I'm excited because finally I'm excited about someone other than my on-again, off-again, FB (Former Boyfriend.) OK, so this new guy looks a lot like FB...same broad shoulders...same haircut, and from the very little I talked to him, he kind of reminds me of FB...same kind of resevered, yet interested, look... Yes, let's face it, I have become immediately infatuated with an FB-clone. Only this new guy is only 41. At least FB is my age (47). But I'm trying not to worry about the age thing. First I have to see if FB-clone guy will even call me back.
I met him yesterday at lunch (Yay! That means he we could have lunch on weekdays! A key advantage for me, since that's when my "getting-to-know-you" time typically is). I approached him (a new thing for me...but I am trying to be more bold in 2008!). I asked him if I could interview him for my blog which is about being single in your 40's and he agreed! In fact, he said something like, "Will I get a date out of it?" Yay! (I consider that a good sign.) I really do have a blog and it really is about being single in your 40's, but I've never really interviewed anyone before. So....I'm not really being dishonest...and what a great way to meet him and make sure he was single and in his 40's (that's how I found out he was 41).
I called him yesterday and he wasn't there so I left a message with my home and work number. No call back. Boo. Bad sign. I tried, again, this morning at 9:57....so stupid of me to call right before 10:00 because he was on a way to a meeting. He asked if I could call back between 5 and 5:30, and (here's where I was really brave!) I suggested Happy Hour instead. He told me he'd like to, but he had to pick up kids. Yay! I like a good father and prefer to date men with kids. Of course, Boo, that he said 'no' to Happy Hour with me, but picking up kids is a very good reason.
Then I told him to just call me when he had the chance...and between 5 and 5:30 would be fine. This was probably not a good move on my part. I'm afraid he will not call me. Maybe he doesn't even have my number anymore. Or maybe he'll be like me and chicken out (I always chicken out when someone is persuing me). It is good for me to be the persuer for a change....I can see what it's like to put yourself out there. Being the persuer is definitely a disadvantage. If I call again, I'll look needy. I have to wait for him to make the next move, and he might not.
But, I've decided this. If he doesn't call me, I'll wait until next week and call him again. I won't ask him out, but I'll just do a simple little interview and blog about it and send him the URL. In my blog, I'll say how proud I am of myself for meeting someone and getting to know him, 'cause even if we never go out, at least I took a risk and met someone. And that in itself, feels pretty good.




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You're right, Marianne,...what's done is done, so I'm just going to expect that he WON'T call me back and try not to think about it.
And, Kathleen, yes it does feel good to move on. I am just happy to be interested in someone OTHER than FB. I hope the fact that he reminds me of FB doesn't mean it doesn't "count". I'm really wanting to finally be "over" him....
oh well....I'm off to drown my sorrows with some friends.
Take the age thing and put it in the toilet and flush it, Now look at how good looking he will be at 80.. then go arrrrrrrrrrrr yes I will be happy with this.
Enjoy what your eyes see and what your body feels.
About the age thing...I'm OK with 41 (I didn't used to be, but I'm getting there...) The problem is, most guys that are 41 will prefer women that are younger than 47. This is why so many people lie about their age! It's unfortunate that we have these preconceived bias's about age, but we do. So I'm sort of hoping I can reel Mr. 41-year-old in with my charm and don't lose him when he figures out I'm 47. Unfortunately, I don't seem to be reeling him in at all....
I always say never ask a question unless you know the answer. It works for me...