by Sarah (I want points)
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January 12, 2007

What Would You Do?

December 16, 2007 08:20 AM EST
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I've got a scenario for you.  You tell me what you would do.  You are having a party at your house.  One of the people who's coming over asks what you are having.  You tell them, and they say, "Oh well, I guess I'll stay home then because I can't eat any of that.  I'm on a diet.  You should have a fruit tray or something."  Several people ask you if they can bring anything and you tell them all no.  You are fixing the food to honor them.  Well, the person who asked what you were having shows up at the party and has brought their own fruit tray.  They plop it down with all the food you've fixed.  Then they ask if you would bring them the leftovers when the party is over.  What would you do? 
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Comments: 34

Deborah O. Dec 16, 2007, 8:39am EST
Are you kidding me? OMG people can be so rude. But take heart, you don't need to invite this person again.
Now, I would of just accepted the food, and let it go-some people have personal issues that make them act as dumasses.
I am on a special diet, and can't eat any of the holiday fare because it makes me physically sick, however I eat before I go and respect the hostess for their requests
Chuck M. Dec 16, 2007, 8:55am EST
I would definately confront the person and ask them what's up with that.
LeeAnn D. Dec 16, 2007, 9:32am EST
I think it was rude to even ask what she was having. Just come enjoy and if there is something you don't care for then don't put it on your plate.

First off, I'd tell them they can stay home if they didn't want to eat what we were eating. If they are on a diet, they could very easily take small portions of selected food...or just not eat at all.....or simply decline the offer all together.

Regarding leftovers.
Tell them, 'no', they can't have any leftovers, but they are free to take all the leftover fruit back with them. I wouldn't ever invite that person again.
Amanda T. Dec 16, 2007, 9:58am EST
OMG that person is rude! I would confront them and tell them that they are first of all being rude for asking what I was having to eat and then rude to bring there own food. And then I would never invite them to anything I ever had again!
shannon k. Dec 16, 2007, 10:01am EST
i can understand asking what you're serving because i have some restrictions myself. however this person is expecting too much. her answer should have been 'thank you for telling me', and she could have eaten at home before going to your house; or like leeann said she could exercise self-control and avoid eating too much of what you served. it's not reasonable to expect the hostess to make separate stuff for each person. also if she can't eat what you serve, she certainly can't tolerate any leftovers.
LEЯA © Politcally Incorrect M. Dec 16, 2007, 10:38am EST
Shannon, I think she was asking for any of the leftover fruit dish she had brought to the party back. Not all the leftovers from the party. That would be just too, too stupid. I'm afraid I might have to plant my foot up her rear if she tried that!
Bill W. Dec 16, 2007, 10:41am EST
When you make out your Christmas card list for next year --- have a memory lapse when you get to her. You may want to keep her on your guest list just so you look really good in comparison. Nah! You don't need that.

Rest Easy
JoAnn C. Dec 16, 2007, 10:58am EST
I would tell the person you are busy the next couple of days and won't be able to deliver the left overs but they are welcome to take them when they leave.
J F. Dec 16, 2007, 11:08am EST
Did you make this up just for conversation sake? That is just so rude. Surely you must know what kind of people they are.
Alison H. Dec 16, 2007, 11:21am EST
There are many medically-necessary diets, and of course they should be honored. I am on one of those, and it can be depressing to go to an event where there's nothing I can eat; therefore I take some of my own food or eat ahead of time. So I don't think you should be offended if someone needs to bring something to eat. As for bringing them leftovers--HA! Excuse me, only if they are seniors entitled to "Meals on Wheels"!
Peter Joseph Swanson Dec 16, 2007, 12:31pm EST
If it's a sit down dinner party it is important to take diet into consideration.

If it's a more casually arranged party and you have a diet problem then just eat your own sandwich in the car, first, and don't eat at the party.
Col. George W. Dec 16, 2007, 1:00pm EST
Handled wrong in the beginning? When they ask what you were having and said they couldn't eat it. "Well we will miss you, maybe next time" would have been the proper response. They came anyway with their own fruit tray? "Thank you" and ignore them. They will leave early and take their fruit tray with them.
I think Col. George has it.
It's OK to ask what's being served if you have medical or religious restrictions on your diet. It's not OK to be combative or rude about it.
If it's a sit down dinner, you should always take the preferences and restrictions of the guests as a guide to the menu.
A casual party would give less weight to the preferences of the guests because they're free to come and go and aren't forced to sit down for two hours staring at an empty plate!
Sarah (I want points) Dec 16, 2007, 3:44pm EST
Sorry... I meant to specify that this is a casual part. Drop in and finger foods only. And they wanted THEIR fruit dish back not all of the leftovers...
Sarah (I want points) Dec 16, 2007, 3:45pm EST
party... my goodness I can't type...
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Kayleigh M. Dec 16, 2007, 11:41pm EST
HA! You mean they dropped fruit off and left? I would take the platter put it in the fridge not let anyone touch it and say no one wanted it, OR I would say ummm no thanks, pick up the tray and hand it back
Joseph H. Dec 16, 2007, 11:51pm EST
I would tell them "Thanks for the platter. It was so popular, there were no leftovers. I'm definately inviting you to my next party. Please bring twice as much next time."
Maddie D. Dec 17, 2007, 4:39am EST
I'd laugh extremely hard and be like, c'mon.... get a grip, what the hell is your problem? lol.
Maddie D. Dec 17, 2007, 4:39am EST
ORRRRRRRRRRR I'd say "you're retarded lol."
Debra H. Dec 17, 2007, 11:20am EST
I'd hand them the fruit tray back and tell them thanks but no thanks and here's your leftovers.
gaelyn k. Dec 17, 2007, 9:20pm EST
I would enjoy the party and probably delete them from future events. As my mother always says be polite. If you can't eat whats served say no thank you. Plan ahead. Eat before you arrive. Or if it is a true medical need ask politely. People can understand that.
Tom M. Dec 18, 2007, 12:29pm EST
It is the holiday season and the time of sharing with friends and family. Some people are like that. This can not be the first time that this person has shown her personality. If she is on a restricted diet, there should be nothing wrong with her bringing the dish so she can enjoy your company while being able to enjoy something to eat.

Did she handle it wrong? Of course. However, I think you need to let it roll off your back and remember why you had the party in the first place. I assume this person means something to you or else you would not have invited them. If that relationship is worth losing over a fruit dish, than dump her/him. If it is a relationship you value, forgive and forget because life is too short.
William M. Dec 18, 2007, 12:55pm EST
Give them the left overs and don't invite them again.
carmel m. Dec 18, 2007, 2:12pm EST
I'm with william on this one.
carmel m. Dec 18, 2007, 2:14pm EST
One thing that is similar happened to me a few years ago. We had a casual BBQ. A close friend of mine has a VERY picky hubby We cooked what he brought for himself only to eat and he still complained. He said we should have given him the money for what his particular food item cost. Lets just say he has not ben back.
carolyn b. Dec 18, 2007, 9:32pm EST
Everyone seems to be saying the same thing which is right, the person was rude and if the person was on a diet, it's ok to splurge sometime.
Matt O. Dec 18, 2007, 10:21pm EST
i'd tell them they are welcome to take the plate home when they leaves... rude! Its not my problem!

next time don't extend them an invitation.
Shannon S. Dec 19, 2007, 5:17pm EST
I don't think I'd invite them to another party (unless its someone you have to endure like your mother-in-law or bosses wife or someone).
Digital Diva S. Dec 20, 2007, 8:34am EST
I, one with food allergies and no tolerance for high fat certainly understands bringing something to share that I can eat but I would never ask for leftovers. I would accept them if offered but I would never ask.

It's Christmas, I would not delete her off my list of friends because she's on a diet and looking out for herself.

And I don't agree "that's it's OK to splurge sometimes" - unless you want too.

That would be like saying to a drunk - oh go ahead and enjoy...
Marianne R. Dec 20, 2007, 8:38am EST
Usually when someone brings a food dish or booze of whatever to a party, it is considered that person's "gift" to the party. Asking for the leftovers is simply tacky.
Ellen B. Jan 7, 2008, 4:29am EST
hmm.. not sure what I'd do

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