by Doc, in the middle, holding on... Curmudgeon esq.
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November 20, 2005

Many thanks to all who emailed, called and cared.

November 11, 2007 08:33 PM EST
views: 178 | rating: 10/10 (47 votes) | comments: 65

Mom has rallied and is for the moment stable but fading. It's a waiting game now.

The photo below doesn't show my mattress on the floor where I sepnd my nights.

 and yes THAT'S how MY weekend went.  

 http://media-files.gather.com/images/d57/d461/d744/d224/d96/f3/full.jpg

Thanks gang..  as you can see by the inset the cats are on duty.....
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Comments: 65

Donna Hammett-Tooker Nov 11, 2007, 8:36pm EST
We are here - lean on us.
ELLEN B. Nov 11, 2007, 8:37pm EST
Lloyd, it is sweet you bunk in there, she must feel so safe. I am thinking of you. A lot. Give her a hug from me. Get some rest. Ellen B
is it just me???? Gather took FOREVER to post this simple little article..
~~ Sarina ~~ Nov 11, 2007, 8:43pm EST
Hi Lloyd. It is great that the cats can lend a paw. Big huggers to you.
Elaine B. Nov 11, 2007, 8:50pm EST
Hi! Lloyd. We're all here for your mom and you.
Picture Me 3D Mel Nov 11, 2007, 9:02pm EST
It takes so much to be there for our loved ones! You are truly an angle to your mother! Remember to keep yourself in good health to be able to take care of her. You are an inspiration for many!
My thoughts are with you and yours!
michael c. Nov 11, 2007, 9:05pm EST
Hang in their you have my prayers.
Janna O'Donnell Nov 11, 2007, 9:15pm EST
I'm sorry it's so tough right now. I'll be praying for you and your mother.
♥kyra D. Nov 11, 2007, 9:31pm EST
So sorry Lloyd. Strength and peace to you my friend. (((hugs)))
flit . Nov 11, 2007, 9:40pm EST
Hang in there Lloyd.... take care of yourself
Ron B. Nov 11, 2007, 9:54pm EST
I'm with Raven. I'm so glad that your mom has you.
Lisa Frost Nov 11, 2007, 10:03pm EST
hang in there Lloyd. I know that isn't easy, day and night just waiting. You are in my prayers.
Kimberly Ripley Nov 11, 2007, 10:22pm EST
The waiting is so hard. What a blessing to your mom that you stay right there in her room with her. She knows you're there even if she isn't able to respond, and they must give her great comfort. You're both in my prayers each day. Hang in there!
Donald M. Nov 11, 2007, 10:43pm EST
That is so sweet of you. I dont think I have a child that would do that.
Lynn R. Nov 11, 2007, 11:11pm EST
I can only hope that when it's 'my turn' my girls stick by me the way you have your mother in her last days. It must be comforting for her to know you are there for her, Lloyd.
Erin P. Nov 11, 2007, 11:31pm EST
I echo Donald's comment and say "Hang in there!" I now this has got to be painful to feel helpless while watching and waiting, but know that it makes every bit of difference to her. Inside, whether she says it or not, she is scared and your being there helps with that. Your sacrifice and compassion are not going unnoticed or unappreciated. What a wonderful son you are.
Sue * Nov 11, 2007, 11:36pm EST
She is so lucky to have you, I can only imagine how hard this must be. Hang in there...
Ruth MacGill Nov 12, 2007, 12:06am EST
This part of life so hard on loved ones left behind. They leave such an empty gap. If I were in your mother's place I would be very grateful you are on the journey with her as far as you can go. I expect my cats to mourn just like they are doing in your picture, but I would want them within purring and petting distance anyhow.
Member Photog Nov 12, 2007, 12:41am EST
wishing the best for you and your mom.....hugs,gayle
Wilma M. Nov 12, 2007, 12:43am EST
It's so wonderful that you are able to be there with your mom. So many family members are not able to do that.

Love that the cats are on duty along with you!

Take care.
Kathleen ♥ L. Nov 12, 2007, 1:53am EST
You are a wonderful son to have stood by your Mom the way you have. Happy to see the cats are helping out... please make sure to take care of yourself too. It won't do your Mom any good if you make yourself ill over this.
Sending hugs, strength and positive energy your way! Kat
Shaunee C. Nov 12, 2007, 3:16am EST
Bless you and your mother Lloyd.
Debby C. Nov 12, 2007, 3:42am EST
We're here for you Lloyd, lucky mom she is - raised a good one she did!
Norvona J. Nov 12, 2007, 4:14am EST
Hang in there, Lloyd, and take care of yourself as well. This is the right thing to do and you will be glad that you did.

When Mother had surgery and was in the hospital a month, I packed my bags and moved in the room with her. We were lucky this time to have a private room so I had a couch to sleep on and no one could "run me out." There had been times before that I slept in a chair by her bed. Being in the hospital is scary and confusing. My being there was such a comfort to her and me too!

I know I will be where you are in the not so distant future, and I hope I have the support that you have found on Gather . . . A great bunch of people, huh?

My prayers and thoughts are with both of you.
Therese P. Nov 12, 2007, 4:17am EST
I can't explain what it feels to me - to endure this journey - with you.
Thanks for sharing.
penni d. Nov 12, 2007, 7:31am EST
i simply do not have the words for you, Lloyd...but i do have empathy and try to send energy on the wind..........bless you both... *HUG*
Xavier Feldercarb Nov 12, 2007, 8:12am EST
Lloyd, a few years ago I was in almost the same situation that you are in now and I know exactly how difficult it is to help someone you love shed this stage of life and move on to something so very much better.

We never get old enough or wise enough or experienced enough to reach a point where we are prepared to be orphans.

God bless you and your Mom.
Michelle W. Nov 12, 2007, 10:59am EST
We will always be here for you Lloyd. Plus you are in our prayers. I am glad the cats are on duty with you!
Old Crow (straight, but not narrow) Nov 12, 2007, 11:08am EST
We're thinking of you and sending you loving thoughts, Lloyd. We're here. You will never regret the time and care you're giving your Mom right now.
Susan A. Nov 12, 2007, 1:17pm EST
Nursed my Mom for 8 yrs (stroked, aphasic, paralyzed) I treasured every minute with her. You are terrific!!You will never regret the time and care you're giving your Mom right now (as said above) so true
Nana to Seven Cutiepies Nov 12, 2007, 1:50pm EST
Lloyd, you are still in my thoughts and prayers daily along with your Mother.
Jo C. Nov 12, 2007, 2:20pm EST
Lloyd,
So many at Gather (including me) have gone through this. Write and keep us informed whenever you can because I know how hard it can be, how grueling and the range of emotions that can go through you at times like this. I hope that you already know that any emotion, from grief to anger, is possible - and there is no "normal" or any "right or wrong" about how you can feel in a situation like this.
Clearly, from the responses you've gotten here, lots of people at Gather care about you and are keeping you in their thoughts, wishing you the best under the circumstances. What you are doing is so admirable - and so hard.
Tamra F. Nov 12, 2007, 3:20pm EST
Your in our prayers and thoughts. May the Lord be your strength.

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Tamra F. Nov 12, 2007, 3:37pm EST
Llyod, I think you fit the description above quite well..... :)
Lance L. Nov 12, 2007, 5:07pm EST
Guard cats, excellent choice!
thanks gang..
Jan C. Nov 12, 2007, 10:43pm EST
Hang in there Lloyd. I know that isn't easy waiting. You are in my prayers...I hope my kitty and children are with me when it's my turn!
TK Rosevear Nov 13, 2007, 1:14am EST
You have been on my mind all day, only good thoughts...
Caretaking is one of the most unrecognized of life's choices - I see you Lloyd!
Mike Firesmith Nov 13, 2007, 5:35am EST
Welcome back
Lloyd,

Cats can be a very calming influence on a soul. With you, the cats, and God, I'd say your mom is in very "Good" hands. Peace be with you, my friend.
wishing you all peace at this time.
Hospice looked at me the other day and 'strongly' suggested continuous care for a short time to let me sleep and eat and breathe a bit.

I am going out to dinner tonight.
Joe T. Nov 13, 2007, 5:47pm EST
Good for you. You can't shoulder the responsibility alone.
Charlotte Babb Maven-Fairy Godmother Nov 13, 2007, 8:54pm EST
I'm glad you have your animal spirits there with you. You are a sweet person and you need to take care of yourself so that you can do what you will have to do. It is not all on you to do everything. Hopsice is there for you as well as your mom.
♯ ♪ Nov 13, 2007, 9:21pm EST
Hi Lloyd.
So far hospice, nice as the employee's have been, has just been another responsibility.
tomi r. Nov 13, 2007, 10:51pm EST
Hang in there Lloyd. You are in my thoughts.
Alie Y. Nov 13, 2007, 11:34pm EST
Lloyd,
You are a very good son. Your mother feels how much you love and care for her.
Take care of yourself too.
Tanya P. Nov 14, 2007, 10:10am EST
You and your mother are in my heart and prayers, as well.
necee t. Nov 14, 2007, 12:17pm EST
Lloyd, God bless you and your mom... i know how hard it is...
we just lost my ex mom in law... she was a wonderful friend to me...
she is with God and at peace with no pain ever again...
Take care of yourself... you are a wonderful son...
Matt O. Nov 14, 2007, 12:41pm EST
hang in there man.
thinking of you as you continue on this journey...
Danielle P. Nov 14, 2007, 12:59pm EST
Cats are just great. They love you til the end of time. You and your mom are in my prayers.
Cristina S. Nov 16, 2007, 11:37am EST
Hi Lloyd, I too know exactly what you're going through - blessings! You will look back on this time knowing you gave your Mom the support she needed for her difficult path!
sheila h. Nov 17, 2007, 2:09am EST
I am sorry to read of your mother's debilitation and your hardship as you care for her.It is a true labor of your love for her. It is so difficult to watch and realize that our parents ~ those omnipresent loving individuals that were once like giants in our child's mind and capable of doing everything are ,in fact mere mortals. It is impossible to imagine our lives devoid of our parents sharing in them.
My prayers are with you and your mom. You have a selfless, giving heart~ making sacrifices for your mother and honoring her love. I'm sure she reflects on her good fortune for having a son such as you,Lloyd.
I understand your situation somewhat as I cared for my mom at home for the final several months of her life. As difficult as it was,it will always be a cherished memory as I could truly give and care for her as she had given and cared for all of the family.
May your grief and hardship be lightened,even a little, by the thought that you and your mother are remembered in thoughts and prayers.
Laura Cushing Nov 17, 2007, 10:04pm EST
Cats always seem to know when they're needed.
Sharon C. Nov 17, 2007, 11:40pm EST
We are here for you. My prayers are with you and your family.
Vicky P. Nov 18, 2007, 9:48am EST
It's not easy losing a loved one. I was with my mother when she died. I held her in my arms and told her it was ok to go to heaven to be with family and friends.
P C. Nov 20, 2007, 7:11am EST
Thanks for sharing.

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