My child is evil part two .. responses to comments.

Thomas .. Thomas Thomas ... I did not "take her away from her father". He was a voilent abusive man who would beat me and the kids. He would abuse us physically and verbally and emotionally. I took a lot of the abuse to keep him from hurting the kids. So in the end he tried to kill me with a baseball bat. After that I filed for divorce and the kids and I left him. HOWEVER ... I never denied him contact with the kids. He himself left the kids when he could no longer control my life and make my life hell. It was HIS choice to cut off contact with his kids. He decided he didn't want to pay child support and fled the state. So IT IS NOT MY FAULT he is not in their life. He wasn't good for them anyhow. He chose on his own to not keep in touch with his kids. The kids have their own email and phone they can email or call him whenever. He cut off contact to them. He will nto answer the phone when they call or respond to their emails. His own family has shut him out. His sister refuses to have anything to do with him. I guess he was using and abusing her as well (her words). His parents (whom I am still close with) said they only hear from him when he wants something. So by all means it is not ME!!!

As far as her babysitting .... she does have to babysit for about 2 hours everyday after school until I get home from work. I am a SINGLE mother who gets NO child support so I have no choice I HAVE to work. If I did not work my kids would not eat ... we would not have a roof over our heads and they would not have clothes on their backs and shoes on their feet. So babysitting for two hours a day for kids who are old enough to do for themselves is not what is getting to her. When she is babysitting she is simply at the house with them and they are doing their own thing. Guess some people would prefer we be on public assistance so I could stay home ... even with public assistance they would not give you enough to make your rent in michigan let alone provide food and clothes for four kids. So I choose to work so I can provide for my children .. god knows there father doesn't give a damm about them. So I work .. 6 days a week. Most of the time I am working the kids are all at school. ... except for the two hours that overlap. It is not like I am irresponsible and neglecting my kids so I can run the streets .. I am working. They have several phones in the house and all the emergency info they need and my neighbors are great and would do anything to help the kids and I out if she needed them.

Donna .. we do have family dinners. Everyday when I come home from work we sit together and eat dinner. The kids tell me about their day .. homework .. friends .. ect. I am very close with all my kids. My oldest ironically her and I are the closest. I take the kids on outings .. at least one every two weeks. We have cable and my friends loan me movies all the time. So a lot of nights we all sit together and watch movies. We spend a lot of time together. We do scrapbooking and crafts ... lots of things. I will even make time to spend some alone time with each kids at least once a month. You know where we can get out of the house just the two of us and do something we like together. Sometimes it is going to a movie .. or to dinner. My oldest loves to shop so I will give her money and we will go shopping. I just try to make sure each kid gets some individual time. My oldest she gets the most time alone with me.

She is diagnosed OCD and Bi polar. When she was younger she used to wash her hands a thousand times a day .. until they bled. She wouldn't even know she was doing it. Her father has OCD too .. and his father. So a lot of her 'routines' I know are from OCD. She takes Paxil now and has taken it for years ... it was the wonder drug for her. Without it she would still be washing her hands non stop! Oh yeah .. poor kid got my panic attacks too. She has them once in a while. The paxil seems to help but in extreme stress she will have them. As far as the bi polar she takes the paxil and lamictal. Seemed to help for a while. The thing is she is a sweet compassionate person .. then all the sudden she is a totally different person then 5 minutes before. She is violent and yelling and screaming .. then crying and pouting ... then shortly after she is fine again. She has always been like this. As a baby she was VERY clingy. If I left her site she would cry and cry until she turned herself purple by holding her breath. She would act like I was abandoning her! As she got older she was still clingy but getting more and more independant. Now she is 14 .. she is very independant ... but very lazy too. She doesn't like to clean up after herself but then if she can't find something it is always someone else's fault ...

For example .. 6am I am sound asleep in bed. She woke up early for school and can't find her brush or MY brush. She will bust through my door yelling and screaming and crying because she canh't find MY brush and she lost hers. Some how in her mind this is MY fault. Make sense to any of you?

This is just how she is. yesterday I did nothing to her. I simply walked in the door to the house and she was yelling and screaming seconds later....

She has a shirt that explains her perfectly. It says "warning next temper tantrum in 5 minutes or less"

She did finally calm down last night. After she threw her fit. Ran in her room and cried and cried .. then she came out grumpy. I asked her if she was feeling any better and wanted to talk. She did not so I left it alone. She was fine for most of the rest of the evening.