by Randee "The Court Jester of LaLa Land ! ! !" always and forever, I just want to celebrate
Member since:
March 29, 2007

¿¿ WERE YOU WONDERING???

August 07, 2007 01:10 PM EDT (Updated: August 07, 2007 01:51 PM EDT)
views: 57 | rating: 10/10 (12 votes) | comments: 22

Yesterday I wrote an apology. It was for my wife. I made it on wordpad and made several copies of it and littered the house with them to try to keep her from being madder at me.

 

I used the copy and paste to gather to test what fonts and symbols transferred over. (the yyyy are hearts on wordpad-wingdings)

 

My wife thinks that I'm looking for a girlfriend on gather, or so she stated last Friday. I was going through the 'My People' list to see who I was connected to and when they were last on gather. Unknowing to me she was counting. Counting what? She informed me when I had gone through all the pages of friends, colleagues and family I only had 24 male connections. I thought so..? Out of 144 connections!

 

That reminded me about the weekend I was supposed to meet another gather member that was coming to Omaha to visit family. At first, she was all for it and even wanted to come with to meet him. Great I didn't mind. When the day came to go and have coffee with mr. gather she decide she didn't want to go. I said, "okay but I'm still going". As I was about to set up the meet she informed me that she didn't feel very well and asked me not to go, so I didn't. I was mildly depressed about that.

 

We have been married for almost 25 years and together another year before that. I have never been unfaithful throughout all these times and now she thinks I'm looking for a girlfriend,,,not any more. I lived that life before I met her and now all I can say is one woman is enough. 

 

Thanks for all of your forgiveness yesterday, it really cheered up my day. Have a nice day. Peace! 
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Comments: 22

☆ ƒåitĥ ☆ Aug 7, 2007, 1:11pm EDT
Um... was I wondering why, what?
Apryl Just Apryl Aug 7, 2007, 2:20pm EDT
The reason most of your connections are female is because just like in the real world, woman far out number men in population. It doesn't surprise me at all that you have more females on you connections list.
Maybe Mrs randee is feeling bad about something that is bothering her. Ex.I have gained a bit of weight from steroid treatments. Suddenly I put in my head I am ugly, than why would he want me, then there's that girl thats flirting which resulted in me thinking maybe.......? I was thinking nonsense because I was insecure about a few pounds.
Twenty five years says it all, and she knows you love her. :-D
JoAnne D. Aug 7, 2007, 3:11pm EDT
Maybe there is more women on Gather than men. Tell her no problem here. She should gather as well, she probably has something good to add.
Heather C. Aug 7, 2007, 3:28pm EDT
My husband has a gather account...John C. As he is a systems admin he can go anywhere he wants. I would like him to read my material. He doesn't often as he is too busy.

Honey, she just loves you and worries about losing you. It isn't you she doesn't trust, it's the female population and I understand that myself. Although I know my husband spends all day with a female boss and co workers that's fine. But when he is with me, that is another story.

My husband and I have never wandered let alone strayed. Encourage her to get an account so she can share some of your friends. A lot of it is the unknown. I had the same concerns at different times with my husband and he would freak on me. He never went through what I went through with having my first husband cheat on me so he doesn't understand.

Tell her you love her often, that she means the world to you often, tell her how she is still your girl and don't forget the wink and the smile on occasions after tapping her butt. Over the years we don't do these things and a girl needs to know as she gets older that she is still HOT!!!!! Just do it gradual... she won't be so worried if you reinforce verbally that you love her as much as the first day you met!!
carmel m. Aug 7, 2007, 4:07pm EDT
Women are by far more verbal then men. Even in the written form.
Leslie ~ from NYC ~ R. Aug 7, 2007, 4:13pm EDT
wasn't wondering, although with the way you spell your name at first I thought you were female....LOL
communication is so difficult sometimes.
Bundy P Aug 7, 2007, 4:47pm EDT
Good job, Randee!
☆ ƒåitĥ ☆ Aug 7, 2007, 4:59pm EDT
To be honest with you, I thought you were a female for a long time too, Randee! ONLY because of the way your name is spelled though, and I can imagine that maybe a lot of women thought that. I STILL think that the majority of Gather members are women though. We just like to TALK a lot!
Randee, you used to spell your name with a y at the end, didn't you?
Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Aug 7, 2007, 8:34pm EDT
I was wondering what was going on. I hope everything is okay now.
Lisa J Aug 7, 2007, 10:43pm EDT
Randee, I also think that women a) tend to connect more, b) tend to share more. It is likely that if you were to analyze the membership of this site you would find it has more women than men as members and the women are more active. I've never seen anything that suggested you were trawling for women, or I would have dropped you like a hot potato as a connection....
Lisa J Aug 7, 2007, 10:44pm EDT
Oh good! I'm not the only one who wasn't sure if you were male or female! I never heard of a female randee, but the double e spelling made me curious too!
Peg Doak Aug 7, 2007, 11:15pm EDT
My thoughts run along with many here. Women do connect easier, and are more verbal. Communication is a skill that women excell at. It's part of the 'mother syndrome' and has been proven. I think she would like gather. But I also can understand the need for you to have autonomy. I had an ex, ex for a reason. I always gave him his space while he kept cramping mine. But finally I said, "The door. Go thru it." Afterwards I had to clean out my computer, email and such. ARGH. Porno and even advertisements for women within twenty miles of my home. I sent them all to his mother.
Lune Wolfsong Aug 7, 2007, 11:29pm EDT
ROFL! WTG PeggyAnn.
Lune Wolfsong Aug 7, 2007, 11:32pm EDT
25 years is quite an accomplishment!
Missy Cline Aug 7, 2007, 11:46pm EDT
if it makes your wife feel better I had no clue what your gender was until now! All I've noticed are the great games!
Adriana C. Aug 8, 2007, 1:02am EDT
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Being online can be complicated even if you aren't doing anything wrong. Just remind her that she is important. Maybe let her see that things are safe on here. She just needs to feel like she is a part of it.
Thanks girls, that's all that commented, My dad and my uncle were all drunked up back around 50 years ago and they are the one's that named me, after a pitcher for the St. Louis Cardinals, Randy Lee. They made the ee in Randee so there would be double letters in all three of my names,,,,kind of felt like the boy named Sue--Johnny Cash! RANDEE is really my name, from birth!
Barbara B. Aug 9, 2007, 12:56am EDT
Randee I think your wife is a very lucky woman to have
such a devoted husband as you are. Maybe you should
let her read these comments Randee. I mean 25 years
and still madly in love with your wife. She must be very
special to you young man.
Willy Moon Aug 9, 2007, 1:00am EDT
I has been married to the smae woman fer 31 years. Yep. We is both suckers fer punishment. Yuk-Yuk!
Kathleen**Hair is my LIFE!*** K. Aug 15, 2007, 11:22am EDT
Did it work???

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