by penni d.
Member since:
September 12, 2007

does a good KISS mean a PROMISE of MORE???

November 28, 2007 10:09 AM UTC (Updated: November 29, 2007 01:19 PM UTC)
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                                              Okay, i admit i am clueless here. I have dated a few times since a divorce in '01, but they were just friendly dates. So a neighbor visits yesterday, one that i had told 6 months ago that a date was possible in the future.He is rather lonely, i am in a playful, "willing to give a little time to" mood ..........As we talk, i notice his lips look nice,sooooo,

when he suddenly leaned over and KISSED me, i did not smack him, but went with the flow and ENJOYED. Big mistake!!!!!I promised nothing, but due to the mutual enjoyment, he got a little premature with his assumptions...........i go in the kitchen to put supper on, he follows me, grabs, and i mean* GRABS*! I had to open the fridge door and smack him in the face with it to make him behave!!! i get him back out on the porch(where i can BREATH) and

he calms down somewhat and we discuss going to the stock car races this weekend.I go back in to check dinner....oh, NOOOOO!!! he comes in and HERE we GO AGAIN!!! This time it was short, as i was chopping peppers for the salad and the knife was SHINY.....he went out rather SPEEDILY!!!!

                             the question is: What makes a fellow think it is ok to GROPE you if you have only shared conversation and a couple of good kisses? Groping might have led to far better things, if ONLY he had been PATIENT, and done the proper ORDER of things! DAMN!!

Now I have to keep the gates locked and HIDE while I figure out the next step. What do you think, friends? Shall i honor the near date? or ???????????

Comments: 41

penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 10:23am UTC
lol, Evil...that was AWFUL!!! had a few of those kind of dates myself in the past, which is why i do not wish to begin again?? But, the kisses did make me tingle a bit.....methinks i shall just enjoy the tingle and PASS on the REST!!!!
Marta Stephens Nov 28, 2007, 10:27am UTC
Run, Penni, Run. No way should you keep that date. I'd be thinking more along the lines of moving out of the neighborhood!
Rita Johnson Nov 28, 2007, 10:29am UTC
No way don't do it.
Dan B. Nov 28, 2007, 10:29am UTC
I wuz TRAUMa TIZED!!!! my SIS, MY FRIEND!!! RIGHT ON THE PORCH!!!! I gotta go LIE DOWN!! NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 10:34am UTC
well, Reena...I did tell him months ago I was willing to be friends and date casual like, but did not wanna jump into the "DEED"...then, before we kissed, I said AGAIN, i was not ready to get my bones jumped, by ANYONE! We had agreed that a kiss was a good test on future interest...I had not agreed that a kiss would LEAD to .........
penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 10:36am UTC
is interest SUPPOSED to lead STRAIGHT to the ACT? Dang!!!
penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 10:37am UTC
lol, i DID. the FRIDGE DOOR!!! he bent over and *OOMPHED*
Paidra Delayno Nov 28, 2007, 10:40am UTC
Reena,
come on now, since when does a kiss automatically mean the rest of the body goes with it? this jerk sees penni as easy prey. b.s. the man is not a gentleman and should be avoided. if penni would enjoy going to the races, with him however, a simple understanding is in order. something like, "I would enjoy going with you, BUT, you will kindly keep your hands to yourself " i'm sure penni can phrase it better.
Paidra Delayno Nov 28, 2007, 10:42am UTC
crazy, a bunch of messages jumped on the screen just as I posted.
Kay M Nov 28, 2007, 10:52am UTC
Does not sound like a gentleman. If you do go the the races with him, take along a baseball bat or a tire iron.
J. G. Weddle Nov 28, 2007, 10:56am UTC
A kiss does not mean "more". He needs a smack. A gentleman knows when "more" is in the offerring. Clowns just try to rush the program.
penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 11:02am UTC
oooh, i think i need CHOCOLATE!!!!
JoAnne D. Nov 28, 2007, 11:30am UTC
Seems like he has made it clear what he really wants and if he can get out of it without spending time and money he will. You should definitely watch your step. It seems scary to me too.
hawk d. Nov 28, 2007, 12:59pm UTC
You sexy thing! I am surprised he has no fat lip. I am surprised he still has balls. you do have a reputation, Ms. "do not TOUCH". Want to go for coffee? I promise to behave!
(grin)
Stacie N. Nov 28, 2007, 2:19pm UTC
If you decide to go out with him, make it VERY clear that he needs to move slowly. If he doesn't respect that, kick him to the curb.
~Lady Neeetah of California~Obama #44 W. Nov 28, 2007, 2:33pm UTC
Get rid of him, like yesterday. He is a real jerk and a loser.
~Lady Neeetah of California~Obama #44 W. Nov 28, 2007, 2:34pm UTC
. . .and might I add, he is dangerous. MUCHO DANGEROUS!
~Lady Neeetah of California~Obama #44 W. Nov 28, 2007, 2:44pm UTC
. . .and Reena you are not the odd woman out. I know that many people think I am mean, that I am HARD, but you must be.
You smile at man -- he thinks, "She wants me."
You say hello, he thinks, "She wants me."
You say "Let's be friends" or "I want to get to know you." and
oooooooooooh yes, they think, "She wants to LAY me."

God forbid you KISS them! They probably think you LOVE them!

You cannot blame them for the signals being giving out, however there is one clear signal, clear in several languages and understand in several languages and it is

******************NO!**************

Get rid of this person, Penni!
I have the nightmare of a neighbor stalker.
I would like to have him jailed, truth be told
Before it gets to that, use that word of many languages,
**********NO!************
and get rid of this dude.
This is no laughing matter at all.
penni d. Nov 28, 2007, 3:53pm UTC
True, my lady...I am now on Roger Dodger alert...gates locked, me too,lol.....a tingle do not a bedmate make........for goodness sake!!!
Jan S. Nov 28, 2007, 4:54pm UTC
No means no. Kiss or no kiss. What part of no does he not understand? The N or the O? It's pretty straightforward. If the fridge door didn't make your point, he must be pretty dense. Maybe buy some pepper spray? It is sold in the sporting goods department of most stores. Good luck!
M. Bradley McCauley Nov 28, 2007, 6:23pm UTC
If he gropes you after a kiss, imagine what he will expect after a date. I vote NO, unless you are attracted to him. Perhaps you need to have a chat and ask him if you indicated to him you wanted more. Have a buddy chat and see if that helps.

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necee t. Nov 29, 2007, 1:15am UTC
hi Penni... i don't think you should go to the races unless you have another
way to get home... he sounds toooo eager for anything past a kiss...
sorry honey... good luck... keep us posted...
God bless you...
Michelle B. Nov 29, 2007, 3:05am UTC
hmm....... Auntie I think you should not keep your gate locked and maybe dress up and go for a nice walk in the neighborhood realizing that it is YOUR neighboorhood then , I think you should tell Mr. so and so that your neice who has just been let out of a certain institution for attempting to rid the world of eagar men who tread on her uncle's ex property ie..MY AUNT !!! Then maybe go with my uncle your ex husband to the casino and live happily ever after...YAY...

P.S. I finally joined Gather .....looks like I am just in time!! :) :) XOXOXOXOX
William Dotani Nov 29, 2007, 4:52am UTC
I would not be so kick to judge. A good kiss does fill the heart with passion. Just because he hugged you does not mean he's a pervert. If you're going to see him again, tell him you real feelings and your fears. Be direct and see what he says. If he is understanding and willing to discuss the matter, then you possibly have a good man. If he doesn't want to discuss things, show him the door. I'm all for equality, but I hate it when a man is judged just because he acts a bit forward. Men are that way unless you've forgotten your teen age years.
penni d. Nov 29, 2007, 9:15am UTC
Niece Michelle, welcome!!! Kisses and hugs,lol!!!

William, i may not have made self clear...he followed me into a small space, grabbed me, and i would have SWORN he had 6 freaking hands...I have not been...ahem...touched, THERE, since a long gone divorce.....the kitchen was not the place, the time was NOT...good grief, my friend, if a kiss causes THAT, i shall stick to my habit of KICKING instead....a bit forward is a VAST understatement...
penni d. Nov 29, 2007, 10:29am UTC
Hey, Michelle...i am NOBODIES EX- PROPERTY!!!! i'm gonna have to give ya a CYBERSLAP for THAT one!!!
penni d. Nov 29, 2007, 2:12pm UTC
Hug...GROPE....HUG....GROPE.....NOPE! Not the SAME THING at ALL!!!!!
Daniel D. Nov 29, 2007, 8:15pm UTC
Be HONEST and open with him on how you feel in a pleasant VERBAL manner. If he continues to behave the same, then, you may need to re-elvaluate your association with him. Someone who fails to listen or respect an individuals wishes is trouble waiting to happen. Speaking as a guy, men do not necissarily speak the same language when it comes to unspoken language. Clear and unquestionable spoken words should generally clear things right up. No one can read minds, and it happens that often PEOPLE change thier mind on a whim according to how they feel. good luck!
Elsie Duggan Nov 29, 2007, 9:24pm UTC
He may have been overcome with a bit of "passion" seeing you making dinner, lol, that excites some men, but I think you need to put up some real boundry rules here, and stick to them, If you seriously are afraid to go out with him again, then don't, If he is too aggressive for you find someone more docile and you can be the aggressor in the situation. Since you have been divorced for quite awhile, and just beginning dating, try and remember that you are older than the first time around, and the man might just think you are more mature, and can handle things like that, he needs to be told you don't want that kind of relationship with him. I hope it all works out for you, lonliness is a tough street to be on.
penni d. Nov 29, 2007, 9:30pm UTC
what he Thought, elsie, was that i was as needy as he....NOT! i have enjoyed life as a single woman, he has been lonely as a single man.....but if a fella can not wait even for a proper DATE first, then no, i am not interested. and yes, i do know how to speak my wishes, my mind. I felt as if i were speaking to a brick wall....
Austin Cushing Nov 29, 2007, 9:48pm UTC
On the bright side, at least you didn't end up stabbing him. Not that it wouldn't've taught him a valuable lesson, but...

(This comment is part of Gatherology Experiment 1!)
Rosa See Ya Nov 30, 2007, 2:42am UTC
Sounds like his mind has been pondering this for awhile, just hope he's not a stalker/obsessive type. One kiss they think they own ya.... sheesh.
Busy Buzzy Bee 'Gather Proud Mamarazzi' Nov 30, 2007, 2:52am UTC
I think YES
hawk d. Nov 30, 2007, 6:27pm UTC
Call the cops. Seriously.I know you would have told him how rude he was.

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