This is kind of a hard article to write and although quite a bit of information is not being posted... I hope that you will read this article.
My neighbor passed away last week unexpectedly. He was in his late 40's and had 3 children still living at home. He was home alone when his heart attack hit and not one person noticed him fall to the ground. He lay there for 24 hours in brush before he was found by his children.
My heart goes out to this family whole heartedly.
His death has made me realize quite a few things, some that I kind of really already knew, but others that hit me like a brick.
Our life can be short and we need to make the most of our life. There is that possibility that we will die before our children are out of the house, but hopefully when they are older. This recent death made me realize and ask myself something very important that affects my family. I have recently asked myself to think of myself in my children's shoes. If I died today, what would they remember me most for? Is it what I want them to remember me for? If not what changes can I make to make a daily memory for my children that they will always remember me for even when I am gone.
My question to my gather freinds is not what you think I should start doing with my kids to make our relationship special, but name one thing that you do with your children that you think is very special that you will be remembered for once you have passed on.
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I let my 5 year old son "drive" the van, he likes that!
So the thing that my son will remember about me is our special sense of humor. We laughed about everything - and poked fun at the world in a way that was just giddy sometimes. We made up words on the spur of the moment and people around had no idea what we were talking about, but we sort of did and it was always hilarious. I guess that's what I would miss the most about him, too - his instant understanding and amazing mind. Anyway, this was a very good question and it really made all this come into focus for me. Thanks!
Just as I finished posting the above comment, the song "Live for Today" by the Grass Roots came on. I had my media player on random. I easily have well over a thousand songs. How bizzare! Just goes to show, there's no such thing as coincidence. My Gather nick-name is live-4-2day.
Thanks Margieanne... you are so right.. make those memories today.. cuz you may not get to tomorrow.
but what i do,is i dont buy my daughters love.
to many parents nowadays have excuses.oh i cant be there because i gotta work,or i gotta go out or i just dont have time,blah blah blah..
its bs..my daughte will remember me by always being there,no mater what she does or where she goes,she will know i was there with her
i ont go out that often and when i do,she comes with us..
even if we gfo to a casino,shell come with.she plays in the kid land,she loves it
but anyhow.
life is about love and loss and when i am gone,she will always know i was always there no matter what