today.
The lawyer called. All three of hubby's sisters have accepted our offer.
We need to arrange a mortgage to cover what we're giving them..... hopefully that won't take too long..... but the threat of lawsuits and more nonsense is over. Okay, well possibly not more nonsense... they're apparently going to come with a truck and help themselves to some more furniture and so on ... but we don't care about that .... as long as they leave my hummingbirds, computers, and anything that glows in the dark, we will get along fine :)
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ok... now I feel sick.
vultures.
they are vultures
the lawyer called back again.
they are also taking my boat.
This seems to happen in a lot of families after a death. The people who did all the work and provided support get ripped off. With a clearly written will, I just don't see how they can take stuff.
now that they've accepted the money we didn't have to give them and are unhappy about it, they've decided they are also going to take the boat, all of the outdoor furniture, both TVs, and the china cabinets .... and God only knows what else
I don't care about the rest of it but they're taking my BOAT :(
leaving me the boat I don't like, don't use, don't feel safe in, and taking the one that I use.
I'm trying to be as calm about it as he is
but.... but....
....the boat.
hubby got house and everything in it.
but he's been trying to be fair.
and they don't ~get~ fair.
we're giving them $15,000 each (even though there is no money and we have to go into debt to do it) ....and now the dirty stinking selfish b*tches are demanding a whole bunch of stuff from the house - and my boat - too
Just think the same could happen to them, the tv's could all break. The boat could sink, LOL just try not to let them get you down.
probably end up selling our other property....eventually.
We'll see.
oh well...this too shall pass - and once they've filled their trucks or whatever ... hopefully I won't have to deal with them any more.
My sister lives right behind my parents and does NOTHING for them. I'm 40 miles away and do the vast majority. (My kids help, too.) My sister has already made statements about what she wants when they're gone. Outside of a couple of keepsakes, she can have it all. I quit associating with her 15 years ago, and when my folks are gone, I'll never have to have anything else to do with her again. It's worth whatever the price is.
Now, you can stay away from the vultures and get on with your lives.
she used to go to the Legion almost every night and complain at length about all the time she spent here taking care of ma.... never did clue into the fact that most people were quite capable of figuring out that if she was at the Legion almost every night someone else was actually doing the taking care of ma LOL
always reminded me of when at one stage of ma's Alzheimer's she got terribly worried about being all alone. She would tell me all the time how afraid she was because she was "here all alone" ...didn't matter how often you pointed out that if you were there talking to her she wasn't all alone..... LOL
and it will soon all be over & done with.
If I liked shopping, would probably even be happy about having an excuse to go buy a new TV and a new boat and.... whatever else they take
Now they've decided they want more.... and hubby has decided its not worth arguing with them about it *sigh*
Me, I'd argue - about the boat and one TV at least. Could care less about the china cabinets and they're welcome to the other TV ... but .... taking both TVs and the boat is just pure greed.
Ma's TVs gave up the ghost long ago - before she died. WE replaced them not her. They're ours. But I guess hubby is right. Not worth fighting over.
The boat feels worth fighting over to me though.
They can take their $15,000 that they did NOTHING for and buy their own damn boats if you ask me.
Glad it looks like it is working out:)
They called the lawyer and accepted. Which was great.
But then they called him back and started this crap about 'but we also want...."
we just want it over with.
wouldn't actually hit anybody .... but sabatoging the boat sounds mighty tempting!
just talking to the bank about all the crap we have to pull together for the mortgage *sigh*
If all else fails call the cops and tell them you are being ROBBED!!
so even though they are not entitled to any of it, we're just going to let them have it
including the boat.
we'll buy another one.
eventually.
(probably not until we get out from under the mortgage)
the stuff doesn't matter.
Email me if you need some ideas for the boat ; )
I'm trying to think positively ....we ~get~ to go shopping.
(would work better if I actually liked shopping, but oh well....)
Are they GONE yet? Change the locks and don't let them back in. You could drill a small hole in the boat and then put the plug back in so no one notices.
Much appreciated :)
I'm glad this is behind you and that you've been able to work something that is acceptable to you. Good luck to you as you finally get on with your life after putting this difficult chapter behind you.
I won't be here, I don't think
I don't know what kind of boat you have, but is it titled? licensed? In whose name? I'm not sure how Canadian law differs from US in this aspect, but I would think if the boat is legally deeded to someone, another party cannot just "take" it.
Did all of this "stuff" the sisters want belong to Ma at one time? If not, they have ABSOLUTELY no claim to it.
I do, however, understand you desire to keep the peace with hubby, and I totally support you in that. But even if the greed sisters haul everything away, that doesn't mean you have to roll over. I particularly like the idea of a little creative marine sabotage. No need to drill - depending on the type of boat, you could run it into a dock a few times, put sugar if the fuel line (if it has a motor), if it has sails, pour some bleach on & conveniently "forget" to rinse it out so it burns a hole over time... You get the idea.
Whatever you decide, don't let this stress you out too much. Isn't this supposed to be your quiet time between school terms?
Good luck & stay strong. *hugs*
the boat is just an aluminimum boat...with a motor and all .... it can be replaced.
Yup.... more or less downtime.... got an independent study course to work on but other than that, and a class Tuesday p.m. (teaching) that's about it
The sisters are in the wrong; but just let them live with them selfves. All this will come back to them eventually.
Blessings