by Matthew Emmett Townsend
Member since:
August 4, 2006

The Rummers of My Death are Greatly Exagurated!!! =+)

May 16, 2007 07:54 PM EDT
views: 92 | rating: 9.8/10 (20 votes) | comments: 35

            Hello Dear Friends,

 

I have not checked my e-mails yet, as there re 600+ in Gather and another 10,000 or so in G-mail.

 

I miss you all and I have missed writing.

I will be writing again... beginning now.

 

What has happened in the interim?

 

1.      I got a new job...

2.      My wife is Pregnant... (due November we are excited)

3.      My job uses me up 14+ hours a day for less then 10.00 an hour...

4.      My youngest has begun to express anger with hitting and attacking his mother and brother because he is upset with Dad being gone...

5.      My eldest expressed worry over the desires he has had pertaining 5to suicide... and sadness, so we removed his meds and are working out his emotional and medical needs...

6.      Because of 4 and 5 and yes some of 3, I had begun looking for different work, so I would be able to see the children when they are awake... and spend time with them,....

7.      This week Leslie (my dear wife and Eternal companion) became so ill that she could not handle the children alone, I had to call out from work then drive 50 miles to come home... I did.  However, I have lost my job because of it...

8.      This ultimately is a blessing, because "no success can compensate for failure in the home..."

 

This is what's happening in our front.. I am both overwhelmed and yet relived that I can be here to help with the kids... I am looking and praying for work in the evening or night. So that if needed I can home school or just be home during the day to help with the new baby when she arrives...

 

I am asking for prayers, for the blessing of guidance for My wife and I , and for comfort and peaceful emotions for my son's...  Already being home just 2 days my youngest has stopped being angry, and last night when I went out to the store he got out of bed and asked where Daddy was, when I cam back he came to see me then went to bed peacefully.... I have been so torn up inside hearing and seeing the stress they went through during this job, I want what's best for them but I screwed up this one...

 

I am so sorry they have been in such distress, and my wife has to bear the brunt of it... 

I am home now and while I will get a new job ASAP, I will never willingly leave them for 14 hours a day not for any price.

 

Thank you for being the kind of friends that I could just tell you allot his without fear of being cruelly judged, given advice yes...

 

I love you my friends and may well love those I do not know yet....

 

God Bless,

 

 

M. Emmett Townsend

 

 

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Comments: 35

Trish A. May 16, 2007, 8:07pm EDT
You lost your job because you left work to be with your sick wife? Doesn't sound like they are following the law.

Anyway, I wish you luck on finding a job that is more in line with what your family needs. Good luck with your sad child, your new child and all the craziness in your world.
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 16, 2007, 8:13pm EDT
Trish, the family medical leave act does not come into effect untill you have been on the job for 90 days... and in fairness In the first month I had missed 3 days becouse she was in the hospital... but the focus is money... ie sales and anything that disrupts that for them is a negative... and frankly I was not in a position that I cared weathers I lost it or not... It is a blessing to be home and to have the time to fix the computer (i did this today) and to then search for jobs... and this I will do I have 700 or so coming from work and so were not destitute yet...

God cares, and So I will trust in him.

I do thank you all for your caring hearts...
Susan *. May 16, 2007, 8:17pm EDT
glad you're back and that you're home to help...prayers are already on their way to you. take care and let us know how things go....but remember, family comes first...THEN gather! :-D God Bless!
Philip B. May 16, 2007, 9:24pm EDT
Emmett,

Of course I will pray for you and yours during these times you find yourself in as I think we all have gone through the pull of work and family from time to time but things really seem to be hitting you and yours pretty badly. I can't say that this will be the first time you may have heard or even thought about this but have you ever thought of working from home. I know there is allot of scams out there wanting you to send them your money but there are jobs which call on using a computer from home. Its just a thought, my way of maybe helping out! I'm sorry that I don't know your field of employment better to offer any other help at this time.
Emmett,
Good luck finding something else. I hope it works for you.
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 16, 2007, 11:30pm EDT
Philip, Thank you...

Susan... I have missed you and Liz and Bob ... and so many others Thank you.

Shelly Thank you...



Susan, do not worry Gather and computer use will be only as it can be, indeed my family comes first, much to the chagrin of my recent employer.

=+)
Sue * May 17, 2007, 12:02am EDT
I certainly don't have any answers, just prayers for you and your family. I will say that my son's anger issues didn't show up until he was past 21, and now we can't make him doing anything about them. If your son tends to show anger and hits when he is under stress, maybe you can get him some help with that now...and avoid some of what we have gone through with our oldest. Some personalities are more inclined to rage when the stress builds up, and in our son's case...we were lucky in some ways that there wasn't any stress really for him until he got older. The bad thing is, we didn't know in time to have a say in getting him some coping skills. I really hope you find a job that works for your family very soon. We have missed you around here, but it sounds like you have had many more important things to take care of.
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 17, 2007, 12:22am EDT
Thank you sue, you are very kind to let me know I have been missed... we all want and need to be missed when were away...

My son is autistic and we feel this was just the only way his fustration with the situation was able to get out... but along with all his education we will keep an eye on his anger and choices of how to express it..

Thank you...

It's nice to be home.... on Gather...
Anne Marie A. May 17, 2007, 12:37am EDT
I am glad you posted because I was wondering what happened. I will put you and your family in my prayers
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 17, 2007, 12:46am EDT
Anne Marie.... thank you.
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 17, 2007, 12:56am EDT
Anne Marie.... thank you.
Dale Coparanis May 17, 2007, 1:14am EDT
Emmett - Prayers from NH. I commend you on your priorities. If you trust in Him, He will come through - but you need to keep doing the groundwork as well. The Lord does not put His children through more than they can handle. The only thing He wants in return is for you to go to Him with your issues - which is what you're doing.
Dawn M May 17, 2007, 10:10am EDT
Sorry to hear what you have been dealing with Emmett. Sounds like the loss of job was meant to be under the circumstances, and probably for the best. I just pray that God will watch over you and bless & keep you and your family all in HIS wonderful and loving hands. Take care and God Bless you.
Laura H. May 17, 2007, 10:14am EDT
Wow, congrats, hang in there, good luck and God bless you.
Nana to Seven Cutiepies May 17, 2007, 10:48am EDT
All things happen for a reason. Congratulations on the new baby coming. You will find another job that suits your situation better. My husband had great luck with Monster.com, you may want to try that. My son-in-law is a SAHD for their two girls and found a job for two days a week, which I have them so this works well for us. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Welcome back.
Leigh V. May 17, 2007, 11:35am EDT
Your'e definitely in our prayers.
Emmett: There's nothing more that I can say, other than welcome back, and good luck with your job search.
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 17, 2007, 2:31pm EDT
Thank you one and all....
for the Love and the encouragement...

Dale thanks for getting the word out...
Connie C. May 17, 2007, 4:34pm EDT
Emmett,
How did I miss this article?
I am sorry that you lost your job but family is the most important thing as you know. I am glad that you found a new job and do hope Leslie is doing better. I wish I lived closer to you and your family. I would come and help you out.
Good luck and tell Leslie that I am happy that you two are expecting.
Just be patient with the child who is acting up, he will do better in the future, I am sure.
Connie C. May 17, 2007, 4:36pm EDT
Emmett,
Please tell Leslie that I wish her all the best and am thinking of her. :)
Mary Beth Magee May 17, 2007, 5:15pm EDT
Amen to all of the above!
Invader B R. May 17, 2007, 5:16pm EDT
I'll be praying for you and your family too. I'm sure your new baby will be great blessing for your family. Hold on, God will make things work out for the best.
Wendy F. May 17, 2007, 5:27pm EDT
I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a horrible time . That is terrible that your boss fired you for having to go to your wife . Gosh, when my husband Ron worked at a software firm in Montreal , and I was sick and had to go to the ER his boss told him his place was with his wife and sent him home .
Matthew Emmett Townsend May 17, 2007, 8:11pm EDT
thank you...too chocked up to write more... thank you

Oh, Connie, I have NO job at this moment... The new job was the one I lost.

Thank you and God Bless... walking a bumpy road with no shoes... it's how I feel... still I walk with hope/faith...
Connie C. May 17, 2007, 11:18pm EDT
Emmett,
Heavenly Father will take care of you as long as you take care of your family. You are doing that so I have no doubt that you will ok. Dont give up. Is there anything that I can do to help???
Marsha F. May 18, 2007, 8:18pm EDT
You and your family are in my prayers.
Emmett,
It goes without saying (but I'll say it anyways) that you've been missed. Here and at home, apparently and I have a feeling you'll find that losing that job was one of the best things that could've happened. Things happen for a reason - please tell Leslie that I hope she's feeling better. Don't worry, things will work out - you and your family are in my prayers and with hopes that you'll quickly find the "right" job for you and your family.
Hugs,
Marilyn
Lisa Frost May 25, 2007, 2:49pm EDT
Emmett, I am new here, but I am also adding you to my prayers. God has a way of telling us when we are getting in His way when He is trying to show us a better way. Just keep up your faith, and God's Blessings will be there when the time is right. Your family needs you, and your father in Heaven will neither leave nor forsake you. He has a plan, and you obviously are surrounded by love at home, and here on gather!
Sensational Sadie Sexy Senior Sitizen May 31, 2007, 8:53am EDT
Emmett, I believe strongly that you have made the right decision and you will find the job closer to home so that you are not away from family so much. I also have been through times like you are going through and God has seen me through and made me stronger. I have you in my prayers. May God Bless you.

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