Why do kids make us Repeat, Repeat, Repeat EVERYTHING. Don't get me wrong I love my kids totally and completely, but I just keep saying the same things over and over and over.
after about the third time I ask them "WHAT did I say the LAST time you asked me that?" and if they can't tell me I say "Well then if you are not listening to me what is the point of me telling you again?"
After doing that a few times it starts to sink in that I don't want to anwer the SAME question a dozen times.
my 7 year old is always saying "what" just about every time i say something or ask him to do somethings so now i say "what" right back to him and he dose not like it.... so repeating myself is slowly stopping but i know it will start up again kids are kids good luck in stopping the repeating game =}
No clue, but when you figure it out please let me know. I spend half my day repeating things I say. I spend half my day repeating things I say. I would love to know how to fix this! I feel like a broken record (my kids don't even know what that means).
Denise has a good point couple other things I would do or do do in a classroom setting 1) just pause and look at the child -- after a couple beats I repeat what I said, usually you have their total focus at that point 2) After a while I just pause and move on --- not repeating myself, but paraphrasing or presenting a context so they can figure out what is going on, but different enough so the other kids don't start tuning out
Kids respond to different things. It is hard to predict what will help. I suggested to one of my more difficult kids on this one that we would start memory improving exercises. I told him he was going to have to start writing everything down to help him remember it. It didn't take a week before he stopped. He really hated carrying a notebook around. Regardless of what you do, remain consistant, and don't make empty threats. Be prepared to follow through on anything you tell them. Good Luck
I hear you. I just had a broom handle smash my big toe this morning because the kids didn't sweep the kitchen floor last night like I told them to (three times). And then despite 2 warnings, my 2nd oldest kept trying to sneak in the fridge instead of getting the dustpan to pick up the sweepings. Argh.
Thanks all for the suggestions and the stories...Great advice. Mary, sorry about your toe... I pray for patience daily..that is my downfall. Thanks guys.
If I have to repeat myself and this is not just the kids, it's adults too, I speak slower. They know better than to comment on that as I will say, well you missed it the first time, I want to make sure you hear me. They don't want to have to stand and listen longer the second time so generally I don't have to repeat.
When my children would not do chores, I would sit and watch them do it and let them know they got more work than they would have if they had done it on their own. I would say, well you wasted my time watching you so you do more. That kinda cured that. They didn't want me to watch so they did it on their own.
Follow up is key if you want things done. You won't have friends over until you finish this. You won't watch tv until you finish that. You won't be using the phone until you do this. I don't ask for much but they still try to take advantage.
I have a lot of patience. It is called waiting. I will out wait them. I don't believe in physical punishment and there is a cycle there. They get you mad, you strike out, feel bad and then they have to do less because you feel guilty. Don't get mad, don't play the game. Just wait it out. If they want to go somewhere or do something, things get done. :)
Times haven't changed since I had young-uns. My oldest turned 18 in 1985 but they were the same when my kids were young. I guess they learn early how to "TRY OUR PATIENCE".
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After doing that a few times it starts to sink in that I don't want to anwer the SAME question a dozen times.
good luck in stopping the repeating game =}
Just kidding! I guess us kids (I guess I'm not really a kid anymore) are hard of hearing. Or, maybe stubborn.
couple other things I would do or do do in a classroom setting
1) just pause and look at the child
-- after a couple beats I repeat what I said, usually you have their total focus at that point
2) After a while I just pause and move on --- not repeating myself, but paraphrasing or presenting a context so they can figure out what is going on, but different enough so the other kids don't start tuning out
Regardless of what you do, remain consistant, and don't make empty threats. Be prepared to follow through on anything you tell them. Good Luck
Mary, sorry about your toe...
I pray for patience daily..that is my downfall.
Thanks guys.
When my children would not do chores, I would sit and watch them do it and let them know they got more work than they would have if they had done it on their own. I would say, well you wasted my time watching you so you do more. That kinda cured that. They didn't want me to watch so they did it on their own.
Follow up is key if you want things done. You won't have friends over until you finish this. You won't watch tv until you finish that. You won't be using the phone until you do this. I don't ask for much but they still try to take advantage.
I have a lot of patience. It is called waiting. I will out wait them. I don't believe in physical punishment and there is a cycle there. They get you mad, you strike out, feel bad and then they have to do less because you feel guilty. Don't get mad, don't play the game. Just wait it out. If they want to go somewhere or do something, things get done. :)