Updating My Situation - For those who are following

*hugs* Best of luck, hun. Just hang in there. :(

I'm so sorry!

Be strong, get out of your routine, it might make you feel a bit better.

Good luck finding your way after this trial. I think you'll do well. No worries.

I don't know your story as I'm fairly new to Gather but I do know that I personally will not tolerate a man who won't work. I used to. Never again. Even without knowing your story I am sure you did the right thing.

Sara, if its any consolation.....I have found the words of an old Spanish saying to be quite true.....Mejor sola que mal acompañada...! loosely translates to 'better alone than in bad company' - or the wrong company......

It happened to me and I found I am much happier now than I have EVER been.

Good for you! I know it hurts right now, and I know that the unknown is often scary. I've been there, so I also know that it's scary not recognizing the person in the mirror because you're living a life you always swore you never would. You can not change him. You can not stop his drinking. You can't make him man up and get right. You can't make the choices for him. But you can do all of those things for yourself. I also from my own personal experience, that alot of times when they see you getting it right, moving on with your life, and not waiting around for on him to come back and make the world spin, they often get it together and do what is right. My husband used to be awful. I put up with it for years. One day I woke up and decided out of nowhere that I'd had enough. I booted him to the curb. I woke up angry over all the crap from the past seven years and I wasn't taken it anymore. I threw him out like yesterday's trash. I then got a job, connected with some old friends, made some new ones, took a deep breath and began building a life for me and my kids. He came crawling back begging to come home and got the shock of his life when I laughed and told him not hardly. We stayed split up for nearly six months and eventually worked it out. When he came home, he came back a new man, better than I could have ever dreamed possibly existed. Today I am married to my very best friend, my soul mate, the love of my life. I could not dream for more. It took us a long time to get here. It took me deciding that I would no longer settle for anything less than the fairy tale, but we made it through and I am thankful everyday for the man God created for me when I finally let go.

Let me know if there's anything I can do! I am here to listen and I promise, you are no place I haven't been.

I am so sorry for the pain you are going thru right now, but you know what you've done is the best for you and your child! Be strong!
Something good is just around the corner!!
((hugs)) Email or Im me anytime you need to talk!

You'll get thru this...just have to be strong...no person is worth it(accept your child)

Good luck Sara! Your going to be just fine! Maybe even better than you were before! C):-)

It's incredibly difficult Sara, but you did it! You are stronger than you thought. Keep one foot going in front of the other, and each day you'll feel a little bit better. Only you can decide what is best for you, and what you'll settle for. Your Gather friends are here for you, and we support you.

sorry to hear of your sad news. Hang in there and see what God is trying to do with you now.

I am sorry you are in pain...but, after following your story the past months-I am so proud of you. I hope you are strong enough not to take him back if he comes...and he probably will come back at least once. You have been so unhappy, and you have known in your heart that you needed to start your life fresh. I could tell that from your writing...and now you have done it! I can only imagine how hard and painful this must be-but, you should really pat yourself on the back. You are finally putting you first.

Walk on ... be strong!

chin up and one day at a time. there is a rainbow over the hill for you. you are bringing a new life into this world put your energy into that.

I'll repeat something someone told me once... The best gift you can give your child is a happy, healthy mother. If you can focus on that, everything else will fall into place. Hard to believe sometimes when in the middle of a bad place --- but its true. Just keep talking to the little one inside. Tell him/her all the good things about you, and the good things about the father -- even if you have to dig deep ;) -- and he/she'll likely be the best of both of you.

Just hang in there. You did what you had to do. Be strong.