First off, let me tell you that I do have a wonderful mother in law. A little weird, but she is a good person. She helped us out with our move across country from California to Florida. This was also the first time she met our son. You see, she could fly all over to the country to visit her daughter and her other son over the years, but just couldn’t make it our way. She acknowledged the birth of my son with a gift card enclosed in a card for my son at Christmas that year. My son was 9 months old at the time.
My sister held a bi-coastal shower for me when a guy from my husband’s work decided to throw me a shower. Both showers were at the same time. After I opened my gifts, all my relatives, what little there is, and close family friends were at my sister’s holding a shower in my honor. She called me at my shower and I spoke to everyone at the shower in NY. I was crying I was so happy.
My small family is wonderful. My husband saw what being a family is about when we went to NY for my son’s christening. My sister and brother in law are my son’s godparents. My family took care of my son one night when we went to a ball game, my cousin fought over when she would have us over for dinner, my family talked and laughed and were wonderful to us. My husband was made to feel like family and it was only the third time he met my sister, second time for some of my cousins, and the first time for the rest of the people that were there.
So, my mother in law has this thing that my husband has to call her once a week. Fine. I don’t have a problem with that. He is a big boy and knows how to use the phone. He calls her from time to time here at home and I imagine at work when he gets the chance.
The other day, my mother in law called my husband at work.. She lives about 3-4 hours north of us in Central Florida. Somehow it comes up in conversation that she is going to sell the house. She is apparently talking about selling the house and buying a mobile home and travel the country. At the same time, she wants to buy a piece of property with a cow…in Ohio! Ok. How are you going to have a cow AND travel the country? And why Ohio? Because her daughter just moved there for her husband’s job a few months ago from the Carolinas. Then she actually tells my husband that she is thinking of driving down here to Fort Lauderdale to take a $10 flight to Ohio. Ok. She is going to drive 3-4 hours to take a $10 flight but she won’t drive down here to see her son or grandson.
This is the same woman that at the age of 60 plus that got upset with her mother who was 80 at the time because she had a small picture of her and not a large picture like they had for her other sisters. And I am talking about getting upset and crying. So, I guess she is doing only what she learned. Playing favorites. I just feel so bad for my husband. He has really been upset about this latest news from her.
I just needed to vent because I have just had a few things bothering me lately and this was one of them.





Comments: 48
My mother-in-law is 89 now and has done alot of hurtful things over the years to me and my husband. I can say, I sucked it up and at least it won't come back on me. Also, my Mom died young so my husband didn't have to know much of that.
Hang in there!
MIL may end up in Ohio.....does her daughter look forward to milking the cow?
:-))
As for traveling the country in a trailer, I give it six months. I know it may work for some people. I know ten couples who have tried it and all ten have since sold their trailer.
All families are strage trust me, I have some stories ;-)
A BIG 10 for being HUMAN. A simple advice from a simple man. Love others for who they are and not for what we want them to be - It is a lot less painful for you!
ty for sharing this. Hope at least YOU feel better now!
I think J.F., gave some excellent advice earlier on in the comment, and so have a lot of other gatherers. Good luck with everything, and don't hesitate to vent here agaim, there is always a computer or two to lean on :)
You reminded me about a MIL story of my own, On Being a Mother. I think we forget the meaning of time in our lives. I know I certainly underestimated the length of time I would be married, and how long she would be my mother-in-law.