One way giving?

I think people who act like that aren't giving for the right reasons. Instead of giving just for the joy of knowing you are helping someone or making their day better they are doing it to make themselves look better. Sounds to me like they want attention so everyone will think they are a good person.

Yes indeed. Good Karma. Keep doing what your doing. It takes a special person to do nice things for others, and there aren't many of us. A ten star for your efforts!!!

I don't think giving can be one-way. I think giving generates its own rewards. I know it does for me.

But beyond such psychological mechanisms, giving generates a different attitude in the people who receive. It counteracts some of the hurtful behavior that they have experienced.

For example, I am sure you have had people do rude things to you while you were driving. These actions make us grumpy (in my case) or worse. But have you ever had someone display special courtesy to you when you wanted to get into the flow of traffic or something of the sort. These small acts of kindness, these small sacrifices make those other drivers feel good. "Other people who don't know me are taking care of me. They are being kind to me. Maybe the world isn't so bad after all."

This kind of feeling makes them more likely to be kind in traffic as well. It establishes a new norm for behavior. And that helps us in the long run.

It sounds like they don't want to do something for nothing.

It sounds like they are numb to the wonderful feeling you get knowing that you have done something for another. To me, knowing that you have given something that someone needs is a tremendous feeling. If someone can't feel that, then they look for recognition or some other reward. It is sad, if you really think about it.

Larry, i am talking about that person that allowed you into traffic, let say he/she because of there act of kindness writes a letter to the DMV telling them of he/her act and wanting to get there tag at a discount because they are such "a good person" for driving safely. I think that is just wrong.
Doing the right thing has it own rewards.

True giving has no expectations for reciprocation or acknowledgment. It is nice to want to know if the gift was received, and a thank you is always nice, but if it is EXPECTED, then perhaps the giver is giving for the wrong reasons.

Random Acts of Kindness will be blessing -

You are developing your Karma account. It will come back to you twofold. I would not worry about these other women giving for the wrong reasons. It will just drain you of the joy you have from giving.

hi Jennifer... that's a shame... i would never expect a 'thank you'
from the soldiers we send things to... they have already given us
enough by fighting for our freedom...
God bless you all...

the people that are demanding thank yous or an article in the paper are not doing things for the right reasons. OBVIOUSLY... they are self serving "notice me, I helped" kind of people. Too bad more people like you aren't doing things.

I always have to remind my hubby; we do not give to get.