My Roomate/Family Member is Making me Batty

So this is total venting because I’m angry and annoyed.  My mom’s boyfriend has a 32 year old daughter who got married in August and is currently in the midst of a divorce.  It was like a Hollywood marriage…it didn’t even last a year.  She apparently knew before the wedding that she didn’t want to get married, and had said that planning it was like going through a checklist.  My mom allowed her to move into our apartment on Long Island (my mom and Jeff moved into the city a year ago) as we had an extra bedroom.  Originally, she was supposed to only stay for two weeks.  Two weeks has turned into about four months.  When she first moved in, I was still up in Boston at school so it didn’t really affect me, except when she was asked by my mother to pick me up from La Guardia one evening when I came in for the weekend and as soon as I got into the car, she asked me if it was alright for her friend to sleepover.  What was I going to say?  No?  It was apparent in her wording that she had invited her friend over before even asking me if it was alright.  There is a long list of other grievances:

1. She is seeing someone already, and was seeing him before she moved out of the apartment she shared with her then husband.  She has told Jeff (her father) that she isn’t seeing him anymore yet he’s over at my place frequently.  That puts me in an odd position.  I am extremely close with my mom and Jeff, and for her to expect me not to say anything is ridiculous, considering I tell them almost everything.
2. When I first got home from school, I stocked up on bottled water.  She asked if she could have some and I said sure.  She never paid me for any of it, and she drank most of it.  So we then decided to split bottled water moving forward, as far as the cost.  Who goes to the supermarket to buy it?  I DO!  Who brings 30 bottles of water up at a time?  I DO!  She offers to help but then she is never actually home at any normal hour.
3. She had a friend over on Sunday night.  The cooked dinner, made popcorn, etc.  My mother uses the oven to store pots and pans, and when we use the oven, we obviously take those out.  She took everything out but didn’t think to put everything back in so once again I was stuck with something she should have done.  On top of it, she left an empty bag of popcorn on the counter, which of course I through away.
4. She is ALWAYS nasty.  When she does come home at a normal hour, she acts like a teenager, going into her room and slamming the door shut, never to be seen until morning.
5. In the mornings in the summer, I put on the main air conditioner in the house on so that when I come home it is cool.  I hate the summer, and after an hour commute, I like coming home to a cool apartment.  She has, several times, taken it upon herself to shut it off an open the windows on sweltering hot days.  SHE’S BARELY HOME!!!!!!  There is no reason for her to shut off the A/C and open the window unless she spends a significant amount of time at home.
6. When she first met my boyfriend at an open house for her father’s new restaurant, he mistakingly asked her how training was going because he thought she was a trainer.  She was so nasty in answering him “I’m not a trainer, I’m a massage therapist.”  He tried making conversation from there but she just wasn’t having it.  My boyfriend now has a sour taste in his mouth.  They say first impressions are everything.  Not to mention she sat in a corner the entire time with her friend, not socializing with ANYBODY!  Why’d she even go?

And last but definitely the most important…

        7.      She is using all of our stuff as she is living in the apartment.  The thing I’m most annoyed at, however is her total disregard for the use of my laptop.  Originally, the internet connection in the apartment was in the room she is sleeping in (my old room) but when I got home from school, I needed to hook up my desktop so I rewired so I could set up my main computer in the room I was in and gave her my laptop to use, as it was hooked up for wireless use.  I walked into the den this morning to find the laptop covered in a film of dust.  I lost the cool demeanor I had been keeping thus far.

So that’s what happened.  This morning I left her a note, which I had planned to follow up with phone call (I called her at 8:00am).  The first note was nice and was in regards to purchasing water this weekend for the following week so that we wouldn’t run out mid-week and then neither of us would have time to get any.  I informed her that I’d be staying in the city tonight and to have a nice day.  Then I saw the dusty laptop.  I felt I had been considerate thus far and I completely lost it.  I’m 22 but my blood pressure probably sky rocketed.  I wrote another note which I placed right next to the other one.  I informed her that I noticed my laptop in the den and that it was “FILTHY” (yes, I put it in capital letters) and that if she wishes to use my laptop, she needs to take better care of it.  I said thank you and that was the end of note number 2.  I was so angry at this point and I had been so patient with her regarding everything prior to this that I just flipped.  My mom said I should have woken her up.  Promptly at 8:00am I called her to follow up on my notes and she started YELLING at me.  First she said she’d buy the water this weekend.  She told me I shouldn’t leave her nasty notes and that I should call her if there was anything going on (she isn’t entirely wrong however I never know when to call her because her schedule is so weird).  She then went on to tell me that however the laptop is now, was how I gave it to her.  I told her that I did not give her the laptop with a film of dust covering it.  So she says, “electronics get dusty.”  I replied “yes they get dusty and that’s why Best Buy sells cleaners specifically for computers!”  She told me not so speak to her like a 5 year old and that if I had an issue with something to talk to her, and if she’s not home to call her and leave a voicemail and she’d call me back.  Did I mention she called me immature?  Did I mention she’s been living RENT FREE?!?!?!?!?!?!!?  So someone is living in my house RENT FREE and she has the audacity to yell at me when I ask her to PLEASE treat my things better????  Give me a f-ing break!  And it’s fine if she doesn’t make a lot of money because she doesn’t have a massage client base yet (she only recently got licensed) however she is also certified as a personal trainer so why doesn’t she do that part time?  Why doesn’t she get a job to supplement what she is doing?  I just don’t get it.  She’s 32 and acts 17 and I’m 22 and act 32.

As of August 1^st, my mother is asking her to begin to pay $500 a month in rent.  A STEAL for what she has going for her.  If she weren’t renting from a “family member” she’d probably being paying $1000 a month for the room.

I’m beyond annoyed but I’m happy I got to vent and my boyfriend surprised me this morning with a really sweet good morning note (he doesn’t know what happened yet) so at least I’m not as grumpy as I was on my way into work.  OK.  I’m finished.