I'm taking a public opinion poll.
How many married couples do you know personally that have a PRODUCTIVE marriage, where both people contribute to the other, support each other, nurture each other, help each other grow as people?
I don't mean no conflict. EVERY relationship has conflict. I mean overall, how many couples do you know (gay or straight partnerships) that have an effective marriage, where they truly are a team?
Please describe how this plays out. Married couples, please tell me the 5 top things you love about each other that plays into the partnership/team concept. Observers of married couples, please tell me the top 5 things you SEE that makes you think the couple has an effective marriage.