No doubt we want to be happy and loved. We feel more peace in our lives and are more content when we are happy. We all want to feel secure in our relationships. We want that perfect relationship that will give us the happiness that we so desperately seek. If this is the case, why are there so many failed marriages and broken homes? I have often wondered this when I see a young couple give up on their marriage only after a few years. Why do many give up so easily?
I am one of the lucky ones. I married my best friend. We have been married for nearly 29 years now. I cant say that we have never had a fight as that would be untrue. I can say that we have worked through our disagreements and became stronger from them. It has not always been easy. We had our ups and downs. We are two individuals trying to be happy, just like any other couple. We have come to the place in our relationship where we can finish each other’s sentences and we know what the other is thinking quite frequently.
Yes, I am fortunate. I found my best friend in my husband. We share and care for each other no matter what happens in the world. No matter how tough life gets, we each know that the other will be there to support each other. We are stronger as a result of that knowledge. It is however an ongoing process to keep a marriage strong enough to weather the trials of life.
I found that one of the keys to our marriage is that we were and are committed to each other and to our marriage. Our marriage as well as our family is our number one priority. If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Trust is a big part of commitment. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationships from a strong one.
I have heard many young couples say “Well if it does not work, we can always get a divorce”. I just think to myself “This marriage don’t stand a chance with that attitude”. There are times when marriage’s don’t last as a result of abuse. That just breaks my heart that anyone can abuse someone that they say they love but it happens.
Do you think commitment has anything to do with marriage?
Do you think it can make all the difference when times get hard in a marriage?
Do you think marriage is worth fighting for when hard times come around?
Is it hard on both partners when divorce is the only option?
How Important is a family unit to you?
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Comments: 24
I love what you wrote about you and your husband - romantic but realistic!
Thanks.
I am so happy that you ahve had a long happy marriage.
I have been marred 14 years and most years were not happy. But things look up as they always do.
I believe the attitude so many young people have toward marriage comes from a society that says we must always be happy at any cost. I believe it always comes from a society that says we must have instant results in everything we do. Nobody wants to wait anything out. Nobody wants to persevere.
When two people get married...(especially if it is a Christian marriage)...the two truly become one. It is more than a commitment. It is a sacred covenant between the two people and God. They become one. The time for selfishness is over. It is not always about "what makes ME happy" anymore. It is about US. And I think that is what is missing most in young marriages today.
Now I'm older and very independent. If I need a man for something, I can hire one from the yellow pages. If I knew how to do plumbing and home/auto repairs I wouldn't even need to pick up the phone for that. I'm sure some people are thinking that's sad, but I am fine with it. I like my life. I am happier with things being the way they are now than when I had a husband.
Some people are just different, I guess. I admire people who've been married to the same person for 30 years, but that's just not me. I couldn't imagine waking up with the same face looking back at me that long. I could never imagine working at the same place for 30 years either. But many people do it and that's fine for them. I applaud them. But not everyone wants the same life as they have.
Better out than in.
I have friends who commend me for my 12 years of marriage because they don't know anyone who stays together more than 3 or 4 years. This boggles me. I think we've barely begun!!
My parents were married for 58 3/4 years when my mom died and they were excitedly looking forward to the 60th mark at the time.
That is what seems normal to me.