He Doesn't want me to get a tattoo.

I have yet to get the tattoo, but the picture I posted is one that I am interested in getting.

I started to not comment on this article but I am curious to know what your mother thinks? As LDS we do not believe in having tatoos. Now that is my choice and I do not judge others. I must admit sometimes I see them on people and sorta want one myself but I would never do it.

My Sister in law has a tatoo and some of my friends. As I said, I do not judge others for getting them.

I think there's nothing wrong with getting a tattoo and so long as not vulgar or in an area where it'd cause issues with work, etc I don't see why he'd be so against it.

I have a tattoo (about the size of 1/4 my back) and my husband was nothing but 100% supportive of my idea. He even helped me pick out a studio from my visits.

go for it...I just can't...the thought of the needles and stuff...

yep, i'm a chicken!

I've always been interested in getting a tattoo, but I've never been gutsy enough to do it. I'm not very tolerant of pain. But, in my opinion, it's your body, so who cares what anyone else thinks? You're going to be 50 years old, if you still need your husband's permission, you have bigger problems than getting a tattoo.

I agree 100% that it is a personal decision... YOUR personal decision! I'm sorry but if your hubby has a problem with it then it's something he needs to work out on his own. Maybe I am biased cuz I love tattoos though. I have 2 and plan on getting more.
I think you should go ahead and get your tatt! :)
Post a pic once it's healed so we can see it.
Happy early birthday!

I don't like them, my son has 3 small ones...I wish he didn't. But, with that said...I'm 52 and I think you should be able to do whatever you want. Would your husband be happier if it was more hidden? Could you compromise and get it on your shoulder or something?

Got my first tattoo last Fall...on my 55th birthday! My hubby and I didn't discuss it beforehand but he told me when I made the big showing, "I don't like women with tattoos!" Seeing my crestfallen face he added, "but thats why I love you, you're one crazy woman!"

I have one too. Its your body. Tell him I said so.

Matt wants to get a tatoo, and I told him no. It isn't professional in his line of work.

ps I am 63 and got mine 3 yrs ago

Hi Connie! My mother actually has tattoos.

Jennifer, the one I will choose will be small. I have seen some that really aren't very nice. But, too each his/her own.

M E, I am chicken too. But, I have wanted a butterfly tattoo for so long.

Jill, I have told my husband that I have wanted this tattoo long before I met him. My original plan was to get it done when I turned 40.

Tiffanie, I would only get one tattoo. My children have more than one. I am not one to overly adorn my body. I don't even wear much jewelry. I will be sure to post the pic!

Sue, I have thought about getting it on my shoulder, but I want to look at it without the use of mirrors.

My hubby & I have both got a tatoo (actually my hubby has multiple). It is a very personal decision, but I don't know if it's worth a major conflict (& surely not worse) though. I love my tatoo, and my hubby's are very nice too, but if it came down to it I would choose my hubby over my tatoo for sure.

That being said - it's a very pretty design.

I actually have a pic of one of my hubby's up on my site, if you care to look...

my ass of a boyfriend wont let me get a tattoo either. I super really want one really bad but he says they make me less attractive. i value his opinion but i really really want one... soo confused

Go for it, girl! It's a personal decision. It's your body, not his. My mom and my gram went together and got tattoos as a bonding thing. My Gram was almost 60, and she loves her little tattoo. I know I'm gonna get one. I just have to make sure it's something I want on my body forever.

Listen to him!! or at least start saving for laser tattoo removal! (costs about 800 per visit!!!! and normally 6-8 visits are required over a two to three year period)

Lynn, I am hoping that he will understand the importance of my getting this tattoo.

Carol, good on ya for getting the tat! I will tell the hubby you said I should go ahead with it. I doubt he will agree, but it is my choice.

Michelle, I loved your hubbies tattoo. It is lovely that he chose a peacock feather to represent each one of your children.

Kellie, I really don't understand why anyone would think a tattoo makes a person less attractive. If it is one that is artistic and beautiful, it enhances your beauty.

Samantha, I agree that it is a personal decision. I have pondered this thought for many years now. I really should have had it done 10 years ago.

Hello, I know that many people regret their tattoos and have them removed. But if the tattoo is one of great beauty and meaning, it will remain a part of them.

I have never really had any desire to get a tattoo except when I was inmy teens. As soon as my mom said, "What is that tattoo going to look like when you're sixty?", I changed my mind real quick!! LOL I have seen how my dad's tattoo has done. The older he gets, the more faded it gets.

Sarina, I have heard about people getting their tattoos removed, but it always cost way more than the tattoo and was way more painful to have removed.

I really don't get the whole tattoo thing, but if it means that much to you then by all means go ahead and do it. It sounds like you have thought about it for quite some time, so just make sure you go to a really good clean place. As for the conflict with your husband we all know as married people that we pick our battles, if this is a battle worth winning, then I am sure he will come around eventually.

How strong is your relationship with your husband? Have you sat down and had a calm discussion about this decision?

Sarina we are all free agents and capable of making our own
decisions! He'll come around it may take time but it will happen!
Luv Mom

I was going to get one on my 40th bday and my husband was less than thrilled by the idea, altho his mom was all for it...she has 2 of her own! However...I have a rotten tendency to develop keloid (raised) scars and even minor stuff can turn into one. A FAQ at a reputable tattoo place in the area said that if you were subject to them, then tats were not a great idea as keloids could form.

That was the ONLY thing that changed my mind!!! It's your body and your decision!

I am the type that you don't want my opinion, so I went and got my two bestest angels, who I knew could say the right things to you. You have to do what is right for you, and you know what is right in your heart.

I am not the type of person to wear tattoos all over my body. I only want a small butterfly. For me it is personal. I will wear it with pride.

Eileen, I am not good with needles either. But, I am willing to face my fears. PS...the pic was of me at age 20.

BEFORE READING THIS COMMENT: This is not an insult or an attempt to dissuede anyone from anything... simply food for thought.

I personally have 9 tattoos, and one of my major issues with tattoos is the photocopy flash. Not that flash is a terrible thing, but I cannot figure out why people wish to be stamped with a brand that says "I enjoy being like everyone else." The two most disappointing tattoos are the butterfly on girls and the standard tribal or barbed wire armband on guys. I thought tattoos were s'posed to be at least in some way an outward reflection of your own individuality! I urge you to get the tattoo, but make it your own. The butterfly and the wispy design can be found 3 inches above an asscrack every 5 feet in every club within 15 miles of a college campus in any town in this country.

To give examples, I have 2 custom drawn tattoos, 4 that I designed my self, and one that I pulled off of a flash sheet, but I have had a number of tattoo artists and enthusiasts say about it that they have never seen a solid red tattoo (as the normal convention is to get the solid black). jeff p.'s picture should show you how common an idea this is.
Like I already said this is simply food for thought, and I really think you would love an original much more than a photocopy. As for your husband, ask him if he is willing to divorce you over a small scar on your ankle. If not, then maybe it's just not worth it to sweat the small stuff, and if so then he must not care that much about you anyway, in which case I suggest choosing the tattoo over him.

post scripto
For those of you who do not know, "flash" is the term for the sheets choc full of designs pasted all over the walls of the tattoo parlor, and this is how it works. Some guy (usually the artsy-fartsy type) draws a bunch of designs puts them into a 4 or 5 page collection and sells them across the country. It makes an artist's job easier, because they get practice stitching that damned barbed wire into the arm of every meathead on spring break, and make quick easy money, which means that they have more time and resource to take extra care for the thoughtful people that want something different and original.

And now for some advice: if you focus on your breathing deeply and slowly, you'll barely feel a thing... if you stare at the needle on your skin you'll feel nearly all 30-100 stabs per second (artists' preference) and you'll want to jerk and move around until you have a blob that kinda resembles a butterfly forever etched above your foot.

Sarina, I am in total support of you getting your tattoo!!! Screw 'em!!!!!!!

Dinabuc, I am planning to choose a design that my sister will be helping me with. I am asking her to come up with a few so I can have a choice. My husband is starting to come around now and said I should have more than one color. I am choosing purple (which is my favorite color), blue and yellow. Thank you for the advise on the breathing technique. I already had planned to use my Lamaze training when I get it done. No way will I glance in the direction of the needle. I am not a needle person. : )

Denise, thank you my dear friend. I can't wait to show it off.

Marriage is a comprimise you know. How about a stick on? Cheaper and more sanitary. Wishing you a wonderful Birthday ahead of time. Huggers.

Hubby is coming around. He will help me to choose the butterfly that will become a permanent adornment on my body.

I agree with your husband. The medical risk is more than you might imagine. I don't like piercings either.