passed on he had just been getting back into life. He was not ready to go...
I will write an article about him one of these days...
Its too bad that this drug taking is what our livestyles have taken us to.
As for you dying alone Rob and not having anyone to grieve for you. You break my heart saying something like that. How could I or anyone who has come in contact with you ever forget you? You have touched my life in more ways than you would imagine and your writing touches many. You will never know how people really feel about you. You are a special person to me and to so many others. Please don't say that you will not be remembered when your time comes; because it just isn't so.
I love you Rob.
Please do write your article on your friend, I would appreciate reading it.
Love and Happiness to You!
I don't much worry about the little things...
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