Natasha got married to Kunal, who was not a wife- beater or a brute but who treats her as a chattel and sets dos and don'ts for her. She has committed her life to the kitchen affairs, reading newspaper, doing normal marital errands, the upbringing of the kids and while away the day is loneliness. Her solitude in the early years of her marriage. His denial to let her take up a career even though he is away from home for months on end. Day by day she is getting tired of her drab existence and completely powerless to take it any longer. What's the reason that till date she is with her husband .Why rules are different from man and woman. Natasha thinks that in India, what's a woman born with? She gets a name which is followed by her father's and then her family's credit and after a high education they get married and like this they have to change their surnames too. Now her name is replaced by her husband's name and she is just known with her husband's existence and then she gets pregnant .She nurtures her child in her womb for nine months and that child gets his father's name .After all this and going through these stages where she is a mute and not even standing at the receiving end what does a woman die with? Nothing...!!!!
From last many years Natasha has witnessed many one night stands of her husband with other woman. She saw him showering his love; when he needs to satisfy his sexual desire and she didn't understand why she takes it stoically. She found her husband busy in his business and also felt his careless feelings for her. She felt like a door mat throughout her life. What is irritating her? Now she is bound to think that what should a woman do if her husband never cared or respected her desires? What are the options if she needs satisfaction for her physical desires and her husband turns her down? What she should do? She should keep waiting for him to turn sympathetic to her or beg her on knees to satisfy her needs. Women have the same equal desires as men have emotionally as well as physically.
Time was running and most of the colors of life were already faded and Natasha is quizzical to herself that for what she is born. Apart all these marital ebbs and flows, she knew that Kunal was a real ambitious person who only knows to seize success without any hurdle .He considered his family as his greatest hindrances of his life and went abroad promising that soon he will be back as a big business tycoon. Natasha as a simple middle class married woman who's alone responsible for her three kids nodded for living alone and fulfilling her duties.
She was distressed and after the kids leave home, she is all alone once again. She is stunned that what's bothering her? Sexual needs, those faithful shoulders or her existence as a woman. She always missed that required communication and understanding the sensitivity with Kunal.Amidst all these questions of why and How.....one beautiful evening she met a cold breeze .That breeze was someone very simple ,a sensitive and a caring person close to her dreams. At that time she was lost and was not even in the situation to think what's right and what's wrong. Natasha was getting involved to this new stranger Hardik in her life. She wishes to meet him again and again and due to circumstances one day Natasha had a sexual encounter with him .No regrets for those lovely moments. She was very happy and satisfied. She was pregnant and gave birth to a child. Love is transparent and she easily saw the real love in Hardik's eyes. He was standing in every single moment holding her hands snugly.
After many years Kunal was back and found a different person in his wife with his four young children. Now he wanted to calm down and to live a serene life but his absence has to tell so many veiled secrets. One night he reached to a very outrageous conclusion that his fourth son is not his. Without considering Natasha's dedication for him for so many years he goads Natasha hardheartedly for her infidelity ignoring his own libertine affairs. His manhood was hurt and he looks to balm it by psychologically demoralizing his already broken wife. He kept his own marital infidelities aside under the blanket and thought that he did not bring the result of his infidelities home. He decided to divorce her as her punishment.
Now Natasha's floodgates were open and all was out which was simmering inside her for so many years. Natasha knew that her efforts will be futile to explain what was going in her life. She walked away from the marriage .She waited for this new life, this new era, this new day after a dark and horrifying night. For Kunal one question was still unanswered, that what was there? Physical infidelity...? Kunal's male chauvinism or what..?There are many Kunals who will never understand that it was not a sexual infidelity but was all about the emotional abuse that is, in most cases, naively and coldheartedly perpetrated in most homes not only in India but in so many families...


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Well written, Bhawana.
Are you interested in submitting it for publication? If so you may want to ask for some specific editing suggestions from fellow Gather writers. I would urge you to be very careful though, so you don't lose "your voice".
.Reena you are a wonderful person...
Joli thanks for your comments and I have seen the true reflection in your articles and indeed you have done a hard work on your life..I appreciate that..
Marie To get a comments from such a nice writer is a an honor..thanks that you liked it ..
Thanks Elsie for your deep thoughts and we are blessed that we have a wonderful partner and family..
Thanks K anne m...you are welcome..
Ya minnie ...you hit the right cord...
Dear Judi....I guess it's Universal and most of the families are facing these problems...Thanks for your thoughtfulness..
Payam...after talking to many friends in India I agree that now the scenes are different ..Thanks a lot friend...
Thank you for the heads up gmail in regards to this article. So glad that you sent me the invite! :D
Women need to be more self-reliant as a whole. We must make an effort to align ourselves with likeminded people and support one another.
BTW_ I am never too bust for a friend.
Well, I don't support Kunal's character in this story but i can at least support his
non-emotional support towards his wife's physical (not sexual) needs and status.
And the way you presented Hardik is just a person who is born to satisfy her
sexual needs in some way and later she gave birth to a child. LOL
Well, if there are 10 men are not faithful to his wife, there are also 10 woman who are unfaithful to their husbands.
With the context of infideltiy, there are so many social issues between both genders.
In my point of view I believe that this kind of infidelity often exacerbate the woman's
life and therefore a woman takes any step which she thinks correct.
There is also a possibility that both can part their ways that is a bit good solution. If not they can both live prosper, why making a whole life a hell.
But, as you know commitment and compromise only for kids come between this relation and that's why a woman does not want to go further.
Anyway, nice article but please, think once that man is not all resposible and the example of that you have given in this article too.
I think positively so support good things and from whereever they are coming, no matter.
Long Live B4
Thanks
Shah
Your story is about relationships between man and woman. In my life I've met many men of many varieties. Some I've admired and some I haven't.
The ones that I admired had a perhaps strange common factor. It had to do with their attitude to women.
GBS (George Bernard Shaw) wrote about the legendary Don Juan...he of the many affairs. The way he analyses Don one begins to feel sorry for him. He befins to seem pitiful. He is so empty that
he is not capable of having a meaningful relationship with a woman. He goes from woman to woman searching for an experience that he is incapable of having.
To put it in a nutshell...here is his problem. Instead of finding a 100 things in one woman, he looks for one thing in a 100 women.
I feel sorry for men that don't explore the universe with their chosen woman. They miss the essence of living.
Yours was a very provocative article and I'm sure that it made many people take a second look and then reflect. Well written Bhawana.
The solution???? I think that women should not give ALL to their men. They should keep a little area always secret so that they have and air of unexplored mystery...a promise yet to be fulfilled.
Now I'll step back and wait for the onslaught.
Just wanted to check in with you now that I'm back. I have missed everyone!
Rules should not be different, man or woman. In any country. That is my thinking anyway.
I hope divorce for her became a gift of freedom.
Of course, there are women who provide one night stand too. It sums down to 'good and bad' in mankind.
The positive side of the story is when the "on hold partner" realizes that he/she needs to have a life as well - and not only seizes life with both hands, even realizing potential repurcussions - but also walks away - and further, walks away with knowledge and leaving naiveness behind. We are responsible for own happiness....no one can give it to us.
great story line, Bhawana - as stated above, a tad bit of work with the technical side, i.e., punctuation mostly......but overall well worth a read. ~j
Sawaal paani ka nahi, Pyaas ka hai,
Sawaal maut ka nahi, Saans ka hai,
Dost to duniya mein bahut hain magar,
Sawaal dosti ka nahi Vishwas ka hai
Phool khilte rahein zinagi ki raah mein,
Hasii chamakti rahe aapki nigaah mein,
Kadam kadam par mile khushi ki bahaar aapko,
Dil deta hai yehi dua baar-baar aapko.
And that candlelight invites you to a great gathering.
Thanks B4
Shah
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Thank you, Bhawana, for shining a spotlight on this problem... hearing a true, personal story always brings home the point more than a mere editorial would.
First Chapters Romance Contest Your Gift To Me" Chapter Two
Thank you so much...
Say this brute Kunal was more like a regular guy...You know he wasn't sleeping around, he was still busy in his business, yet sets dos and donts for her, isn't really the man of her hearts, not very sensetive..but a decent father and an emotionally unavailable husband...how would your story have changed ?
Cheaters, YUCK !
and let me know what you think. Woman to woman, ok?