by Doc, in the middle, holding on... Curmudgeon esq.
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November 20, 2005

Picking up Mom...

December 13, 2007 08:46 PM EST (Updated: December 13, 2007 08:49 PM EST)
views: 87 | rating: 9.7/10 (32 votes) | comments: 33

Picking up Mom…

 

In the morning I meet the Chaplain,
at the mortuary in town,

to pick Mom's remains.

 

He has a holiday planned
for the weekend, so we
moved up the time.

 

I'll get to bring her home alone,
and find a spot for her to wait…
Till Gordo and I can get her to the briny.

 

The early parts are almost over.
The action, the planning, the work.

The hard part will be driving home Christmas day
to an empty house without love.

 

 

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Comments: 33

Jody Says Dec 13, 2007, 8:52pm EST
wow. Very nicely put, considering the circumstances.
~~ Sarina ~~ Dec 13, 2007, 8:55pm EST
Lloyd, you may return home to an empty house, but the love your mother had for you and that you had for her will live on in your heart. Big huggers to you.
cindy a. Dec 13, 2007, 8:56pm EST
Very good Doc, sorry for the loss, I've been there and it's a rough road.
Jennifer Oliver Dec 13, 2007, 9:00pm EST
Oh, wow, Lloyd, this really tugged at my heartstrings. My condolences to you on the loss of your mother...may you feel her love filling up every room of that empty house.
Kathy W. Dec 13, 2007, 9:05pm EST
Lloyd. I am dreading the same tasks.
I will say, that I've thought ahead, and have seen some of this. If it is any comfort:
A house is not empty. It holds photos, memories, and for quite a long time, after they depart...it continues to hold a vestige of the love that was given and shared there.
Some people are not replaceable. Favorite teachers, and Mom's are those types.
Think with a softness.
Blessed be.
Wilka
Jaye S. Dec 13, 2007, 9:07pm EST
Sorry about your loss.
Kathy W. Dec 13, 2007, 9:08pm EST
{{{long distance hug...soft. And a pat on the back for condolences; and a spine-centered, gentle rub for life.. And a soft cotton hankie, do you need one.}}}
Wilka
Karen M. Dec 13, 2007, 9:08pm EST
Our thoughts are with you. My mother lost her mom only 4 days before Christmas and as an only child, she has never gotten over it and the holidays have never been quite the same for her.
Shaunee C. Dec 13, 2007, 9:15pm EST
That is so sad Lloyd. I have been dealing with my mom since my grannie passed away earlier this year. i know it is hard dealing with it. blessings to you.
Jennifer F. Dec 13, 2007, 9:21pm EST
Christmas is going to be hard and lonely this year. Wish there was something we could do to ease your pain. It will just take time. I'm thinking of you.
Lisa Frost Dec 13, 2007, 9:22pm EST
It is not easy. You have already shown such amazing strength. My mother's ashes are interred in a rock with rose petals in my yard. No matter where their remains go, the greatest part of them remains in you. She is always going to be a part of your memories and heart. In time you will be able to remember the good things, and not just the lonliness of the last days.
Ruth MacGill Dec 13, 2007, 9:49pm EST
Sorry for your sadness. I'm sure she left a lot of love behind for you.
Janet Somewhere Up On The Mount Dec 13, 2007, 9:55pm EST
I am so sorry for your loss Lloyd.
I am feeling that same feeling of our empty house without Miss Emma.
It is very hard I know but know we your gather family are here for you. Maybe our Mom's are together watching over us gathering ; )
God Bless You this holiday.
thank you all.
Laura Cushing Dec 13, 2007, 10:22pm EST
I remember how hard it was picking up my father's ashes. We still have them in the house in a marble urn. It was hard not to cry seeing them there on the mantle at first - but as time went on, we took comforting in feeling that a part of him was still with us.

I hope that you come to have some comfort in your loss too, Lloyd. Remember you have a lot of friends here on Gather to celebrate the holidays with, however distantly. A whole fanclub worth!
Mariana T. Dec 13, 2007, 10:24pm EST
I am truly sorry to hear about the passing of your beloved mother. May she rest in Peace. Salud.
Cheryl W. Dec 13, 2007, 10:30pm EST
HUGS, Lloyd. I know this is a difficult time. My prayers are with you.
t b. Dec 13, 2007, 10:34pm EST
I had no idea Lloyd. I have been away from gather for a few days.
I am so sorry for your loss.
But I think your house is full of love.
I applaud your caring for your mother.
What a good son you are.
Now it's time to take care of You.
flit . Dec 14, 2007, 2:32am EST
wish there we something we could do to make it easier for you :( I hate to think of you there all alone for Christmas.
Kimberly Ripley Dec 14, 2007, 8:40am EST
Your mom's love lives in your heart. Even though you can't see her, she's loving you from Heaven. I truly believe this and hope it brings you a little bit of peace. Plan now to find a new Christmas Day tradition....a church, volunteer somewhere, etc. Not trying to be pushy....just trying to offer suggestions that might possibly help a little!! Hang in there, Lloyd!
We are home.
Kabba T. Dec 14, 2007, 11:52am EST
I really feel for you, I lost my father in 2003, and I never knew how bad the grief could be. but every once in a while i get a sign from him, and i know he's still with me. and so is you mother, still with you.
Deborah D. Dec 14, 2007, 4:36pm EST
Is there something that she really enjoyed doing that you could do in her honor\memory on the way home?

Memories of her will pop in at varying frequency and you will, eventually, smile about thoughts of her reactions or comments that she would say about something going on around you.

I still get that about one of my grandmothers, though she has been gone over 20 years now. Special people leave us with very special memories.

Know that you are special to lots of people, Lloyd!
Debbie G. Dec 14, 2007, 8:06pm EST
My heart goes out to you, Lloyd.
I put her out in her craft room... turned on a light for her, haven't cleaned it yet.
and went out and said goodnight, and told her I missed her.
Nanina Hawk Dec 14, 2007, 11:53pm EST
My sincere condolences for your loss.
No Michelle.. I am not even worth trying for.
necee t. Dec 17, 2007, 1:23am EST
hi Lloyd... i'm sorry for your loss... it must be worse because of the holidays...
i'll pray for you and your family as you go through your mourning...
my x mother in law passed last month and i know how hard it is...
God be with you...
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Mrs Nobles Dec 19, 2007, 11:35am EST
sorry to hear about your mom. we still have my mom in a plastic box from her cremation.
Sharon A. Apr 18, 2008, 12:29pm EDT
I am so sorry to hear this.

I hope you know she is in good hands now. I hope there is a part of you that knows that she is finished and has gone "HOME." She does not have to live in this HELL we call Earth anymore.

I lost my father last year, and I felt bad because I did not get to know him. I admired the man, but I never really got to know him. He is not suffering anymore, and I am grateful for that.

I hope this helps you. Big hug.

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