Trip to UT part 3 January 2, 2008

January 2, 2008
My sister-in-law the night before offered to watch our kids if we wanted to go out one of the nights we were in town. So we chose tonight.
We sat in Tom's office deciding on what to do & we thought about inviting a few more friends we grew up with in WA to go with us (we realized a couple of them lived close by...) So we tried to invite this friend of ours that I have known since I was 14 & she was obsessed with Tom so much that she had a shrine in her room (we made fun of her when we were in Jr High...they were friends).  Anyways Tom has tried to meet up with her for lunch or whatever & she thought it was weird cause he was married & wanted to meet up with an old girlfriend (which Tom says they didn't officially date)...he said his wife was going to be at the lunch & so it wasn't THAT weird. Anyway she ditched the idea. (that was when she lived in Vegas). Well 2 years ago I tried to visit her in Vegas & she ditched me to go on a date (I haven't seen her in 5 years & she made plans with someone else the night I would be in town). She told my brother she felt bad about it, but yeah I was mad. Ok trying to catch yall up on this person that used to be my best friend in High School.  It just seems like since I have gotten married & especially since I have had kids that she has avoided me all together. When we were in this youth group we made this list of all the girls & put who would get married 1st. Her & I fought for the last place. I don't know why she chose it cause she dated all the time & I never dated (not my choice). Anyway as it turned out she was one of the last to get married. So I often wonder if she is bitter about that? I have also tried to get in touch with her numerous times & she always bails or is too busy.
Anyways back to the present story...I looked her husband up online...I found he was a Realtor & so I called him. He sounded like a really nice guy! I told him who I was & that I wanted to get in touch with his wife & to see if they both wanted to go to dinner with a few of her old friends. He said it sounded great & he didn't think they had anything planned. So he gave me her cell # & told me to check with her. He also asked how I found his number & I told him that I knew he was a Realtor & his name & I found him on the internet...then I joked that I knew everything about him LOL.  He laughed. When I called my "friend" I made the mistake of calling with Tom's phone 1st. I think she is avoiding him all together. (Which is so sad, because Tom is so awesome & his wife is amazing!) She didn't answer the phone. Then I text messaged her (which I have heard is the only way she talks to people cause she doesn't like conflict...which to me makes even more conflict...) Here is how thetexts went down:

Me: This is Birdee_ _ I was wondering if you and your husband wanted to go to dinner tonight with my husband & I and Tom & Kelly we are willing to go there if Orem is too far...your husband said it sounded good :o) he mentioned you didn't have much to do today

Her: Hi hope u had a great christmas!  Tonight wont work but I would love to connect sometime we go to _ _ _ __ every once in a while

Me: I live in _ _ _ _ _ now...try to get out of your previous engagement please I would love to see you and meet your husband...this is my only vacation in a year and I really would like to reconnect with you...if your plans are extremely important then how about tomorrow?

Her: Wow _ _ _ _ _! Its so beautiful there!  We have a couple of engagements so I really cannot we will try to come through _ _ _ _ _ this summer love ya tons

Me: We aren't bringing the kids also

Her: have fun on your vacation! So sorry

Me:  Yeah so I guess I will just have to wait until the 20 year high school reunion then...are you gonna be there? Or will you have a previous engagement? Pencil it in now ok?

Yeah I didn't hear back from her. To be honest I took her texts to be fake. She seemed so fake! Ugh I get so frustrated with how she has practically written me off. It just really bothered Tom & I the rest of the time & we were so obsessed about talking about her (I know gossip is bad, but we both feel so inadequate of why she is being this way to us...). I have just wanted to write her another email (cause she will not answer her phone...) and ask her to tell me she would like me to stop trying to get in touch with her...I need to just write her off, but I just remember all of the good times we had back in the day & so I just don't understand it. It really saddens me & I know I shouldn't be so rude to her, cause that doesn't make & keep friends well haha.  It just goes to show when someone feels like they have been stepped on they act out meanly. I mean if I had a long lost friend ask me to go out or meet up I would make the time to do so! I don't get it. So I gave up.

Then I emailed our friend Liz to come out with us & she called while we were at the movies, but she jumped at the chance to see us (a true friend). We went to the movie, I Am Legand,...it's pretty freaky, but pretty good. I wouldn't pay full price, but it is good enough to see in the theater, so I suggest cheap theater LOL. My sister also called while I was in the theater! (she was supposed to find out what she was having (baby wise)). ;o) There is something about people calling me when I am at a movie haha! At least it wasn't the people that were trying to get a hold of the previous owner of my telephone #...these were welcomed calls!

So we went to Chili'safter the theater & waited for 25 min.  Liz came maybe 5 min after we sat down. She looks so adorable! She is pregnant with her 4th child & she is still as beautiful as I remembered her. I have always loved how she does her hair! It was so much fun to go out to dinner with friends! (something that doesn't happen too often :o( This night really made me want to move back to UT!)
Going around the table from left to right: Birdeena & Chris F, Tom & Kelly F, and Liz S.
We went to pick up the kids & so we hung out for a bit (I got stuck in the car talking to my sister & we had a heart felt conversation & there were tears shed :*o( I just need to say I hope she makes the best decision! I learned something that happened to my sister & it broke my heart that she felt she had to do what she did. Anyways I found out what she is having, but she doesn't want to tell anyone, so I have to keep my mouth hush hush...I already love that baby!
Chris finally set off the car alarm to get me out of the car LOL. And I went in to visit. My brother, Chris & I got into the convo we had with the friend that bailed on the dinner date & my brother kept sticking up for her...it really pissed me off & I finally said that I hated her. I was acting out (LOL that sounds funny to me).  Anyways Chris asked if she was friends with me or my brother & I said obviously him cause she talks to him more. He went to her wedding reception & I couldn't make it. (she didn't go to mine either, but that wasn't why I didn't go...I can't afford much & this trip was my only trip in a year which is so hard for me!). So anyways I ended it with saying what I did about her & went downstairs & folded a bit of laundry (for my sister-in-law) haha. We got back to Tom & Kelly's & played another game on the WII & watch another episode of The Big Bang Theory.

Here is the next day in the story.....