Hello everyone. I started this rant in the comment section of a post but I want to add a warning, and put it all here in my articles.
This morning I received an email from B of A (bank of america) telling me that I have been locked out of my online credit card account due to too many wrong tries to get in. It want me to *click here* and fill UP the information. This document looked authentic, with these exceptions....
It was placed in my spam file by aol.
And it used the term "fill up" the form. Instead of fill in.
Those were my only clues.
I called the phone number for B of A on my statement, not the email. And was told not to click on anything in the email, because it was a SCAM.
I wanted to give you all a heads up to this. If I can save even one person the stress of identity theft....
My original rant is in part a warning about people using the dating services to reach for potential victims.
On Match.com, Ive met one very nice man I am still seeing.
Another that wants to see me. And (and this is my point)
BEWARE a man by the name of Daneil Horn. He claims to live in Seattle, be from Germany, and come from money.
The "I love you"s came after about a week of talking to this nice looking, kind man.
My uh oh alarm was still going off when he asks me for 60k to help him secure a contract. My first clue was him mis spelling Daniel!
Within a week I had man I didnt know instant messaged me on yahoo messenger.
He claimed in broken english, that he saw my profile on date.com and has decided to "fall madly inlove" with me. He was the second man in a week to claim he found my name on a site I didnt remember registering on. (turns out I Did register there, must have been thru Get Paid to Read Email, and forgot about it) I am still trying to get myself Unregistered on date.com.
Sorry I digress.....so I tell the date.com guy..."I dont have any money, I am not planning to remarry (in case he is seeking a green card) and frankly, your english Sucks." I hit the report span button on the IM to block further messages from him and....
Then, paranoid girl from the 60's me reaches for my virus checker, to run a scan just to be safe. And guess what? Mr I love you has removed my virus checker. I cant find it on my computer. So I re-loaded it.
I have the urge to also remove myself from match.com (where Daneil reached for me) but I have met 2 really good men there.
Before I close this long rant....I want to know, why anyone would say or show something that isnt true about themselves. Im speaking about the dating sites where if it works out, you Will likely meet this person and be exposed.
But it also applies to this Gather site. I know most all of the people here wont ever see me in real. (or care) But to post a picture that isnt real isnt just a lie to you, it would make me feel bad about myself. Im 50 (almost 51) years old and the picture you see here was taken last christmas. I write in truths, and
I am what I am what I am. If I didnt like the way I look, (what woman wouldnt want to be thinner tho) I would not show you my picture. Posting a younger one, or an attractive pic of someone else isnt just a lie to you, its a lie to me!
Another that wants to see me. And (and this is my point)
BEWARE a man by the name of Daneil Horn. He claims to live in Seattle, be from Germany, and come from money.
The "I love you"s came after about a week of talking to this nice looking, kind man.
My uh oh alarm was still going off when he asks me for 60k to help him secure a contract. My first clue was him mis spelling Daniel!
Within a week I had man I didnt know instant messaged me on yahoo messenger.
He claimed in broken english, that he saw my profile on date.com and has decided to "fall madly inlove" with me. He was the second man in a week to claim he found my name on a site I didnt remember registering on. (turns out I Did register there, must have been thru Get Paid to Read Email, and forgot about it) I am still trying to get myself Unregistered on date.com.
Sorry I digress.....so I tell the date.com guy..."I dont have any money, I am not planning to remarry (in case he is seeking a green card) and frankly, your english Sucks." I hit the report span button on the IM to block further messages from him and....
Then, paranoid girl from the 60's me reaches for my virus checker, to run a scan just to be safe. And guess what? Mr I love you has removed my virus checker. I cant find it on my computer. So I re-loaded it.
I have the urge to also remove myself from match.com (where Daneil reached for me) but I have met 2 really good men there.
Before I close this long rant....I want to know, why anyone would say or show something that isnt true about themselves. Im speaking about the dating sites where if it works out, you Will likely meet this person and be exposed.
But it also applies to this Gather site. I know most all of the people here wont ever see me in real. (or care) But to post a picture that isnt real isnt just a lie to you, it would make me feel bad about myself. Im 50 (almost 51) years old and the picture you see here was taken last christmas. I write in truths, and
I am what I am what I am. If I didnt like the way I look, (what woman wouldnt want to be thinner tho) I would not show you my picture. Posting a younger one, or an attractive pic of someone else isnt just a lie to you, its a lie to me!
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Comments: 33
I agree with you about pix here on Gather. I wouldn't post a picture of a different or younger person (well, I have an icon of my 4 yr old grandson now but I don't think anyone thinks that is ME!) I am 61 and have had a picture of mine posted earlier.
Apparently - places like that get email addresses, and figure that if they prey on your fears (getting everything stolen from you by someone just like them), you'll be a dumb idiot and fill out an email telling them everything they need to know to steal your identity. Thanks for making people aware of the scam. :-)
That email from B of A looked Exactly like what I have seen from the company in the past. Thank goodness the author used poor diction, telling me to "fill up" instead out or in.
One other thing I didnt mention in the article, I knew I hadnt messed up my sign on because I hadnt signed onto that site in over a week.
Its bad enough when you have a medical problem, everyone seems to have a hand in your pocket.
I think its just awful that we have to protect ourselves in every nook n cranny of our lives. No wonder trust is so hard for me.....t
It's encouraging to me that you've found some success on match.com. I recently joined and have been kind of apprehensive. I tried on-line dating several years ago and had some pretty bad experiences. I think people lie on these sites (dating sites) because the aren't as comfortable with themselves as you seem to be. I also think that both men and women have a notion of what the other sex's "ideal" is. It goes back again to how secure you are in yourself. I'm going to keep an eye out for anything that looks fishy on match.com. Thanks again for the heads up and have a great weekend!
Some of the sites now let a non paid member talk to paid members. I appreciate that. Also, lots of people give little clues as to how to reach them. Most singles have a yahoo messenger. And the smart ones use the same name on both or all of the sites.
I dont know if I am comfortable with myself. What I am is an open, honest person. I am what I am what I am. That doesnt change just because I might want to be younger or thinner or an earner or what ever.
Ive always found honesty to be the best policy. In all parts of life.
I aways say, be careful what you ask me, because I Will tell you.
I hope you have a great weekend too Gwen, and thank you for reading me......t
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I dont want to jinx myself but I have a date tonight with a college professor that claims he may be my "the one". Perhaps he can teach me how to spell?
I met one, he wasn't a terroisit, rather he was a very nice man who is still my friend/lover. I know Chicken Little must be running around here somewhere!
hope all is well
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One of the things I have learned about online dating sites...thats where you find the kink!
Ive met some nice men thru online dating but have made some good and better friends playing spades, dominos and cribbage online.
I have spent a lot of time on my computer clearing out the spyware since this occured. Thank goodness for security suite.
PHISHING sounds like "FISHING"
I wish I had a button on my computer, so that when someone or a company tries to get in, or tries to track me, I could just push the button, and ZAP them (or at least their computer)
So much for me being a sweet girl.....t
It makes me feel like I am being used and some days it tends to make me want to withdraw into myself.
Odd how the world changes from decade to decade....t
And this after all, is cyberworld....where you can be what ever you wish. I just thought people should be true to themselves....t