When a man touches a woman...
December 10, 2007 11:35 AM UTC
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My husband and I had a debate yesterday on the reason why a man will touch a woman. He says that if a man puts his hands on a woman for any reason it's because he wants her. I disagree. I had a male friend a couple years ago that always gave me a back rub. Even in front of his wife. I don't think there was any other reason for it other than the fact that we were friends. I wasn't the only woman he did that to. If a man touches a woman or vice versa do you think it means that they are attracted to you? I'm talking about innocent touching, nothing vulgar. I would love to show my husband that other agree with me.
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A male friend once told me that if a man uses the word sex in a conversation with you, in any context, then he is thinking of having sex with you. This seems sort of similar.
Sorry to be such a prude and not help your cause.
I do think that Moh is on to something. It usually means more than friendship to men whereas with women it is usually more on a friend basis. It can be different from guy to guy just as it is woman to woman.
It's the Bay Area and the damned San Francisco Values.
I am 100% certain that my husband would not ever stray. I know that might seem foolish to some, but I trust him that much.
So, when we are out somewhere and he sees a woman he knows and hugs them, I think nothing of it. That's his way of greeting people he cares about - they know it and I know it.
And I hope that your husband is wrong, because there are certain co-workers that have touched me on the arm, shoulder, etc., from time to time and the idea that any of them are thinking about sex with me is.... well, lets just say it makes my brain hurt. LOL
On the other side of that, I am not sexually attracted to every person that I touch. Not by any means. I used to be a hugger with most everyone, but now, because of a very uncomfortable experience, except for a few choice make friends, I only hug my female friends. Regardless, DH is not jealous either way. He knows he owns my heart.
But I am a pretty good judge of when someone's touch is meant to be in an "I'm attracted to you" sort of way and they learn very quickly I'm OFF limits.
Men can touch women,like your example,a backrub,and not want them...all men arent that shallow-im sorry your hubby can't see that
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I used to think it can be innocent, but my SO says no way. If a man is touching a woman especially giving a back rub, he is testing the waters. I would be very cautious. It may not be apparent now, but could be in the future.
It isn't the touching that is the main issue, but the intent. My husband has touched my elderly mother many times when helping her and I am sure there is no physical attraction there. He is simply being helpful and polite.