Indian wedding is not just about solemn rituals and ethnicity. There are various other entertaining rituals and bubbly moments in Indian wedding ceremonies that alleviate the frame of mind and remains as cherishing moments in the coming days. This marks the foundation of a fresh relationship not just between two persons but also between two families. There are a variety of moments in the wedding ceremonies that help out to fabricate new relationships. Each caste and community has its own ritual and traditions. India with such miscellaneous cultural background showcases diversity of fun filled rituals and customs.
There was one more tradition which is now not so much effective. After the bride reaches her husband's house her mother-in-law welcomes her. The bride's first step into her new residence is considered lucky. She is the (ghar) House (laxmi name of an Indian Goddess) or the goddess Laxmi who will bring prosperity and superior fortune to her home. And the bride is welcomed by her mother-in-law who performs a petite ceremony. She places a vessel, filled to the brim with rice, at the entrance of the house. The bride must bang the vessel down softly with her right foot, spilling some of the rice over. The rice is a symbol of wealth and by following the ritual she conveys her full understanding of her duties responsibilities towards her new home.
After this mother-in law handover the bunch of key to the bride saying that now this is her house and now it's her responsibility to look after the house .Generally mother-in laws says that now she wants to give in charge of the entire family unit to her daughter-in law.Like this she gives her heritage to her.
This ritual is because in Indian culture, it is women who run the house and not the men. It is said that the woman is the one who is efficient and knows how to plan the money and finally she is the one who will save some money for a rainy day. The monetary errands and the control of money in a household are represented by silver key chains that women wear in India. This silver key chains will contain all the keys to the house along with the key to the cabinet where all the money is kept .If anybody wants money they will have to go to her, since she is the only one who can open her cabinet where she kept her money.
In a nutshell, whoever has the key chain controls the money and controls the house. There is a reason why this silver key chain with lot of keys is never given to men and it's probably because of how women are seen as a symbol of the Goddess Lakshmi (goddess of money).
I will not say that this tradition of giving key chains to the bride does not exist..It is.!!!!But time has changed... now everyone has an exclusive bunch of keys.. Keys to wealth...


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My mom-in-law is far more modern than the archetypal image we carry in our minds. Thank God for that!
Ernie
Thank you Bhawana.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
There is no handing of the bunch of keys to a new Bahu as she is inexperinced in dealing with the family reponsibilities. Such customs are fast disappearing as a couple decides to live separately.
but when first I saw the image of keys
and it was a write image contest..
it reminded me of that particular
episode of mother-in law
and daughter-in law...
and I decided to write on write image ...Discussing traditions are always in fashion ..these topics never die....
and those who will read they will come to know more what's the special about customs and traditions far away in EAST......
"Like this she gives her heritage to her."--- Beautifully expressed, this giving of heritage. Conveys that the mother-in-law trusts that her son's new wife will remember his family's history and traditions and share them with her own children someday.
Well done.
I am not a big follower of customs though , but I know almost all of them ..