A New Beginning

When we wed

We seldom think

What'll rock the boat

What'll make it sink.

The waves in life

And rocks below

Make it a must

To join as we go.

So many times

We let the outside in,

The hold gives way

And our time grows dim.

If we row together

And limit our fights.

We'll float along and

Enjoy our bright lights.

(bright lights - our children, our successes, our retirement etc.)

Critique Welcome!

Comments: 9

Marielle M. Jun 2, 2007, 3:13pm EDT

I think sometimes people marry the wrong person because the like the idea of "marraige" without considering if their partner is correct.

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Heather C. Jun 2, 2007, 3:19pm EDT

Marielle, I agree. I married very young the first time without a thought as to what kind a father he would be or what kind of provider. I have no idea what he was thinking. He really didn't want what he started and I tried to hang on to who I thought he was. I lived and learned and remarried a few years later. My 27th anniversary to my second husband is this month. Sometimes I forget I was married once before because we weren't together long and it wasn't much of a marriage.

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Elsie Duggan Jun 2, 2007, 3:47pm EDT

A beautiful poem of a wonderful take on marriage. I had one of those 57 years long. My boat sank with his loss, but I am still afloat gingerly hanging on to what is still good in life. Welcome to Gather

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Thom R. Jun 2, 2007, 3:57pm EDT

Accurate and nicely written, I will look forward to more.

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Heather C. Jun 2, 2007, 4:27pm EDT

Thank you Elsie, I am sorry for your loss. After my Mother passed away, my Dad was miserable. He was inconsolable, as he said, "She was my Star."

Thank you Thom, I will do my best!

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Olive Rossi Jun 2, 2007, 6:15pm EDT

How sweet! I thought long and hard about getting married. I really only wanted a baby, but knew it would not be easy either way! I think women get their "freedom" when their husbands die, but the husbands feel a bit lost without their wives.

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Heather C. Jun 2, 2007, 6:41pm EDT

Thanks for the comment Toni! We moved down here to Florida in 1997 so I could help my Dad take care of my Mother. My Mother was an invalid for years. I was my Dad's back up when he was ill or in the hospital. I took care of her 24/7. Unfortunately most of the last month of her life, he was in the hospital and he resented me for his missing that time. Other than her being the love of his life, I think taking care of her gave him a mission. When his illnesses got so bad he needed my full time care, I did my best to give him the best care I could. He certainly deserved it!

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Spencer T. Jun 2, 2007, 9:18pm EDT

Agree with your position. Too often we allow the idea of love and marriage to cloud our reasoning as to the correct questions we should ask before taking that step. Once we have taken that step we then allow too many influences from the outside to alter our perceptions. Too many of us fail at intimate communication with our spouses.

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Heather C. Jun 2, 2007, 11:44pm EDT

Thanks Spencer, I agree with everything you said. The biggest issue in my marriage has been communication. Now many times I ask, "exactly what are you saying?" without anger in my voice. Many times my husband clarifies what he is trying to say and I find that his emotions are really of concern but it started out sounding like criticism. A few missing words can throw a whole conversation off.

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