by Taylor ~hopes no one forgets her!~ Blue
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August 18, 2007

I just got back from visiting my daughter...

November 11, 2007 05:42 PM EST (Updated: November 11, 2007 05:45 PM EST)
views: 103 | rating: 10/10 (31 votes) | comments: 41
Wow...today was a really hard day to go see my daughter. I don't understand what they gain with this Stabilization program that my daughter is in. We have to go every day for counselling. Yesterday we got to hang out with her today we just had a meeting with her. SO we discussed things like how she can take responsibility. She just said the things we wanted to hear. I don't think I have stopped crying since I left.

It's way too hard to keep going back and forth. She always looks so impressed to see us. I don't know what they think as a family we gain from going every day. Tomorrow I go pick her up and bring her home. I am happy she will be back, but will she be the same?? Or will she try to change.

I am trying to not get my hopes up...I will try to go with the flow.
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Comments: 41

Michelle W. Nov 11, 2007, 5:48pm EST
I will pray that she will try. I don't think she has been there long enough to change though, but I will continue to pray for your family!
Cristina S. Nov 11, 2007, 5:48pm EST
Sometimes a kid needs to get a HUGE reaction to something he/she did that was wrong. If it is impressive enough, then they will find the motivation to change. I hope that for your daughter!
~~ Sarina ~~ Nov 11, 2007, 5:48pm EST
Victoria, I pray that your family can heal from this. Big huggers to you.
Being Mom is hard, period! Good luck!
Taylor ~hopes no one forgets her!~ Blue Nov 11, 2007, 5:50pm EST
yeah they said that by sending her there you are telling her you won't put up with her behavior
What is she in the program for?
Rita j. Nov 11, 2007, 5:57pm EST
Trust in god and things will get better
Jerri H. Nov 11, 2007, 6:09pm EST
Good luck Taylor!!!
Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Nov 11, 2007, 6:18pm EST
I hope things go well when she comes home Taylor.
Marie J. R. Nov 11, 2007, 6:37pm EST
Sometime we step back for a moment just to see the picture of life in front of us,,, patience and strength,,, Love ,important if learned,,, God Bless you my dear,,, and, your daughter.
Cyndi B. Nov 11, 2007, 6:38pm EST
I hope that she has had a change of heart - Good luck to you and your family.
sonia v. Nov 11, 2007, 6:43pm EST
I hope everything works out
Amanda "middle of nowhere" C. Nov 11, 2007, 7:00pm EST
Taylor, just take it one day at a time. Don't neglect taking care of yourself. You're in my thoughts.
JoAnne D. Nov 11, 2007, 7:14pm EST
Hopefully something has been learned from all this. She might just have needed this for now.
Janet "Jax" B. Nov 11, 2007, 7:20pm EST
I hope everything goes well tomorrow....let me know if there is anything I can do dear.
Pam H. Nov 11, 2007, 7:46pm EST
Maybe this will give her a reality shock. I hope and I am sending virtual hugs your way Victoria.
Marianne R. Nov 11, 2007, 7:49pm EST
Hopefully she'll get it together after this experience. I'd hate to think you'd have to go through more of these behavioral issues.
Taylor ~hopes no one forgets her!~ Blue Nov 11, 2007, 8:03pm EST
Pris...she is in a program like rehab for almost drowning her brother. No one else would help us so we took it into our own hands. SHe comes back tomorrow.
Nana to Seven Cutiepies Nov 11, 2007, 8:07pm EST
Victoria, I hope and pray all goes well.
Denise B. Nov 11, 2007, 8:28pm EST
wishes and prayers for you all
CyberGwen ! Nov 11, 2007, 9:14pm EST
I think that you and she are gaining a lot by these few days. She is learning that what she did and has been doing is unacceptable and that she needs help. She is also seeing that you all love her and are willing to take the time and be present in her life.

Think about it, if you had just shipped her off and not taken part in the last few days, she might think that you have written her off and that you don't care or love her anymore. That is why you are going everyday and why it is so important:)

I have been thinking of you all:)
Taylor ~hopes no one forgets her!~ Blue Nov 11, 2007, 9:50pm EST
I guess that's a way to look at it too...are you a therapist gwen?
Birdee F. Nov 11, 2007, 10:05pm EST
Wow that is tough! :o( Does she have a disorder of some sort? Drowning her brother? What is the age difference of your kids? I am just curious cause I have 2 kids & I just worry that if I don't watch them close enough that one of them will hurt the other (well mainly cause they are too little to know...). I hope all works out! :O)
Marilyn M. Nov 11, 2007, 10:12pm EST
I think Gwen is right. Being there every day had to show your daughter that you still love her and care about her. You're in my prayers.
Birdee F. Nov 11, 2007, 10:16pm EST
And maybe just try & keep close watch of the kids...not like you haven't, but I wouldn't leave them in the same room together alone... that is what I do with my kids, but they are 3 & 1.
Sue * Nov 11, 2007, 11:50pm EST
This seems like such a short time to have them apart if she really is a danger to her brother. Are you concerned that she will try to hurt him again, or do you think that was something she did once and won't do again. I agree that they will need to be watched more closely than ever before, and that will be so much stress for you. I hate it that you are dealing with this, but maybe the program will have calmed her some.
Stacie N. Nov 12, 2007, 12:53am EST
It is always hard. Stay vigilant, but keep up the work on your family.
Emma L. Nov 12, 2007, 3:13am EST
I'll keep on praying for you all
Heather W. Nov 12, 2007, 9:13am EST
I hope everything goes well when you bring her home.
Robyn F. Nov 12, 2007, 10:13am EST
raising kids is the number one hardest thing to do. just know in your heart you dod the best you could.
Shekinah C. Nov 12, 2007, 10:05pm EST
I will continue to pray and believe for strength for you and a true change of heart for your daughter.
donna h. Nov 13, 2007, 4:14am EST
Prayers are with you Taylor
Sarah (I want points) Nov 13, 2007, 2:26pm EST
I hope everything is okay!
necee t. Nov 13, 2007, 7:41pm EST
Taylor... i pray that things get better for you all...
this must be very hard, but you will make it through...
God bless your family...
Phyllis R. Nov 13, 2007, 10:13pm EST
You all continue to be in my prayers, hope all goes well!
Bundy P Nov 14, 2007, 9:54am EST
I hope she'll have continuing therapy
Victoria - I had no idea. I'm so sorry that, that happened to your son & really your whole family.
I'll be praying for you & your family. I hope their is some on-going counseling for the whole family even...that would help.
*Carol ~Bronx Southern Belle D. Nov 17, 2007, 12:04am EST
Hug and understanding. Follow your heart.
Thats good!
And i dont know either.
Leah Christensen Dec 15, 2007, 3:28pm EST
I'm late, but I read some of this stuff before, and knew something was up. How are things now? I hope things are OK. We went through something similar with my sister when she was 13, and Walker had similar experiences with a couple of his children (well not exactly the same but troubled teens and young adults in their own way) so you know you are not alone.

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