OK.. Many people say, "Do not do this, do not stress too much." All these guidelines during pregnancy. Don't do this. Don't do that.
I'm not putting anyone down for saying any of this, but do you guys know or have you experience mood swings or depression to the extreme when pregnant?
When someone tells you "do not stress. It's harmful to the baby," don't you think I cry and feel as if the baby shouldn't be here if everyone constantly tells me I'm putting my child in pain.
Once again, "no caffeine or limit caffeine." So there's no risks known for caffeine consumption as my dr told me. He told me in a nice way, "try to limit it, but if you can't, just make sure you get everything else you need. I know its hard." He respected me and told me to do my best to limit it, but him knowing I'm under a lot of stress and so forth, he doesn't constantly nag at me to stop. All I hear is stop doing this, do this/that and get all the unwanted advice, when all I was mainly asking for is about calorie intake, not about soda. Yes, I do drink soda, but its the only thing I drink usually, that and water. I'm not going to make myself under more emotional stress and take away all my caffeine and what calms me or makes me less stressful when having a emotional episode.
Face it - its better than alcohol, drug abuse and all that. I'm doing the best I can. I'm a lot better off than most mothers (not saying I'm better, just saying I have a lot more common sense and I'm not a party girl) and so forth. I don't smoke cigarettes or none of that.
So...what is the point? Why is everyone telling me NOT to do this? I'm tired of hearing "well, don't do this, that." I'm going to do what I want as long as my baby is healthy, that's all that matters. I don't see a point putting myself in more misery. It's a hell hole just worrying about the future than to worry constantly about "don't drink this, that".. If I went by EVERY guideline, I'd be on a no-milk, no gluten, no fatty food (no fast food/restaurants), no desserts, no caffine, or any of that. It would make me literally go more crazy than what I am right now with all the hormone imbalance. The deli meat is something I crave and I'm not taking something away that my child and I both love too much. ;)
I'm not going to become a vegetarian, either. I did that and I'm not doing that for the time being. I'm going to eat my meat...sorry, but that's just me venting.
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Dont worry be happy! (Sing along) 15 years ago I was in your shoes. Add to it that I was extremely ill and could not take my prenatal vitamins. The doctor told me dont worry about it. I also had an intense craving for dark chocolate at the time and Hershey's was revamping thier Special Dark. So Mounds was about it for me. I was at work one day and said , I need chocolate. This total stranger stopped and said "Aren't you pregnant"..."Yes I am"... "Chocolate has caffeine you know!?!?!" My sister came up with a perfect response...."She isn't doing crack now mind your own business."
I am happy to report that with two pregnancies, where I became extremely ill and both and had to take all sorts of meds (phenergan, benadryl, tylenol, Keflex, Cough syrup with Codeine) and coffee, tea or soda as I craved it that I had two wonderfully healthy baby girls. Their growth and development has not been stunted in anyway. As a matter of fact they are really very bright young ladies now.
But hold on...total strangers and not so strangers will continue to tell you what to do and not do. If you nurse in public (I personally have no problem with this) even if you are discreet you will get at least looks of disapproval. If you put a bottle in the babies mouth you will get told how if you cared you would nurse. I did not nurse and I have been under verbal attack for it by some groups for it. But my kids had and still have wonderful immune systems, grew at just a textbook rate, and were bright and happy. That and the pediatrician said "they dont put kids in two different lines at graduation...nursed v formula" If they are not potty trained by someone else's ideal age you will hear that too. I learned that you have to learn to ignore people who think they are well meaning but are really just buttinskies.
This is your pregnancy, your child, your hormones, your child.
Try not to take advice the wrong way. Remember advice - Don't do this or that...is just that - advice. Just remember with all advice advice given..you can take it or leave it.
Thanks for your prayers for my daughter Tracy M. they are appreciated.
She will try to get back to you herself if time allows.
Which that is fine for some, but for people like me, I am this way, let me figure it out, if my physician says not to do something or to do whatever, I am going to listen, as goes with my family, but people I barely know, for me when those people speak ( like people I work with) most of what they say goes in one ear out the other. I say take everything with a grain of salt, and trust you know what is best, that is all you can do!