My brother in law is 37 years old. A grown man that can't get his act together. For the past 20 years now he's been in and out of jail on numerous accounts. Most of them the time he would get caught without a license and then wouldn't pay his fines so he they would put a warrant out for his arrest.
A couple of times a young man (Late teens early 20's) he got into trouble for posession of drugs and being under the influence. Of course I don't condone this kind of behavior. He had a rough life growing up, but so did my hubby, why can he not get his act together?
Last night, we get a phone call from my brother in laws wife asking if we can send money to bail him out of jail again. Wait a minute, don't yall owe my mother in law $500 from the last time you bailed him out? That was just a few months ago. Why can't yall get your acts together and do right by the law.
My hubby is a softy, he went and sent the money but not before a long lecture, speech, and fight from me. I think that he should allow his brother to sit in jail and learn his lesson. If everyone keeps coming and bailing him out he will never get his act together.
Since, I knew my hubby was gonna bail him out with or without me backing him up. I told him this will be the only time we help him out. He's a grown man and he needs to have consquences to his actions. He'll never learn if we keep coming to his rescue.
He's a intelligent guy with a great job that supports him, his wife, and his child but he something is lacking if he doesn't learn his lesson.
Do you think my hubby did the right thing by bailing him out or should he have listened to me and let him sit there until he learns his lesson. That is if he is wanting to learn his lesson anyways.
I came from a family that we didn't bail each other out in situations like this. We learned the hard way. Hard knocks are sometimes the best way to learn from the past.