Hope you are ready for this. Here are the links, with the second link being a psychological study on PDF. Interesting. I have listed 142 of the 237 below.
http://enews.earthlink.net/article/hea?guid=20070731/46aeb3c0_3421_13345200707312096960868
Hey, what happened to all the liberal-minded people out there? I am updating the article to include the top 10 and bottom 10 reasons to have sex. They are listed after the 142 reasons, but here is the link for this as well:
http://enews.earthlink.net/article/hea?guid=20070731/46aeb3c0_3426_1335020070731-874087155
If you have a little time, read the the actual report on PDF:
http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/Homepage/Group/BussLAB/pdffiles/why%20humans%20have%20sex%202007.pdf
I have had sex in the past because…
1. I was frustrated and needed relief.
2. I wanted to release anxiety/stress.
3. I wanted to release tension.
4. I was bored.
5. It seemed like good exercise.
6. I thought it would relax me.
7. I’m addicted to sex.
8. It would allow me to “get sex out of my system” so that I couldfocus on other things.
9. I am a sex addict.
10. I thought it would make me feel healthy.
11. I hadn't had sex for a while.
12. I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
13. It feels good.
14. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
15. I was “horny.”
16. It’s fun.
17. I wanted the pure pleasure.
18. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
19. It’s exciting, adventurous.
20. I was “in the heat of the moment.”
21. The person had an attractive face.
22. The person had a desirable body.
23. The person had beautiful eyes.
24. The person smelled nice.
25. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
26. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
27. The person was a good dancer.
28. The person was too physically attractive to resist.
29. The person wore revealing clothes.
30. The person was too “hot” (sexy) to resist.
31. I was curious about sex.
32. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
33. I wanted the experience.
34. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
35. I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
36. I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with anotherperson.
37. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
38. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
39. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
40. I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
41. I wanted to get the most out of life.
42. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
43. The opportunity presented itself.
44. I wanted to act out a fantasy.
45. I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feeldifferent or better.
46. I wanted to get a raise.
47. I wanted to punish myself.
48. I wanted to get a job.
49. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
50. I wanted to get a promotion.
51. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease (e.g.,herpes, AIDS).
52. Someone offered me money to do it.
53. I wanted to feel closer to God.
54. I wanted to make money.
55. I wanted to have a child.
56. I wanted to reproduce.
57. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
58. The person offered me drugs for doing it.
59. I wanted to end the relationship.
60. I wanted to be used or degraded.
61. I wanted to be popular.
62. I wanted to enhance my reputation.
63. I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
64. I was competing with someone else to “get the person.”
65. It would damage my reputation if I said “no.”
66. The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sexwith him/her.
67. I thought it would boost my social status.
68. My friends pressured me into it.
69. It was a favor to someone.
70. Someone dared me.
71. I wanted to impress friends.
72. I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
73. I was mad at my partner so I had sex with someone else.
74. I wanted to get even with someone.
75. I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
76. I wanted to make someone else jealous.
77. I wanted to break up rival’s relationship by having sex withhis/her partner.
78. I was on the “rebound” from another relationship.
79. I wanted to make someone else jealous.
80. I wanted to breakup another's relationship.
81. I wanted to hurt an enemy.
82. I wanted to get out of doing something.
83. I wanted to burn calories.
84. I wanted to keep warm.
85. The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.
86. I wanted to get rid of a headache.
87. I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
88. I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
89. I wanted to become more focused on work – sexual thoughts aredistracting.
90. I wanted to get a favor from someone.
91. I wanted to defy my parents.
92. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
93. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
94. I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level.
95. I wanted to express my love for the person.
96. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
97. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
98. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
99. I wanted to become one with another person.
100. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
101. I realized I was in love.
102. It seemed like the natural next step in the relationship.
103. I wanted to get a partner to express love.
104. I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself.
105. I wanted to welcome someone home.
106. I wanted to say “I’m sorry.”
107. I wanted to say “thank you.”
108. I wanted to say “goodbye.”
109. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or specialoccasion.
110. I wanted to say “I’ve missed you.”
111. I wanted to lift my partner’s spirits.
112. I wanted to feel powerful.
113. I wanted to make myself feel better about myself.
114. I wanted to boost my self-esteem.
115. I wanted to feel attractive.
116. I wanted my partner to notice me.
117. I wanted the attention.
118. I wanted to “gain control” of the person.
119. I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
120. I felt insecure.
121. I didn’t know how to say “no.”
122. I was pressured into doing it.
123. I felt obligated to.
124. I was verbally coerced into it.
125. I felt like it was my duty.
126. I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
127. My partner kept insisting.
128. I felt like I owed it to the person.
129. I was physically forced to.
130. It was expected of me.
131. I felt guilty.
132. I didn’t want to disappoint the person.
133. I wanted to be nice.
134. I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
135. I wanted to get my partner to stay with me.
136. I wanted to decrease my partner's desire to have sex with someoneelse.
137. I wanted to prevent a breakup.
138. I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn’t have sexwith him/her.
139. I wanted to ensure the relationship was “committed.”
140. I didn't want to “lose” the person.
141. I wanted the person to love me.
142. I thought it would help “trap” a new partner.
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Enough already!
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TOP 10 REASONS TO HAVE SEX FOR MEN
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
4. It's fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
TOP 10 REASONS TO HAVE SEX FOR WOMEN
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. It's fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was "in the heat of the moment."
BOTTOM FIVE REASONS TO HAVE SEX FOR MEN
1. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
2. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
3. I wanted to punish myself.
4. I wanted to break up my relationship.
5. I wanted to get a job.
BOTTOM FIVE REASONS TO HAVE SEX FOR WOMEN
1. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
2. Someone offered me money to do it.
3. I wanted to get a raise.
4. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
5. I wanted to get a job.
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Comments: 45
Lera, I knew I could count on you! Maybe they could have been the experiment's control group, yes?
Kathleen, your point is valid, but just look at ALL the ones that aren't covered by love or sexual drive!
(lol), Jeff, that is exactly what my brothers, AND some of my male friends have said. Jeff, is it really -- to some -- a function that needs to be relieved like urinating? I get that a great deal, and I think it's so cold. (My brothers obviously have ulterior motives in telling me that, and so do my male friends. You would have no ulterior motive, so now I am asking you.
Janice, I think the standard excuse is to blame the other party -- "they made me do it." Wonder if anyone says, "the devil made me do it"?
Alena (lol), now that's a straightforward answer.
(LOL). It's okay, Lynn. I was nearly speechless too!
I was always curious about how it is for woman compared to men. They seem to have more intense pleasure but I guess I would never know.....
For the most part I think the answer is "because I could".
Hope I don't get in trouble, but sex for this particular female ... is like an explosion, going through the ceiling, being incredibly intoxicated (without side effects) -- it's a very emotional experience. I don't want to go any deeper, but because it's so emotional I would not want to share the experience unless it was someone I loved, loved deeply. Love makes it as close to losing contact with reality as one can get, near-insanity, but ooooh what insanity!
; ) . . . ( ;
I am a little shocked at some of the reasons given in the study, though. Still I can't judge those people; I don't really know their circumstances.
Jeff, I have learned something today/tonight. So all the hoopla men have been giving me about the incredible experience is not true?
And you know, Karl, I hadn't thought about that, but you're correct. If it weren't a scientific study I would think it was assumed, but I am sure the researchers covered that possibility in connection with the answers!
(And any hoopla you may have been given is bankable, it's REALLY nice)
Thanks for an interesting article!!
Esther S.~
TOP 10 REASONS TO HAVE SEX FOR BIG JASON:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
4. It's fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
Definitely my top ten.
There was a lot of content to consume. I am certain, though, that they were young. You and I were on the same wavelength there. Although...
...with some of the comments I hear (politically) these things could have very well been said by older people. I just keep wondering "what are they thinking" for some.
Thank for on the compliment to my nephew. I'll let his parents know. Had to hug him tight yesterday, because I don't know when I'll see him again, soon.
Felix, I would love to hear the reason to NOT have sex. Lera brought that up, and now we have our own in-house Gather opinion on the subject. \
Elaborate, Man. Elaborate!
Whoa, John. Pleasantly, and sweetly said. I am seeing a different side to you. I have only previously heard your political thoughts, but I am impressed that politics hasn't caused you to be like me, even with sex, a CYNIC.
Hey Esther S. How are you this morning? Thank you about the article! Esther, my feelings about sex were instilled by my parents and Catholicism. God created sex, intended to make it GOOOD. He even told Adam and Eve to be "fruitful" and "multiply." Nice fruit, eh? Anything good, like sex, can be distorted into...say, rape, molestation, and so forth. But essentially, sex was created by God for the enjoyment of the two lovers (whoever they are), to become united -- body, spirit, and soul. At least, that's my take on it. Esther, I may seem to be prudish, but nothing could be farthest from the truth. Most people close to me think I am "naughty", and despite the political stuff, I laugh and enjoy life a lot. I just don't come off that way. Look for the article today, Esther. You'll see! Thanks again. You always bring something special to the discussion.
Jason, you Dog/Dawg you! You know what I am talking about! (LOL).
Nothing man can do can alter the wisdom of God. He made us, and He knows how we actually function. One cannot reap real fruit from what one simply imagines to be a tree. He tells us plainly that sex is a part of a loving relationship, or it is out of place and will produce disorder. That's all sin means; disorder.
I only recently realized what the Book is, but have always assumed sex was a part of a loving relationship. I can, of course, be stimulated by any beautiful woman through my imagination, but in reality, have never been sexually attracted to women I did not love. Came awfully close to bypassing that fact a few times, but by chance or some unconscious self imposed prohibition on ignoring the sense of incompleteness, never actually committed that particular "sin". Many others escaped the subtle voice within, and graced me with their disorderly consequences, in spades.
You are so right. I confess as a younger woman, I did have my time of rebellion (after my dad died). I wasn't promiscuous, or a drug taker, but I was the biggest partier, out to live it up until I died, and throw caution to the wind. I was angry with God for taking my father. Even non-Believers knew that had to be some Mighty Force protecting me during those times -- I was so wild and reckless. It was God. He knew I was grieving over my dad's loss and just kept His hand on me throughout all of it. He continues to do so.
But, there are those who do not understand this, don't understand the consequences for their -- to use your word -- disorderly actions. They actually believe nothing will happen to them. WRONG. That is why in Galatians it states that no one should be tricked
"Be not deceived;God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he reap."
Thus my favorite statement, "I want front row center seats." It is inevitable, even if they do not think so.
Thanks for posting this very caring article for us to take sides.
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Thanks for posting this interesting article Nalita.
No, its true. I was kind of describing the feeling afterwards. If they tell you that they never experience it before that would probably be 99% untrue if they weren't a virgin.
However there were 2 different women I was with in my life that were different only because I was so into them on so many different levels. Sex was a totally different experience with them. So much more. I was younger than and didn't understand how special that was. If I only know then what I know now......
Really enjoyed your' article, Nalita.
LOL.
I've got poor medical coverage and frequent ejaculation reduces the risk of testicular cancer (although that's about the least exciting reason I can think of).