I have this circle of friends I have met through the Girl Scouts. We all have daughters the same age, 11. One used to be my neighbor, but she was also my daughter's Girl Scout Leader for 6 years. Since we were in the same neighborhood we would have BBQs and parties and our kids were great friends! At First.
I moved out of the neighborhood about 4 years ago and don't seem them as often but the woman is now in charge of our Service Unit for my own troop. Her daughter has been suspended from school twice for bullying. She was in the 2nd grade the first time! Both times her mom blamed the person being bullied! Her daughter was only joking, she wasn't being mean! Her daughter and her best friend is so bad at Girl Scout meetings that almost everyone quit her troop. Out of 16 girls, there are only 6 left, including her daughter and her friend. My daughter quit her troop last year and became a Juliette.
One of the other ladies is one of my best friends. She is my co-leader and we take our families on trips together. We talk almost every day on the phone. He daughter is the quiet one in the group of 4 girls. Her daughter is being bullied and she won't tell her mom.
A couple weekends ago the 4 girls went sailing at a Girl Scout camp. While there the daughter of the woman in charge and her friend were picking on my best friends daughter. They were calling her fat, making fun of her acne and calling her a tomato because her face turns red when she is embarrassed. She started crying and then they started making fun of her for that. Now, she has quit the cheer squad because of them too. She doesn't stand up for herself and my daughter is scared to say anything to them, for fear that they will turn on her. So she just stands there.
My daughter told me about it and I told my friend. Her daughter won't talk to her about it at all. We aren't sure what to do. The child's mom is in charge of all the important things in our service unit and really isn't a bad person. She just doesn't believe her daughter is capable of the things she has ever been accused of. And we are worried that there could be retaliation at school, directed at the girl for tattling. Also, retaliation directed at my daughter for telling me.
If your child won't stand up for his/herself, do you get involved? And wouldn't you want to know if your child was being a bully? How do we handle this? The girls who are doing the bullying are GIRL SCOUTS! Their moms are BOTH leaders! Obviously, they aren't learning anything! They stand there and say the Girl Scout Law and the Girl Scout Promise, yet they turn around and spew their venom on GOOD KIDS!
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Yes I do coach my daughters that they need to stand up for themselves and others who are being picked on. They have emphathy and have been taught from an early age to respect themselves enough to say wait a minute, just because you are unhappy with yourself don't bring that crap onto me.
If my child was being a bully or someone was bullying her I WOULD def want to know about it.
And I think I would def go to the school or parent and let them know what was going on and that it needed to stop. Or if it were my own child I would tell my her I better never find out she has been a bully ever again...
No one should have to put up with being bullied.. It can ruin a childs life
truth to light, as she stated.....I for one, am tired of seeing BULLIES getting
AWAY with it, no MATTER their age!!!!
Take it to the higher ups, take it to the school if there is retaliation there from the bullies to your children.
Get together with some of the other scout moms, and get their support, get their kids involved with learning the "buddy system". If nothing else, when the bullying starts, one of the other kids should come tell right away, and the other kids should "stick together" so the bully can not be at an advantage with her friend (other bully) there.
My daughter is getting horribly picked on at school right now, and I have contacted the teacher, who sounds like she really wants to make a plan to resolve it all.
My daughter's school is a "no bully zone" and they all had to sign saying they understood that, and they would respect others and their property... is the scouts the same?
By not speaking up and talking to the parents, teacher, principal, you are denying the bully a chance to learn proper behavior. Some kids need extra help in math, reading, science etc. We waste no time in addressing these educational needs. Some kids need remedial social behavior training. Unfortunately, there is not class for this, and the only way to give the lesson in proper social behavior is to address it head on. It requires the involvement of the teachers, parents and even the principal. It may be tough, but look at it as your part in providing needed remedial education.