This post came from a discussion on one of the local newspaper boards. I thought about it and decided to write about it up. This post was in relation to gang activity and crimes committed by kids in general. I personally do not agree with it at least not totally. After all why should a parent be held accountable for a child's actions. A child cannot be under his or her parent's watchful eyes all the time. It depends, I guess on the age of the child, but a child/teen should be responsible for their actions. In fact, I'll go one step further and say that they need to be accountable for their own actions. It's a job to teach their kids right from wrong and after that, it's up the kids to make decisions based on values their parents gave them.
Kids need to be treated differently based on the choices they make. A kid who chooses right from wrong should be praised. They need to know that their decision was appropriate. If the choice was wrong then they need to be told and punished. The punishment though should be age appropriate. After the punishment, the parent needs to talk with the child about what the child did and why it was wrong. It's also important to keep in mind, that punishments not should be dished out when a parent is angry. Hopefully, if the child is taught correctly and fairly, then as a teen they'll steer clear of trouble.
Kids will be kids and if they do get in trouble, they still need to be punished. Getting them out of trouble isn't going to help them. If a child knows that mom or dad will bail them out any time, they get in trouble what lesson has the parent taught their son or daughter. I think, this is when where the trouble might begin for some. Of course, there is also the times when parents just aren't home to monitor kids. I like to think most kids and parents are good people, so I'm not harping on them. I have seen parents though who act like their kids can do no wrong. Those parents drive me crazy, because those kids are the ones who don't think. They get into trouble and there aren't any consequences at home. Their parents seem them and their actions through rose colored glasses. Still even those parents don't deserve to be punished if their son or daughter gets in trouble with the law.
No parent should have to pay the legal price for their child's mistake. If a child messes up he or she, should pay the piper. Again, I believe that the punishment should be age appropriate. I don't believe junville detention centers are any place for little kids. I don't think hard core prison is any place for teens. Do I think teens are capable of making adult decisions yes, but I don't think they see things as adults see it. Sometimes, I'm not exactly sure how some adults view life. If a child shoplifts, while shopping with their parents. It's not the parents fault. The blame is on the kids. They're the ones who should be punished. I'm not quite sure what the punishment should be, but the parent's shouldn't be fined. The kids need to be fined or whatever the punishment is, at least that is my feeling. I certainly wouldn't want to face a fine or jail time just because of a kid.
It's storming here, so I don't want to lose this, so I'll let you go.