Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

it is in the eye of the beholder

I think we all view beauty as something different. After getting to know someone, you may think they are beautiful but when you didn't know them well, think they are plain.

I think most men would say it is the face and the body of a woman that makes them beautiful. Somewhere down the line their personality and mind enters into it.

The most beautiful thing about a man to me how caring and gentle he can be. A real man isn't afraid to be gentle when need be.

Good Morning Leslie..well,myself i dont believe in that eye of the beholder crap
you either are attracted to a woman or a man by the looks or heart,period,there is no in between in my eyes..
ever see the movie shallow hal?
well,that used to be me....when i was growing up,i would only go or give the time of day to model type women...when i hit the age of 14,i started becoming attracted to older women....i mean dont get me wrong,i love all women...big small short or tall..but older women are the best in my eyes..
but anyhow,after 14...i started to realize i was becoming attracted to women for things other than their looks....some women i have met over the years i was attracted to by their heart,or personality...
i feel if a woman has a good heart-she is georgeous..now mind you let me tell you this to to clarify..there are women out there i do not know,that i do say they are beautiful georgeous or whathave you-done it numerous times in person and on gather..im not shy,i can go to any women and ask any question or give a compliment to..but real beuaty lies within for me....not that the body isnt a plus,lol
but i will also say this,,i cannot look at any women and not think of something sexually or otherwise,cant help it..god gave me a gift and i use it--gotta be me

p.s. if a person isnt honest with the facts..they arent worth a damn
and i am brutally honest : )
See how easy life can be : )

I think Beauty comes from within. I love to see a twinkle in someone's eye. Most of the supermodels and celebrities who are thought to be beautiful to the general public are very lacking to me and I can't figure out what people find so great about them!

Personality. All from within.

I think beauty is from with in. True beauty that is. Nothing is more ugly than a nice looking man or woman with an awful personality.

I think that someone can become even more beautiful when you get to know them. I admit, I am some what superficial, I have to be attracted physicaly to someone before I get to know them. That doesn't mean that they are a GQ model or something, there just has to be something that I am attracted to.

Heck, the love of my life is 23 years older than I am, so it is not like I am looking for a Ken doll or something:)

It comes from the inside out and their faith in God.

Actions, words, what you see radiating from their eyes, a certain soulfulness. People can feel these things intuitively which is why some people "click" immediately. I do think like-minded people recognize each other.

TRICK OR TREAT A TEN TO KEEP

i believe beauty comes from within when and how God created you...
the outside is just a covering... not really so important...
sorry if the guys don't feel this way...

So many variables. I think beauty is part of attractiveness. I guess you mean beauty as related to a person. I think the most beautiful element of any person is that you sense they have a warm heart of caring.

I'm not totally sure. It's different for me each time I meet a person but I would say personality is a big thing for me. I'm not a go on looks kinda girl all the time.

My mother is beautiful to me more now than ever. She is struggling with cancer and that makes her extremely beautiful to me.

Our perceptions change with age and our hormonal shifts. As a young man I would not even consider dating a woman who had short hair. I had one girlfriend I had been dating maybe 4 or 5 months. She got her hair cut short and I dumped her. I had very strongly told her I did not want her to get her hair cut. She ignored me and I no longer saw any beauty in her. I know that sounds stupid and was, but the age of a person really does make a difference in how we assess beauty.

I think it differs from person to person. I have to say that when I was single and I used to look at Personal ads (no, I never answered one), I was always struck by how many men would note, clearly, "No overweight or fat women" or would be even more blunt and note "No fatties".

It was a distinct difference between men and women who wrote ads. Maybe women were just as inclined to be turned off by overweight guys (or maybe not- anyone have an opinion?) but they wouldn't write that in an ad. Perhaps the guys thought they were being direct and saving time.

When it comes to online dating, I have a friend who is navigating those waters (I'm married) and I don't envy her. It is rough and looks seem to count for a lot. She is attractive but the dating pool can be brutal for women after a certain age. For men, too, for all I know.

Heinlein had one of my favorite quotes: "A woman who makes you feel good about yourself is never homely. After a while, you realize she always was beautiful. You just hadn't noticed it at first." Actually, I probably butchered that, doing it from memory, but you get the gist.

My husband is considerably younger than I am and GORGEOUS, physically and spiritually. He's brilliant, but he'd been hurt emotionally when I met him. He also has the capacity such that women love him and respond immediately to him. What I mean is, he could have anyone and I don't say that lightly.

When I met him, I was coming out of a very destructive divorce. I had a five-year-old child (who was being used terribly), a sense of helplessness, a weight problem and no self-esteem. But I was smart and I knew it. But he saw ME, the me under the history and the pounds and the no makeup and the depression. I truly believe he did.

He made me feel beautiful when I never had felt so (even when I had been). He made me feel precious and cherished. And he's done so more and more since I first met him. We've been married five years now and it just gets better and better. He wasn't perfect and neither was I, but we saw beauty in each other and we've grown together.

That's beautiful.

I don't care what you think you look like. Be as beautiful as you can be as a person and hold out, even if it takes forever, until you find the people who see that beauty. Those people consumed with outward appearance - they don't know what they're missing.

And Christopher K, you sound a lot like my husband.

It depends on the person

My husband always tells me I'm beautiful, even on days when I look (and feel) like a slug. I'm lucky that way!