by Tom M.
Member since:
June 19, 2007

Happiness comes from where?

January 07, 2008 03:08 PM EST
views: 80 | comments: 30

In our life's we are happy at times and at other times we are not. We do things that we perceive as making us happy but when the moment is gone, so is our happiness. There is only one way to true happiness and that comes internally and not from external sources.

You are the one and only one that controls your own happiness. You choice what makes you happy not the the person, place, or thing that is external. This is the reason why everyone is not happy for the same reasons. If you find happiness with in yourself, the world in will be a better place for you to live.

We see many complain that they have nothing while others live a happy life with less. It is not the amount of money, the amount of things, or the people in your life that control your happiness. It is you and only you that will and can make you happy.   

 

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Comments: 30

donna h. Jan 7, 2008, 3:10pm EST
I try to be happy ...
Peter C. Frank Jan 7, 2008, 3:10pm EST
Right now I think I'd settle for just being plain old miserable....
Cheryl W. Jan 7, 2008, 3:11pm EST
Excellent thoughts here, Tom. Thanks for sharing!
Joseph H. Jan 7, 2008, 3:13pm EST
I thought it came from eating at Appleby's
Bundy P Jan 7, 2008, 3:13pm EST
True
Vivian P. Jan 7, 2008, 3:16pm EST
I'm Bi-polar for me it's eazier said than done
carmel m. Jan 7, 2008, 3:17pm EST
A positive outlook on life makes everything seem possible. When you smile at someone and they do not smile back a confident happy person will just shrug and think nothing of it. A happy insecure person will take it personally.
carmel m. Jan 7, 2008, 3:17pm EST
Great article BTW. It is so very true.
Amber D. Jan 7, 2008, 3:17pm EST
its part of being human, you cant be completely happy all the time. but i think happiness comes from loving and caring for other peoples,animals..
Amber D. Jan 7, 2008, 3:18pm EST
aww to the little black cat.
Joe T. Jan 7, 2008, 3:18pm EST
This is a great article. I believe that happiness is a decision rather than a state of being.
Tom M. Jan 7, 2008, 3:21pm EST
Joseph H. I use to think taht until they changed their steaks and now they are not as good as they use to be....It is so hard to get a good steak. LOL
Vivian P. Jan 7, 2008, 3:22pm EST
Ya know Jeff some of the unhappiest people I know where and are partiers who have money take drugs and slept around. That is the ones who are still alive !
Tom M. Jan 7, 2008, 3:23pm EST
Carmel, I always smile, it is just in my nature. You would be surprised how many people I have had great conversations with just by starting with a smile.
Tom M. Jan 7, 2008, 3:25pm EST
Jeff, I never was one for drugs and the happiness you think you have is so short lived. Most people who use drugs are always searching for something that they will not find outside of themselves.
That is so true-sometimes happiness is contagious!
Yvonne F. Jan 7, 2008, 3:40pm EST
Bless you Tom, you are so right., happiness comes from inside never from materialistic things, in fact in a lot of the people I have met and a lot of people I have read about, the more simple their lifestyle is the happier they are with themselves and with their life.
Cheryl B. Jan 7, 2008, 3:43pm EST
Happiness comes from within!
Joy G. Jan 7, 2008, 3:47pm EST
It's true but we also must feel loneliness so we will know what happiness is.
Brian T. Jan 7, 2008, 3:50pm EST
Happiness is really a state of mind.
Janine D. Jan 7, 2008, 4:13pm EST
Very astute observations, Tom. Many times we can improve our moods just by making an effort to be happier.
Danielle P. Jan 7, 2008, 4:18pm EST
So so true...

As a man thinks, so is he.~Proverbs 23:7
Debra C. Jan 7, 2008, 4:57pm EST
I am reminded of three quotes:

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. -- Albert Camus

If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time. -- Edith Wharton

The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make heaven of Hell, and a hell of Heaven. -- John Milton
Marta Stephens Jan 7, 2008, 4:59pm EST
Well said, Tom.

I think inner peace comes when you finally feel comfortable in your own skin; who you are, what you believe in, and what you stand for. It's not about competitions, expectations, being one up on someone else, or feeling the need to be "right."

It's being able to say "no" when it's not the popular decision but the right thing to say. It's about being the person you want your children to look up to. And for me, simple joys begin with our children. They're 19 and 21 and we still sit around the table talking/laughing long after the plates have been cleared.

Thanks for posting this.
t b. Jan 7, 2008, 9:03pm EST
Yes, happiness comes from within Tom.
It also " runs in a circular motion"
And I totally agree with Marta, good for you!
My son and I walk back and forth having deep debates well into many nights.
My daughter visits when she can, not when she Has to.

I think happiness also comes from loving yourself.
Great article Tom!
Elizabeth S. Dec 16, 2008, 4:42pm EST
My kids used to hate my commentaries on the radio songs and TV shows. Many blame other people for the problems they made themselves.
Some people don't realize they deserve to be happy. I may not deserve it, but I choose to be happy.

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