Dear Child

Dear Child,

I love you dearly. I hold you in my arms to comfort you. I cannot change the the events of the past. I cannot cure your wounds but I can apply the salve of my love.

You are not a bad child. You are a hurting child and can not make sense of the past. You will never be able to make sense out of the past. It didn't make sense and it will never will. Stop trying to make sense out of it as you are hurting yourself. Let go and give it to God.

No matter what was said to you, no matter what you did, you are a good child. You did the best you could. Everyone makes mistakes and mistakes are part of the learning and growing process in life. You are not to blame for what happened to you. Stop taking responsibility for things you are not responsible for. You cannot change the past, you can only go on and live in the present and have hope for the future.  You need to stop dwelling in the past. The past is gone and over with. The past is what it is. It may have some answers for you when you examine it, but please come back to the present. Don't let the past rob you of the present.

You are such a good sweet child who was so misunderstood. You could not have known what would happen before events happened how your actions would affect things. You are special unlike any other child but at the same time you faced the world with the same ignorance as all children. You have to remember how special you are and unique. All children are special and unique.

Forgive the people who hurt you in your life. It is the first step you can take to healing yourself. Realize that people forget how it hurt when they got hit as children and passed down this dysfunctional legacy to you. Be proud that you decided to not pass it down to your children. People often forget to look through the eyes of children and miss out on the wonder they have. People sometimes are too busy with their own childhood hurts to realize that they  hurt others by being insensitive and absorbed with their own pain.

Know that you are loved and you will always be loved. God created you and he loved you before  you were even born. Don't ever lose sight of how loved you are and how important it is that you love yourself.

 Yes, you went through a lot. Yes, I validate your pain and your experiences. Yes, it was unfair. Yes, you didn't deserve it. Yes, it greatly affected you.

Let it go, be healed and go on. Don't let the past keep hurting you. It is good you share what happened in hopes that it will benefit others. Realize no one had the Norman Rockwell family. No family was/is without it's dysfunctions. You are not alone.

You can believe in yourself, you can stop the tapes of negativity from the past and you can stop the hurting.

 Know, Heather, that I am always here for you, my inner child.

Love,

Me